Titania22 Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Hey, I have started going out to nightclubs again after years. And I am getting attention, but I am still learning how to respond in the interaction with guys I am not interested in, but they are very assertive. For example, when guys ask 'what do I do?', my friend told me a good response was 'a little of this and a little of that', and I tried it last night and it really worked. Because answering honestly just bring up more questions from them. SO my question now is when they ask for a kiss and i say no, and they say 'it's just a kiss, cmon'. What can I say to get out of it? I don't want to kiss strangers I am not interested in. I don't want to be rude, as these guys haven't been rude to me, to them it's just a kiss no big deal. Please give me polite suggestions on how to respond, and I will try them out next time I go out. Thanks
somedude81 Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 "Sorry, I don't kiss guys I don't know." I'd also suggest walking away.
Cee Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Sometimes guys at the clubs are drunk and going from woman to woman to see what they can get. It's perfectly ok to walk away. In fact, sometimes it's the only thing that stops them. I feel your pain. I have left clubs b/c the aggressive behavior got to be too much. And I'm not dressed up or very pretty. Their behavior doesn't flatter me- it depresses me.
Author Titania22 Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 Sometimes guys at the clubs are drunk and going from woman to woman to see what they can get. It's perfectly ok to walk away. In fact, sometimes it's the only thing that stops them. I feel your pain. I have left clubs b/c the aggressive behavior got to be too much. And I'm not dressed up or very pretty. Their behavior doesn't flatter me- it depresses me. Yeah, I have experienced this before, and taking off to another part of the club or leaving altogether is what I have always done in the past. But I am older now, and I thought maybe there is a more mature response then hiding. As why should my night have to be ruined, because of some guy, who won't except straight rejection. Also this guy was out with a large mixed group of friends and relatives, and he seemed stoned cold sober. I think ultimately you are right, I should have just walked away. But I still think it would be handy to have a phrase, something to come back to the it's only a (little) kiss, what's the big deal? Because I have had it used on me more then once.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 If they say "...it's just a kiss" just tell 'em, it's just a no.
Author Titania22 Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 If they say "...it's just a kiss" just tell 'em, it's just a no. Thankyou, Awesome. I will try it when I go out in a few hours. Thankyou.
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