Awesome Username Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Hi board! I want to feel happy, fuzzy feelings for a guy again; it's been a long time. I feel like someone took a lint collector and took all the fuzz from my heart regarding men. If I went steady with someone whom I did not feel strong emotions toward, it would probably be unfair to both of us. Can fuzzy feelings grow over time for a good friend? I have a really good friend that I sometimes have feelings for and sometimes do not...I can't explain it. I might be one of those idiot girls who didn't know what she had until it was gone; I'm willing to accept that. Honestly, I think my heart's retarded or something. People on here keep telling me to "Just put yourself out there!" and they're right. I think I might try, but I'm only sticking my toe into the pool. Really people...when a guy, no matter how attractive he is, asks me out I say something like, "I'm really busy" or give him my number and am too anxious when he calls so I don't pick up. Sometimes I kick myself. Seriously, it's super dumb and so am I. Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. I have an affinity for basically all of the Sciences and so hey, at least we'd have that much in common! Bars seem a little sketchy for me and I don't really have a decent wing-woman in the city. I know I have to get over this anxious feeling or I'll be a cat lady someday. I'm also afraid that if I put an ad on okcupid, some of my friends who are also on it would see it and make a big deal about it. I would die. I imagine that if I went up to a guy at the Science museum and said, "Oh man I know nothing about these rocks!" and then he told me some bull story about how they're fossils, I could tell him that he's really smart and then he would feel like a Superman that likes to impress me. From there, the seeds of romance could possibly grow. I shall test my hypothesis tomorrow. I will publish all data.
sanskrit Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Thought this thread was going to be about a velociraptor skeleton somewhere based on the title. Find an animal mating display somewhere in the museum and stand in front of it in the same place all night, men are more comfortable approaching a woman who is not moving too fast, as we don't want to open our mouths with "excuse me" or "hello" to a woman who was just about to walk away. Women who want to meet more men should stand still more than they normally do.
GoodOnPaper Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. If only I was born 20 years later than I was . . . when I was single in the '80s and '90s, any woman who thought "bangable" and "geeks" could go together would have been locked up in an asylum . . . I imagine that if I went up to a guy at the Science museum and said, "Oh man I know nothing about these rocks!" and then he told me some bull story about how they're fossils, I could tell him that he's really smart and then he would feel like a Superman that likes to impress me. From there, the seeds of romance could possibly grow. I shall test my hypothesis tomorrow. I will publish all data. Sounds like shooting fish in a barrel . . . enjoy!
lolreconlol Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Hi board! I want to feel happy, fuzzy feelings for a guy again; it's been a long time. I feel like someone took a lint collector and took all the fuzz from my heart regarding men. If I went steady with someone whom I did not feel strong emotions toward, it would probably be unfair to both of us. Can fuzzy feelings grow over time for a good friend? I have a really good friend that I sometimes have feelings for and sometimes do not...I can't explain it. I might be one of those idiot girls who didn't know what she had until it was gone; I'm willing to accept that. Honestly, I think my heart's retarded or something. People on here keep telling me to "Just put yourself out there!" and they're right. I think I might try, but I'm only sticking my toe into the pool. Really people...when a guy, no matter how attractive he is, asks me out I say something like, "I'm really busy" or give him my number and am too anxious when he calls so I don't pick up. Sometimes I kick myself. Seriously, it's super dumb and so am I. Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. I have an affinity for basically all of the Sciences and so hey, at least we'd have that much in common! Bars seem a little sketchy for me and I don't really have a decent wing-woman in the city. I know I have to get over this anxious feeling or I'll be a cat lady someday. I'm also afraid that if I put an ad on okcupid, some of my friends who are also on it would see it and make a big deal about it. I would die. I imagine that if I went up to a guy at the Science museum and said, "Oh man I know nothing about these rocks!" and then he told me some bull story about how they're fossils, I could tell him that he's really smart and then he would feel like a Superman that likes to impress me. From there, the seeds of romance could possibly grow. I shall test my hypothesis tomorrow. I will publish all data. I hope by "The City" you mean NYC. Good luck with this experiment, I wish I had the confidence to do something like this.
