Over after 2 1/2 years but I still love her.

[alwayshoping]

Hey guys,

 

So I have been reading lots on the forum over the past 4 weeks and I can't believe how many people are going through a break up! I really thought I was the only one and it's helped me out so much!

 

My story is long but I hope you can bear with me to offer some advice Please.

So I went out with the most amazing girl this world will ever see, for 2 1/2 years.

It was long distance but we would see each other every weekend or every other weekend as we live 6 hours away from one another. I'm at medical school and she has recently gotten a high flying job in London thanks to my support keeping her focused on not settling for some job she wouldn’t be happy in!

The relationship was truly amazing; we had so so so many good times together. I was worried when I initially got with her, because she was sleeping with a boy who had a gf, he promised he would leave her but just used her for sex which annoyed me. He stopped talking to her when his gf nearly found out. Anyways, she never deleted his number which annoyed me and occasionally he would text her to which she wouldn’t reply. She would occasionally text him too which she said was down to boredom and he would or would not reply.

To cut this story short she was being off with me for three weekends in a row when we didn’t see each other (I was trying to revise for my exams). I eventually got so worried I decided I needed to see her and let her know she was my world. I drove down and managed to get to her house an hour early so I could get her a card and flowers and chocolates and wine and her fav takeaway. When she arrived she had a huge go at me for coming down and buying her stuff which I thought was odd!

I ignored it and she said she wasn’t hungry and I shouldn’t have come! We sat down to eat even though she wasn’t hungry and she got a text from that guy saying "well you had better have the conversation with him then ha xxx!" she immediately deleted it but I had seen it due to the iphone showing you the text.

I couldn’t eat even though I hadn’t eaten all day and felt sick so asked what was up. She said the text referred to them talking again which she promised me she would never do. I told her I wasn’t a fool and to tell me so just broke up with me and cried for 2 hours. I left and drove home still hungry but so upset and nauseous. I didn’t talk to her for a day.

But then the urge to call and her constantly texting just made me give in. I decided I needed to see her as she said she only told him she wanted to break up because he asked after her phone had accidently called him! I didn’t know what to believe. I was driving to see her and make things better as I know she loves me but decided this time to give her a heads up. She begged me not to come that day and that any other day would be better but couldn’t give me a reason why not today. I had had enough and said today or nothing and hung up. She called an hour later and said okay and I didn’t know why but I couldn’t figure out why she didn’t want me to come today. I went and we just kissed and snuggled the whole night (plus a little more) and I left with nothing resolved. She said her heart wanted to stay with me but her head said the distance was too much and she wanted a guy who she could see every day (like the guy who let me know the relationship was over via text and who no longer has a gf?).

Since then she wanted to be best friends as we where when we were going out but I couldn’t. I still love her, and decided to call her and tell her, but she just diverted me to answer phone and let me leave a msg by turning her phone off. She text me in the morning and said "I think it's best if you just call me when you want to be friends" and since then I have had 4 weeks NC. I hoped she would change her mind and call me like I had called her but nothing. 3 weeks ago she told a close friend it had been nearly 2 weeks since the split and I should be over her! I couldn’t believe It and nor could our mutual friend so she also stopped talking to her. Then I found out that’s just what she said to me, she actually talks to my ex all the time, and for some reason now fully supports her! I'm not sure if she cheated on me as throughout the relationship she has always got texts off guys I didn’t know telling her how hot she is and that’s annoyed me but I've let it slide because I was her man. I was just annoyed she consulted a guy she only had sex with about breaking up with me when she has at least 5 very very close friends who she could have talked with instead. Instead she not only discussed it with them but let him know before I did!

I got so angry when I she couldn’t give me any answers. Then I would get so emotional and tell her I still loved her. I think I annoyed her with my hot and cold mood swings but I was hurt by the girl I wanted to marry! We had even discussed our life in the future and the wedding we wanted just a few weeks before the break up! I just don’t get it!

Her answers for why she broke up with me:

The distance is too much (even we have been okay for the past 2 1/2 years)

Your too nice and deserve someone better than me

It's getting less exciting

I want someone like you that lives in London and I can see every day, if you lived here I would stay with you!

