angielove Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Hey guys, Long story short: Exactly a week ago I took this guy home after a big night out. I only vaguely know him through friends. We made out and he went down on me but when I tried to initiate sex he couldn't get hard. (As you may have seen in my post on the sexual health forum lol). We ended up not having sex because of that. In the morning he was very nice, we got along well and so I gave him my number. The next day I msged him "Hey, how did work go last night? I had to work 8 hours without a break :(" And he msged back "Yeah it went well... only worked 3 hours cuz it was so slow. How'd your assignment go?" And I msged back "Five hours late but at least I handed it in lol!" And that was it. I haven't heard from him since. Could the awkward sexual situation be enough for him not to call/msg me? Is there a chance he is embarrassed about it and so doesn't want to see me? Or is it just that he is plain not interested? And therefore could the sex issue be because he wasn't attracted to me? Should I contact him or just let it go? Thanks xx
Andy_K Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I think it's pretty likely he's utterly mortified about it. No guy wants that to happen to him, let alone first time he's with a girl. What's tricky is that not all guys will respond to it the same way. Some will be eager for a second chance to 'make up for it', others might drop off the radar so they can pretend it never happened, and some could be terrified of it happening again. You might have to do the initiating to put him at ease. Also, chance of it being because he finds you unattractive is virtually zero. More likely a combination of him being totally wasted and/or nervous
Mellisa Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Hey guys, Long story short: Exactly a week ago I took this guy home after a big night out. I only vaguely know him through friends. We made out and he went down on me but when I tried to initiate sex he couldn't get hard. (As you may have seen in my post on the sexual health forum lol). We ended up not having sex because of that. In the morning he was very nice, we got along well and so I gave him my number. The next day I msged him "Hey, how did work go last night? I had to work 8 hours without a break :(" And he msged back "Yeah it went well... only worked 3 hours cuz it was so slow. How'd your assignment go?" And I msged back "Five hours late but at least I handed it in lol!" And that was it. I haven't heard from him since. Could the awkward sexual situation be enough for him not to call/msg me? Is there a chance he is embarrassed about it and so doesn't want to see me? Or is it just that he is plain not interested? And therefore could the sex issue be because he wasn't attracted to me? Should I contact him or just let it go? Thanks xx So he went on a week with no contacting you at all? Dont want to judge too quick, but that is not a good sign...Depends on how interested you are, if you are interested, doesnt hurt to send him one more message to test it out so that you'll know for sure his intention.If you are not that interested, just let it go
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Could the awkward sexual situation be enough for him not to call/msg me? Is there a chance he is embarrassed about it and so doesn't want to see me? Or is it just that he is plain not interested? And therefore could the sex issue be because he wasn't attracted to me? Should I contact him or just let it go? Very fair considerations indeed. I say that IF you are strongly interested, you just initiate communication with him, and IF it is merely his discomfort over the sexual struggle of the evening which holds him back, he will respond with considerable interest. If his interest in you is lacking for other reasons, he may not return the communication at all. The lone performance struggle need not have been indicative of a long-term thing. It is a very tricky wiring that connects a guy's aroused mind to his aroused member. (any third-party thought or event could easily change everything like that)
xpaperxcutx Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I think girls should be reminded that sex or semi- sex in this point doesn't necessarily equate: I think he likes and we're going to be together now! The guy couldn't get his rocks off, granted he might pass it off for whiskey d-ck. But you shouldn't stress yourself out over a ONS. Most guys put girls in said category anyways, especially if they go down on each other the very first night they met.
MyNameIsJonas Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Most guys put girls in said category anyways, especially if they go down on each other the very first night they met. Quoted for truth. No offense OP, but if a woman took me home (or vice versa) after we just met at a bar, I wouldn't consider her to be "dateable."
Author angielove Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Haha! Well I'm glad we're all on the same page, because I don't want to date him! Honestly, I would just like to meet up with him again cuz we got along well and he gives good head But I don't want to bug him if he is not interested, hence why I was asking if he seemed interested or not! But I gotta agree with some people - that if he actually was interested he would have contacted me by now! Regardless of how embarrassing the situation may have been for him. So I think I may have to forget this one! Thanks for all the advice guys xx
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 he gives good head Uhhhhhhhh, does that mean he's a switch-hitter??? OR do you mean "... face" ??
Author angielove Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 Uhhhhhhhh, does that mean he's a switch-hitter??? OR do you mean "... face" ?? Hahaha I mean face
Something_Awesome Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 He may not be mortified. I as a guy was in that very same scenario. After I went down on a girl I kept myself from getting hard so that she knew I didn't wanna do it. Of course at the time (only now thinking about it as you bring it up) I didn't think she would think I had an erectile disfunction lol. I just didn't want to have sex with her yet.
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