I get activated she kisses another guy

[darawj]

So I get reactivated in the army and have to move to another state for a year. My girlfriend and I have/had a great relationship thus far. One week after I move she goes out with a friend winds up drinking, dancing, and kissing some other guy. At first she told me that he took advantage of her and I was furious ready to go AWOL and break a face. However after I do my research turns out the aforementioned is what actually happened. I call her the next day and gave her one chance to come clean and she did. She started crying and has apologized immensely since. The killer thing was I have a ring purchased and was planning to propose on my first leave that i get which is two months away. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Surrealist]

Urgh tough call. She didn't sleep with the guy but kissed and is extremely apologetic for it. You'll probably get mixed responses here with probably most saying don't go ahead with the proposal - just a guess here.

 

Does she normally display signs of flirting or waywardness? I'd be looking for these signs before popping the question myself. Two months is not a long time to wait and see if it is the right person to spend (hopefully) the rest of your life with. Maybe procrastinate on the proposal, but then you have the problem of being reactivated in the army. But imagine, what if you did pop the question, she accepts and while you're away you learn of other misbehaviours?

 

Hope you get some good advice and can come to a decision in your best interests mate.

[Mad Max]

You were only gone a week and she was messing around with some other guy. The only reason she came clean was because she had no other choice. She lied to start off with. Marrying her would be a huge mistake.

[phineas]

Look at it this way OP, would you ever do that to her?

 

Don't you deserve someone like yourself?

[Andy_K]

She lacks basic integrity. Do not consider marrying her until that changes. It doesn't matter how sorry she is, if her core values don't change she's going to hurt you further down the line.

[In The Green]

She is not committed nor wife material. I hope you can return the ring? Try to see that this occurred to warn you from making a mistake, be happy you are aware of her true character and lack of relationship stamina.

 

You will meet the right one eventually. I am sorry you are feeling hurt and disappointed.

[USMCHokie]

LAUNCH.

 

Some folks aren't cut out for relationships with servicemembers. Placing herself in a situation to get taken advantage of is just as problematic as her intentionally cheating. Especially after just one week of you being gone.