Maybe in the future when you’re a doctor we can get back together.

 

So that’s it really. She has been spending lots of time with my best girl-friend and recently she has started backing my ex up even though initially she was on my side and said the way she broke up with me and the speed of it considering she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me was so out the blue she must be cheating on me with this guy she used to sleep with!

 

I'm at my wits end. I have so much work to do for upcoming exams and all I want to think about is her! I make myself work at least 4 hours every day and stop thinking of her but when the works done and I lie in bed all I think about is why I've lost the love of my life and why she hasn’t even missed me enough to call! She has already taken my best friend (girl) away from me even though she doesn’t like her! It's actually crazy. I try go out and surprisingly girls have already asked me out or eyed me up but I feel like I've lost my soul and can't communicate with them or be friendly and funny as I'm hurting so much! Ironically I think I'm doing a good job of hiding it as people who don’t know me think I'm normally like this and must obviously like it! Or they are feeling sorry for me!

 

Should I call her?

My thought was I shouldn’t, if she missed me like I miss her she would be calling me!

Plus I guess she needs time to miss me.

God I miss her, I know she wasn’t perfect and never complemented me but I loved her despite all that, even with guys all over her. So what do you guys think? Did she cheat or wanted to cheat?

Why did she end it? Because when she did she admitted she wanted to see how the weekend went before deciding but because I saw the text she had to do it! She even said she wished I would fight for her but she said she knew I couldn’t after getting the wind knocked out of me by getting that text!

I saw on her fb (which I've unadded her as a friend now) that guys are already asking her out!

Crazy that I'm jealous because girls are after me too but I really wanted to spend the rest of my life trying to make her happy. I know she still wears the diamond pendant I got her for a few months ago and my pictures are still up on her wall. So what the hell do I do???

I'm just so confused and really need people's advice.

Do you think NC is helping as I feel like I'm going crazy and just want to hear her voice!

I miss the girl that used to hold my hand and give me snuggles and kisses. You know?

 

Thank you so much if you have read all of this and offer advice xxxx

Edited October 15, 2010 by alwayshoping
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[swfc_77]

mate, im going through the same thing. my ex lives 1 mile up the road and goes into the pubs i use to drink in wearing very little, chatting and flirting with people i use to regard as friends.

 

i am left wanting all the answers but like i was told she prob doesn't know them herself.

 

i constantly think about my ex but i keep telling myself its over, its over.

 

we've been split for 4 weeks and i can honestly say if she turned up now on my doorstep i'd turn her away. i miss her like mad and wonder whats she is doing and with who but........ i really dont give a **** anymore this is how you have got to think now.

 

regarding facebook i would delete your account now because its more trouble then its worth, i got rid of mine in april when we first broke up and i dont miss it at all, i dont want people knowing my business nor do i want to know theirs, it was easier to just get rid off it than deleting all the old photo's, answering people questions and of course looking at her profile. my ex put on her "wall" a week afetr we'd split and put "im so happy" i was torturing myself with it.

 

i was getting private messages from girls, she was getting private messages from lads (loads) its just not worth the hassle, i would rather meet some1 in person than sit typing to some1 i regard as a good friend.

 

its also hard going NC but as i found out the other day when i replied to her text, it just sends you back to square 1 having any contact at all. walk away with your head up mate dont make the same mistake i did and give out second chance's because it will more than likely happen again and believe me its worse second time round.

 

get your exams sorted mate, they are whats important now. dont let your ex shape your future because she is no longer any part of it.

 

the thing that's pushing me on is i am starting to realise that if i work hard in life and do the best i can then 1 day i will turn around and thank HER for leaving ME, as its made me a better person. im already starting to think i had a lucky escape. you dont want to be messed around like i did with second chances.

 

my ex is chucking herself around the town wearing next to nothing drinking lots. this is where i live its in my face, at least you dont have to see it as she is 4 hours away. it could be worse for you.

 

dont contact her and dont reply to her, i leave my phone in the van while i work because if not i would be checking it every 5 mins.

