We broke up on good terms, hopeful for future but not sure how to act.?

[Superdude87]

Me and my most recent girlfriend dated for only about 5 months but right from the start it was just so easy, uncomplicated, and fun so we clicked right away. She is honestly the best girl I've dated so far. I don't have a TON of dating experience under my belt, but this one takes the cake easily. I'm feeling now that I never really told her this enough, or was clear how into her I really was...my last gf cheated and walked all over me (her ex did the same to her) so I think we were both a little closed off and guarded (we discussed this).

 

Anyway, she decided last month to move cross country to live closer to family and for possible job opportunities. I didn't really put up a fight to her leaving, I wanted her to be happy and do what she needed to do so I was supportive, although I made it clear that she shouldn't mistake that for me not caring about our relationship. So for the next month prior to her leaving she would still call everyday, we still hung out, just as friends I guess you'd say. I was fine with it, I really valued her as a friend at the very least.

 

So she's over there now, 3000 miles away and I'm kinda realizing I maybe should have made it more clear how I felt, although this is a bad time to finally tell her. I held alot inside over the last few weeks because she was really needing to get away for a while, move closer to family, etc...and I didn't want to make things complicated. I thought it would be easier to let her go, but I'm really starting to miss her.

 

She's fairly sure that this is only a temporary move and she'll be back next summer. I know that's a long way away and time has a way of healing these things, but I would most definitely want to give it another shot. I'm just not sure how to act in the meantime. Do I tell her this? Do I act like I don't care and just be her friend? Do I lay off the contact and make her wonder? Kind of a strange situation because it ended on good terms, no hard feelings and we're still friends...I've talked to her a few times since she left on the phone and via Facebook. When she told me she wanted to move she made it clear there was nothing wrong with our relationship it was just bad timing and moving away had been on her mind before meeting me.

 

Any advice? Appreciated, thanks!

[fabio10]

I get you, its like say the way you feel and you may regret it or dont say it and you may regret it . I think if you two had a good relationship that will do the talking for you more than anything you could say at this junction, I think keep in limited contact there is no harm in that if you both are on good terms, and maybe even pay a visit down there but dont put your life on total hold if you aint sure she is going to move back !

[SithLord]

Move on with Life, date other people, focus on yourself. If she happens to move back for good and ya reconnect cool. Until then move forward with life. Dont act like Earth and orbit around her.

[Superdude87]

Yeah I'm not planning on putting my life on hold at all, I just wasn't sure how to handle the situation with our friendship. Obviously we started as more than friends, I just don't want to get lumped into the "exs I'm still friends with" category and nothing more...so really not sure how to act, how much contact to have, etc...

 

And yea I'm not completely sure she's gonna move back but she is fairly certain she will, unless an amazing job opportunity arises.

[SithLord]

treat her like a friend, no past talking or anything.

[kaycstamper]

Stay in touch, be careful not to appear needy. Happy and well balanced is appealing. If she comes back maybe the two of you can reconnect.