ToriAmos Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 So I'll try not to give too much back story (doesn't everyone say that though?). I'm dating the sweetest guy and our relationship is going very well. I'm 21 and he's 22, and we've been dating for 7 months now. He lives about 30 minutes away and I have a crazy busy schedule, so we see each other 3-4 times a week. Good communication, interests, sex, and feelings. We've had a couple of fights, more like disagreements, but we've worked it out quickly and deal well with each other. So here goes my braging about him. We've both met each other's family and his really likes me. I had to have surgery recently and he was amazing. I was stuck in the bathroom for 20 minutes at a time sick and he just sat outside and waited, his face was so worried and he saw me at my worst. For our 6 month anniversary he got me roses. We'd talked before and he knew my favorite is purple, but he read that it meant love at first sight and that it didn't last long, so he bought ones that meant more. We talked in the first 3 months or so about LDRs. He said he would never do that. Just a month ago, I asked him what he would do if I studied abroad for more than 3 months at a time and he said he'd changed his mind about it and that he would definitely work on it. When I told him that he is a factor in my future he became really happy. We've talked about how we are serious about each other. I've sat him down from the start and checked in on how he thought things were going, if they were progressing alright. Until now I suppose... I'm afraid to talk to him about the L word. It's not normal for me to have this awkward feeling about talking to him. I'm not entirely sure I am in love, I never have been really before, but I do catch myself thinking it or thinking about saying it. I don't want to say it until I'm completely ready. But it's been 7 months, we've always moved at a very good pace, and it seems like this is the next step, that it should happen soon. I'm afraid of him not returning those feelings (like everyone) and I would give him the time he needs but, if he could never return those feelings, that would force me to break up with him. He was in a relationship that began at the end of highschool for three years. They told each other within 3 weeks. He says he's learned from mistakes, has matured, and is bettering himself. I believe all of that. But, he also believes that people can be truly in love within a short time period like that. I don't, and I did make that clear to him. We talked about this a few days ago after I brought up work friends saying "I love you" to me and how I don't like people throwing that word around and how I think it's about devotion and is more than a feeling. He said that for that kind of romantic love, it's more about loving yourself first and most importantly before loving the other person. I can't help but think he was saying we'd never have that. I just felt the conversation went in a bad way, so I didn't personalize it. I have a hard time driving at night and was about to this once. I was just being annoying and asking him why it would be bad for me to fall asleep (really annoying!), etc. He got very serious after I said something and he blurted out "because I love you too much." I didn't know what to say! I just felt flushed, smiled and said aw. It wasn't like a response was required and he didn't think before he said that. When we separated later he continually said "I like you" - about three times. Totally mixed, and I still don't know what happened. Hasn't been brought up since and that was 2 or 3 months ago. Bottom line is, we've always said cute things to each other, and he likes to say "I LIKE you." It's turning into such a habit though, and he'll say it when we hang up on the phone now and it irritated me tonight.
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