 

take some time for yourself, buy some new clothes, read things on here, go out with good friends, have a few beers. dont sit around on facebook or phone watching because you will see things you dont like and it puts you back to square 1.

 

im not interested in any other girl at the moment beyonce could walk past me and i wouldn't batter an eye lid, but im confident that over time i will start looking again thinking "she's alright"

 

it gets better, honestly but you have got to let her go.

 

hope this helps. and good luck

Edited October 15, 2010 by swfc_77

[alwayshoping]

Thank you for your reply!

Ive been sat here just hoping someone was going through the same thing as me (as cruel as that sounds). It helps to know that people out there are feeling/experiencing similar things.

 

I am slightly glad she left me if as she obviously didnt respect me enough to tell me about the break-up first. Im really impressed you would turn her away. I would like to think i would do the same thing too but only because of my pride, if my heart had any say in the matter then i would be at her door right now on my knees begging her to think about it.

 

I know she wont do better than me as i really did make her the center of my world, and made sure she never wanted for anything but i guess i gave too much, and she gave too little. its just hard sometimes when you think about them and know that if they just put in alittle bit more effort they could have really had your heart for life and you would have spent the rest of yours trying to make them happy!

 

I laughed when i read that beyonce thing! haha! it feels exactly like me! my friends think im crazy for passing up chances to sleep with some hotties but i really dont think they even comapare to my ex at all (even though in reality they are probably hotter). I just cant imagine forming such a connection with someone again! oh well i really hope time heals all wounds, but i have a feeling because this was the first time i really ever let me heart go to someone then it will take a very very long time!

 

I just cant beleive my ex is now so cold with me! no texts calls emails, nothing! Perhaps thats a good thing but starting to steal old friends of mine is not on, telling them i should be over her after a few weeks? why are people so heartless these days?

 

Surely if you love someone then you give them all you have? and if its ends then it takes longer than 2 weeks to get over it! i mean we didnt just date but we were best freinds for 2 years before we dated so i thought i knew her! now it feels as if ive been dating the devil and shes been wearing sheeps clothing for the past 2 1/2 years!

 

god i was once run over by a bus and i can tell you now that it hurt alot less than this has.

 

I know ive got to just keep going out and trying to have fun i just wish i was genuinly having a good time and not thinking about how much i miss her! we used to call and text all day everyday! talk when we woke up, went to sleep, had lunch and walked home etc and text at all other times and now nothing! i just hope one day she will realise what she missed out on as i honestly treated her like the only girl in the world, like my princess! i just hope the kitten i bought her (which is now a 2yr old cat) reminds her of me everytime she looks at him otherwise maybe she really didnt have a heart afterall.

 

i hope everyone on this forum does find happiness soon as after reading most of the posts on here i really think we all deserve it!

[alwayshoping]

mate, im going through the same thing. my ex lives 1 mile up the road and goes into the pubs i use to drink in wearing very little, chatting and flirting with people i use to regard as friends.

 

i am left wanting all the answers but like i was told she prob doesn't know them herself.

 

i constantly think about my ex but i keep telling myself its over, its over.

 

we've been split for 4 weeks and i can honestly say if she turned up now on my doorstep i'd turn her away. i miss her like mad and wonder whats she is doing and with who but........ i really dont give a **** anymore this is how you have got to think now.

 

regarding facebook i would delete your account now because its more trouble then its worth, i got rid of mine in april when we first broke up and i dont miss it at all, i dont want people knowing my business nor do i want to know theirs, it was easier to just get rid off it than deleting all the old photo's, answering people questions and of course looking at her profile. my ex put on her "wall" a week afetr we'd split and put "im so happy" i was torturing myself with it.

 

i was getting private messages from girls, she was getting private messages from lads (loads) its just not worth the hassle, i would rather meet some1 in person than sit typing to some1 i regard as a good friend.

 

its also hard going NC but as i found out the other day when i replied to her text, it just sends you back to square 1 having any contact at all. walk away with your head up mate dont make the same mistake i did and give out second chance's because it will more than likely happen again and believe me its worse second time round.