LisaLee Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. I have an affinity for basically all of the Sciences and so hey, at least we'd have that much in common! I know absolutely nothing of science (my major is actually quite the opposite---religion ) and yet science geeks are what my attract. My last LTR was with a guy who had his degree in Bio Physics and my current SO is working on his degree in Physics. Oh, and a married guy tried to pick me up at the airport once, and he had his degree in physics. Now, that I think about it, I seem to mainly attract physics people... But anyway, museum seems like it would be a great place to go looking for a hook up but how do you approach said geek?
EyeAlone Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Hi board! I want to feel happy, fuzzy feelings for a guy again; it's been a long time. I feel like someone took a lint collector and took all the fuzz from my heart regarding men. If I went steady with someone whom I did not feel strong emotions toward, it would probably be unfair to both of us. Can fuzzy feelings grow over time for a good friend? I have a really good friend that I sometimes have feelings for and sometimes do not...I can't explain it. I might be one of those idiot girls who didn't know what she had until it was gone; I'm willing to accept that. Honestly, I think my heart's retarded or something. People on here keep telling me to "Just put yourself out there!" and they're right. I think I might try, but I'm only sticking my toe into the pool. Really people...when a guy, no matter how attractive he is, asks me out I say something like, "I'm really busy" or give him my number and am too anxious when he calls so I don't pick up. Sometimes I kick myself. Seriously, it's super dumb and so am I. Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. I have an affinity for basically all of the Sciences and so hey, at least we'd have that much in common! Bars seem a little sketchy for me and I don't really have a decent wing-woman in the city. I know I have to get over this anxious feeling or I'll be a cat lady someday. I'm also afraid that if I put an ad on okcupid, some of my friends who are also on it would see it and make a big deal about it. I would die. I imagine that if I went up to a guy at the Science museum and said, "Oh man I know nothing about these rocks!" and then he told me some bull story about how they're fossils, I could tell him that he's really smart and then he would feel like a Superman that likes to impress me. From there, the seeds of romance could possibly grow. I shall test my hypothesis tomorrow. I will publish all data.Wow! You sound EXACTLY like me! Whenever some guy approaches me, I find some way to mess it up. I've tried to do the museum thing to hopefully meet someone (I love museums so I'm not going there just to meet men), but I've never had any luck. I've tried both art and science ones; obviously I'm going to stay away from the children's ones no step-children for me any time soon. I'm unsure what I'm doing wrong. I've never dressed sloppy. Perhaps as sanskrit mentioned, I'm moving too fast between exhibits. Maybe I need to smile more Anyway, back to you, AU. Please let us know how it goes and any specific "techniques" you plan on using!
johan Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Hi board! I want to feel happy, fuzzy feelings for a guy again; it's been a long time. I can offer myself as a sacrifice to this cause if it will help. Feel free to feel happy, fuzzy feelings for me.
TouchedByViolet Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I imagine that if I went up to a guy at the Science museum and said, "Oh man I know nothing about these rocks!" and then he told me some bull story about how they're fossils, I could tell him that he's really smart and then he would feel like a Superman that likes to impress me. From there, the seeds of romance could possibly grow. So who's the predator and who's the prey? I think your story would work better if a guy came in with some kryptonite, defeated your so called superman, explained how the rocks are not fossils and took you away.
Knittress Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 So - how'd it go? One of my major problems is once I start having a good time or geeking out I entirely lose all interest in the dudes. If I did this I'd run the risk of actually getting a little snitty if someone interrupted me.
sagetalk Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. Greatest sentence in a post I have ever read. You are my favorite little hottie here . My advice is to go for it, but don't give all your heart away at once. Give it slowly. If he is a real man, he will enjoy the pace and you will too. It will also help weed out the guys that just want sex.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Tomorrow I might go to the Science museum alone to see if there are any bangable geeks. I imagine that if I went up to a guy at the Science museum and said, "Oh man I know nothing about these rocks!" and then he told me some bull story about how they're fossils, I could tell him that he's really smart and then he would feel like a Superman that likes to impress me. From there, the seeds of romance could possibly grow. I shall test my hypothesis tomorrow. I will publish all data. That's so hot! (hey, I went to a museum earlier this month... for the first time in years!)
