rose45 Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 my ex and i have been talking on and off for a year..i recently asked if he wanted to talk more often and he said ok and that he had no problem with that and i mentioned about meeting soon and he said ok to that as well. I even joked saying are you going to disappear now? and he said no and i said he can think about this if he wants and he said i am funny almost saying like i am being silly for asking this stuff. But i just wanted to get it out of the way that i would rather him take time than just tell me something and do the opposite. It took him about 10 days to call after that..and then i called the next time about 8 days later..and then i decided to call a few days later with the intention of asking about meeting within 2 weeks or so..i figured why not since our conversations were going well. He has ALOT of pride and kind of stubborn so i think it would be on me to ask. He seemed closed off this year as well; i think he didn't want to go through a bad break up again but now seems a little different. Maybe time was just needed to even get our heads in that direction. So i called early in the evening two thursdays ago. He had to call back because he was driving. He called back about an hour or more later which is fine and we spoke. The conversation seemed to be going really well. Dvd's were mentioned and he said i could borrow them. He mentioned teaching me this and that but joked saying there will be a fee..and then even joked how the apartment could use a cleaning. And i mentioned it is getting cold out and he said i could wear this funny hat of his..and i knew the one he was referring to so i just said ok i will wear it. It seemed like hints and stuff he would not say unless he meant it in some way..he would just avoid saying this altogether from knowing him. He wouldn't even put it out there..and it wasn't one comment either..it was 3 or 4 different things. I was going to ask when getting off the phone about meeting soon but then suddenly he said he has a call coming through and would call back..no call back..and its been 15 days. I don't think it was an emergency with that call. I just don't know what to think. ONE THING is when i first asked about talking more and meeting and he agreed..he called 10 days later..so maybe this is the same thing but just taking a little longer? I really don't know what to do; i am very tempted to just text him or something because I can't take this and just want to know something one way or the other. I can't just wipe my hands clean and forget it like others on here will probably say..so any other thoughts? Maybe i am panicking too much i don't know and i am just wondering what to think. I know once we are in person; feelings might develop again. It won't happen on the phone. Or maybe I am reacting normally which is pretty much panicking and feeling horrible because I really do want to see what could happen again once we are in person. I was ready to break down tonight and text him but wrote on here first. Does anyone have any thoughts? I am going through a very hard time. Thank you.
TomerT Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Hi, I don't know exactly all the details of your break up, but I can tell you from my perspective. If you really want to be with him and believe once you see each other it can be a "spark" again - I suggest just come to him: to his home after work, or to his work for a lunch or coffee break..doesn't matter...surprise him...I am sure he will appreciate it. This is what actually I am expecting from my x(cheating)gf
Author rose45 Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 we don't live close enough for me to pretend we are accidentally running into each other and i think it might look a little creepy for me to intentionally just go over there and try to meet him. Should I call tonight or text tonight..i am not sure if waiting another weeke is really going to do anything..i don't know if he is going to call, i kind of don't get it after our last conversation. I guess i will look pretty bad for calling...
TomerT Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Again, I do not know any details - but I know if my x will come to me (not accidentally !) I will very appreciate it. But if you don't feel like coming to him - so, yes, do call him. Again, for me every day that she is not calling she became a "stranger" for me (I do not know what is going on in her life) therefore I think it will be more difficult to fix something...Another option is to write him an email (if you sure he will read it) or even better a regular letter and send it to him or drop it in his mail box....where you can explain your self. I am sure he can not be indifferent to this. good luck
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