 

get your exams sorted mate, they are whats important now. dont let your ex shape your future because she is no longer any part of it.

 

the thing that's pushing me on is i am starting to realise that if i work hard in life and do the best i can then 1 day i will turn around and thank HER for leaving ME, as its made me a better person. im already starting to think i had a lucky escape. you dont want to be messed around like i did with second chances.

 

my ex is chucking herself around the town wearing next to nothing drinking lots. this is where i live its in my face, at least you dont have to see it as she is 4 hours away. it could be worse for you.

 

dont contact her and dont reply to her, i leave my phone in the van while i work because if not i would be checking it every 5 mins.

 

take some time for yourself, buy some new clothes, read things on here, go out with good friends, have a few beers. dont sit around on facebook or phone watching because you will see things you dont like and it puts you back to square 1.

 

im not interested in any other girl at the moment beyonce could walk past me and i wouldn't batter an eye lid, but im confident that over time i will start looking again thinking "she's alright"

 

it gets better, honestly but you have got to let her go.

 

hope this helps. and good luck

 

btw do you have a thread? what happened with you and your ex?

have you had 4 wks NC? God im really trying to take your advice and have been over the past 4wks but some days im up and happy aka when im out or buy new clothes and other days im down and feel like the biggest loser in the world! Bipolar or what! and this is the first time my emotions have been so yo-yo in style!

[swfc_77]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t249380/

 

theres mine, that was yesterday.

 

today at work is the first day i'v not mentioned her to my co-worker (we work together everyday) he was getting tired off it, my parents were sick of hearing about her as were other good friends.

 

i got back with her in july but i had booked 2 weeks in jamaica (when we were seperated) and she spoilt my time over there. i missed her, slept nearly all day just to make the days go quicker so i could get home to see her

 

i also spent £500.00 on my phone bill, she even said she would pay for me to come back after a week (immature) as she was missing me so bad

 

i met a great looking girl over there and she was 100% better than my ex, but i didn't cheat or touch because i regard myself as a nice, honest, straight up kind of guy. i wouldn't like it done to me, so i wouldn't do it to any1 else. all this of course was a wasted oppertunity to have a good time and relax from work. i spent £4000 to get me over her and now im back heartbroken.

 

she lived with me also we together re-designed my bedroom (£1500), i bought all the furniture she just picked what she liked it was all to make her comfortable i now have to sleep in that room, in that bed that we shared for 20 months alone, she even brought a kitten home last year without asking, but we've all grown to love the little blighter.

 

she doesn't give a **** about him now, she pretends too just to keep in touch with me but im starting to see her for what she really is. dont get me wrong she is a great girl but its when it suits her.

 

for example she only really texts me in the week when she is college or working and her friends are not with her usually a tues or weds night.

The weekends she's not bothered about me as she's out with her friends, thats just the way it goes. i could allow myself to be picked up and tossed aside but im better than that.

 

loving some1 and losing them WAS one of my greatest fears as i, like you dont give out my trust too easy. she did this TWICE not only to me but to my family also. i even told her after she left the first time, "losing you was harder than losing my close relative" and it was because i knew my relative was gone and not coming back, but she still did it again.

[alwayshoping]

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t249380/

 

theres mine, that was yesterday.

 

today at work is the first day i'v not mentioned her to my co-worker (we work together everyday) he was getting tired off it, my parents were sick of hearing about her as were other good friends.

 

i got back with her in july but i had booked 2 weeks in jamaica (when we were seperated) and she spoilt my time over there. i missed her, slept nearly all day just to make the days go quicker so i could get home to see her

 

i also spent £500.00 on my phone bill, she even said she would pay for me to come back after a week (immature) as she was missing me so bad

 

i met a great looking girl over there and she was 100% better than my ex, but i didn't cheat or touch because i regard myself as a nice, honest, straight up kind of guy. i wouldn't like it done to me, so i wouldn't do it to any1 else. all this of course was a wasted oppertunity to have a good time and relax from work. i spent £4000 to get me over her and now im back heartbroken.

 

she lived with me also we together re-designed my bedroom (£1500), i bought all the furniture she just picked what she liked it was all to make her comfortable i now have to sleep in that room, in that bed that we shared for 20 months alone, she even brought a kitten home last year without asking, but we've all grown to love the little blighter.

 

she doesn't give a **** about him now, she pretends too just to keep in touch with me but im starting to see her for what she really is. dont get me wrong she is a great girl but its when it suits her.

 

for example she only really texts me in the week when she is college or working and her friends are not with her usually a tues or weds night.

The weekends she's not bothered about me as she's out with her friends, thats just the way it goes. i could allow myself to be picked up and tossed aside but im better than that.

 

loving some1 and losing them WAS one of my greatest fears as i, like you dont give out my trust too easy. she did this TWICE not only to me but to my family also. i even told her after she left the first time, "losing you was harder than losing my close relative" and it was because i knew my relative was gone and not coming back, but she still did it again.

 

god its wierd how similar our situation is!

I wonder how much care she takes of our cat but know she doesnt love it as much as me! my ex only talked to me when it suited her and when it didnt she would just ignore me too! As for friends and family well, they sick of hearing about it! im ready not to speak to them about it anymore as its not fair and makes me sound so dull esp when i used to be the life of the party! now im just the heartbroken guy in the corner talking to the odd person here and there!

 

I just cant beleive she would treat me like that! I know its cliched but i really dont want to get with anyone because i can, I'd much rather it be for the right reason such as an attraction to there personality (and obv looks!) so that i can love them! I just hate the fact she is now going to get abused by idiots who just want her for sex and dont even realise underneath is a really vulnerable lovely girl.

 

the last thing is what up with the switch my ex switched on that stopped her even caring about me! why would you discuss marridge etc and what house we want and then dump me two weeks later! crazy girl! i really think maybe she was immature and after 2 1/2 years she expected things to be just as exciting as the first day we got together! something she made little effort to do, but something i was always aware of and really tried to do! god i sold my ps3 twice and my iphone so i could whisk her away to paris and egypt last year as i didnt want her to think people working were better than me and could treat her better!

Its just becoming a dr is my dream and i hoped she had stuck around long enough to see what i would have done for her if she had just waited for me to start earning money!

 

its crazy that she has such a hold on me and yet i know she doesnt give a *****, but i guess the right girl would have not text and met up with other guys right?

 

once she got a text of some random saying " but i think your hot and i dont care xxxxxxxx" i woke her up and asked what it was about, she said he was drunk and that it was nothing and she had never text him and he must have got her no. off a friend! (this was 2months ago and i let it slide as i loved her and didnt want to argue). I wish i had now!

 

Last yr her fb profile was her in a bikini on one of her guy friends laps, she immedietly took it off when me and her sister said it was out of line.

 

But now i realise this really wouldnt have happened if she had truely loved and respected me so perhaps its a good thing we are over. I just wish my heart was as rational as my head!

[swfc_77]

you say "I just hate the fact she is now going to get abused by idiots who just want her for sex and dont even realise underneath is a really vulnerable lovely girl."

 

this is not the girl you knew or loved, i heard an old friend of mine had his arms around my ex last week begging her to go back to his. he's a loser. he sleeps with any1. if thats what she wants out of life then she can have it because thats not the girl i fell in love with.

 

just like my ex, your ex is not a vulnerable lovely girl, like with me she prob acted like this to get what she wants from you.

 

i own my own business, im 23 i earn a very good living. i splashed out on gifts, holidays, mini-breaks away, ect when i said we re-designed my room for her i didn't just give it a lick of paint i ripped the window out, moved walls and re-plastered it. just for her to feel comfy. lol

 

it still was not enough. women like that always want more and more and more.

 

its called high maintenence

 

your girl sounds the same, she wants things she cant have, when she gets them she gets bored, wants something else ie single-love-single-love.

 

my ex says she wants to be alone and single right now, but if she's not with any1 yet she will be soon because its just the way she works inside.

 

women these days seem to want comfort and love and when they get it they want independence and freedom and when they get that they change their minds again. immaturity if you ask me.

 

"I want someone like you that lives in London and I can see every day, if you lived here I would stay with you!"

 

that makes me laugh, she is stringing you along to see if you would say "oh, i'll come to london then" walk away, you'll thank yourself sooner than you think now you have been on here.

[swfc_77]

i also found binning anything that reminded me of her, her old clothes, shoes, unwanted make-up, teddys, photos ect get rid of everything even hairclips which turn up every where in our house. she took the stuff she wanted and expected me to get rid of the **** she didn't want.

 

i'v moved my bed, changed the duvet, redecorated the staircase just to change my life and i can now think that things have changed since i was with her.

 

sad but it helps me move on

[alwayshoping]

i also found binning anything that reminded me of her, her old clothes, shoes, unwanted make-up, teddys, photos ect get rid of everything even hairclips which turn up every where in our house. she took the stuff she wanted and expected me to get rid of the **** she didn't want.

 

i'v moved my bed, changed the duvet, redecorated the staircase just to change my life and i can now think that things have changed since i was with her.

 

sad but it helps me move on

 

The wierd thing for me is even if I throw everything out she will still be on my brain all the time! I mean even going out with my mates tonight (who happened to be all couples) was depressing as hell and made me think of her like crazy! It does make me wonder of she if feeling the same but then I think if she was then she really would be the girl I fell for and be begging me to take her back! The irony that I went out to stop thinking about her yet it's all my brain ever does. First thought when I wake and lost thought before I sleep! I just wish the rest of the day my brain would give me a break but nope. Love. Crazy crazy love. It really does make you "brain damaged" as an old friend of mine used to say lol

[Billie The Puppet]

It seems like most of the break ups are however the 2-2.5 years. I was 2.75 years. Like once the honeymoon stage ran out they lost interest.

[alwayshoping]

It seems like most of the break ups are however the 2-2.5 years. I was 2.75 years. Like once the honeymoon stage ran out they lost interest.

 

True. But do they believe a relationship with another guy will be any better after a similar length of time? Because I really doubt that! It's silly for them to think the grass will be greener as let's be honest it rarely ever is!

[Billie The Puppet]

I meant to write hovering,

 

As for the Grass is Greener that's a battle we can never win. Personally I feel if one is left and a new relationship starts almost instantly it is that that person was won over/ stolen ie grass is greener effect. If they remain single for a lengthy time then it isn't grass is greener it was lost spark/ problems in the relationship.

 

As for your question.

 

I don't know but I know I won't wait to find out. I think my ex's feelings are intensified in her new relationship because she is getting the attention she wanted from me with the new guy. Yes attention dwindled a bit but it did on both sides not just me for her but her for me also. Heck I had to ask for hugs and kisses from her.

 

Now because she craved it and is getting it the emotions are strong so the phase could be just as long, longer or shorter perhaps she may become too needy, affectionate etc. All I know is now it's no longer my business.

 

Of course I am still hurt, want it back can never have it back the way I want it because even given the chance I'd always be second guessing. It seems my opinions are starting to change as days go by.

 

I was once told that my ex will come back to me Tomorrow. That sentence still rings true but that being said Tomorrow never comes as today becomes yesterday, tomorrow becomes today and the day after the new today is tomorrow which never comes because the cycle is repeated.

[Ajax]

 

 

Of course I am still hurt, want it back can never have it back the way I want it because even given the chance I'd always be second guessing. It seems my opinions are starting to change as days go by.

 

I was once told that my ex will come back to me Tomorrow. That sentence still rings true but that being said Tomorrow never comes as today becomes yesterday, tomorrow becomes today and the day after the new today is tomorrow which never comes because the cycle is repeated.

 

 

Yeah. Two months ago when she broke up with me I would have given anything to have her back. The fact is though that I put everything I had into the relationship. I have no regrets about how much attention I gave her, telling her what she meant to me, or things i did for her. Her friends and family all approved of me, I made her coworkers jealous. I was the "good boyfriend." She said she loved me and was lucky to have me five days before she left me. I've spent two months putting myself back together. My faith in her is broken now.

 

I don't think I would take her back now if given the chance. I love her. I miss her. I want her. But I just don't trust her not to bail on me again out of the blue. She doesn't deserve me anymore.

Edited October 16, 2010 by Ajax

[alwayshoping]

Yeah. Two months ago when she broke up with me I would have given anything to have her back. The fact is though that I put everything I had into the relationship. I have no regrets about how much attention I gave her, telling her what she meant to me, or things i did for her. Her friends and family all approved of me, I made her coworkers jealous. I was the "good boyfriend." She said she loved me and was lucky to have me five days before she left me. I've spent two months putting myself back together. My faith in her is broken now.

 

I don't think I would take her back now if given the chance. I love her. I miss her. I want her. But I just don't trust her not to bail on me again out of the blue. She doesn't deserve me anymore.

 

I dont know man, your alot stronger than me.

 

If she asked for me back and i mean really really tried to show me shes changed and is alot less selfish i would take her back in a heartbeat! The thing is the longer we are apart the worse i think she is as a person and the less chance she has. Right now the tanks almost empty but i think a drop of hope remains.

[alwayshoping]

I was once told that my ex will come back to me Tomorrow. That sentence still rings true but that being said Tomorrow never comes as today becomes yesterday, tomorrow becomes today and the day after the new today is tomorrow which never comes because the cycle is repeated.

 

thats the best saying ive heard in a long time.

 

I like to think perhaps tommorrow will bring a new girl though as im sick and tired of being the person the girl walks all over. i want to start afresh and actually get my self respect back.

[Billie The Puppet]

thats the best saying ive heard in a long time.

 

I like to think perhaps tommorrow will bring a new girl though as im sick and tired of being the person the girl walks all over. i want to start afresh and actually get my self respect back.

 

One day you will find a new girl but not tomorrow because tomorrow never comes.

[alwayshoping]

One day you will find a new girl but not tomorrow because tomorrow never comes.

 

haha philosophy eh? i like it.

 

[sIZE=3]True love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.[/sIZE]

[shayan]

Stop being so naive, and so damn love-blind! I say this so harshly for your own good. I am also a medical student and if I let stupid **** like women sieze up the majority of my day I think I'd slap myself. She left you for a reason, and she is obviously talking to someone else already. Can't you put two and two together. Don't be her friend she sounds like an oppurtunistic bicth, no contact all the way, "perhaps we can get back together once your a doctor, and after I've spread my legs for x amount of men." Let go broski and find someone of your own caliber. And please don't do the whole lovie dovey she is the model of my world thing, she doesn't complement me but she's perfect spiel again, women take that as an invitation to use you as a first class door-mat. Your going to be a doctor you know how awesome that is, forget this BIACTH!

[skydiveaddict]

Sometimes easier said than done, Shayan

[alwayshoping]

Sometimes easier said than done, Shayan

 

exactly! although it does get easier with time.

 

I think im ready to move on! I just hope she keeps away as contact with her may put me back at step one!

 

I just want to get on with my work and start meeting nice people so I can one day find the lovely lady that I can treat like a princess and grow old with!

 

Thanks for the advice guys x

[shayan]

don't treat them like princesses. Uhhh, treat them as equals.

[swfc_77]

it doesn't matter how you treat them, i treat mine like an equal but i was there for her emotionally and supportive towards her. she still sh.it on me from a great height..... twice

 

some women are just like that, you get good 1s and bad 1s.

 

i have my good days and bad days its not getting much easier but its not getting worse which is good.

 

mine was immature, too young, grass is greener, being single, if its meant to be, its meant to be. yours sound the same fella

 

i think we'll be ok, just give it time.

[shayan]

guys women like men, who are firm and don't treat them special. And I'll let you in on a little secret, most of them like men who are dominant and show that they don't care too much (I don't mean being an insensitive douche) what the girls says, because they are sure of themselves. So don't act like pussies, don't let them even get the chance to disrespect you, and I promise you the qaulity of your relationships will improve!