Author Awesome Username Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Hi guys I did it!!! I went for the last hour it was open. I brought a pen and paper with me in order to take notes. I wore makeup and a low-cut shirt with high heels. You know what? EVERY SINGLE GUY THERE WAS TAKEN!!!!!1111 Swear to God. I was looking at a praying mantis display and this one cutie said, "If you look up, you can see them hanging upside down!" It was awesome and I was just about to test my cougar cub claws when his girlfriend is suddenly like, "LOOK TURTLESSSSSS!" and he sighed and walked toward her. Darn. I also had some guys look but they were either with their friends, kids, or girlfriends. There was one guy that was cute, but he found the octopus display and POUNDED the glass until poor octy shivered alone, scared in the corner. Jerk! I think I would have more luck on a weekday to get a stray from the pack, to be honest. I was also only there for an hour. The Science museum was AMAZING! I had a lot more fun by myself looking at the displays than I thought I would. I have a strange passion for insects. Did you know that a cockroach can live for nine days without its head? Also, stick bugs rule! I liked the South African Leaf Fish too. It's nuts because it just spends its life being completely still, suspended in water. You can kind of see some of it here: . I wonder how it does that. I'm thinking about becoming a member. It's kind of expensive, but you can go whenever you want and bring a guest for free. I wasn't able to snag any men but I did make friends with an octopus, which more than makes up for it. OH I also saw a rock that was collected from the moon. It was surreal to know that the stone was outer-worldly. I swear I stared at it for like ten minutes thinking to myself, "This rock wasn't meant for humans! WOW!" Boys can wait; I heart Science!
Author Awesome Username Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Wow! You sound EXACTLY like me! Whenever some guy approaches me, I find some way to mess it up. I've tried to do the museum thing to hopefully meet someone (I love museums so I'm not going there just to meet men), but I've never had any luck. I've tried both art and science ones; obviously I'm going to stay away from the children's ones no step-children for me any time soon. I'm unsure what I'm doing wrong. I've never dressed sloppy. Perhaps as sanskrit mentioned, I'm moving too fast between exhibits. Maybe I need to smile more Anyway, back to you, AU. Please let us know how it goes and any specific "techniques" you plan on using! Yay a kindred spirit!! Yeah, the problem is that there are more interesting things in a museum than the opposite sex. Not a lot of people like going to things like art galleries or museums alone like I do, so they are all paired up. If you and I were to go into a singles bar I'm sure that we would have men all over us, but I feel as if those types are looking for one night stands instead of slowly getting interested in a woman (in general). It's just the wrong place. I bet striking gold would be at like, the Home Depot. At least the man would be able to fix a sink!
Titania22 Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Hi guys I did it!!! I went for the last hour it was open. I brought a pen and paper with me in order to take notes. I wore makeup and a low-cut shirt with high heels. You know what? EVERY SINGLE GUY THERE WAS TAKEN!!!!!1111 That's disppointing. I was so excited when I read the first post. I had never even considered stalking the museum for a 'bangable geek'. I think it was an awesome idea. Maybe it was just the wrong day. We need to find out when the university biology students are going. That would be a good time.
Author Awesome Username Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 That's disppointing. I was so excited when I read the first post. I had never even considered stalking the museum for a 'bangable geek'. I think it was an awesome idea. Maybe it was just the wrong day. We need to find out when the university biology students are going. That would be a good time. Ooooooh, you're onto something there! Time to look at the events pamphlet to scope things out a little better...
sanskrit Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 EVERY SINGLE GUY THERE WAS TAKEN!!!!!1111 You would have more luck finding single men at a modern art museum I think. Science museums are more the domain of families and couples.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Subtract the effects of the museum on your evening, and tell us how it felt to just put on your best appearance and (show some social vulnerability in a sense). Maybe that was the greatest allure to your experiment. It wouldn't have mattered whether the museum was Starbucks, as long as you were wearing your ball gown so to speak.
EyeAlone Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Hi guys I did it!!! I went for the last hour it was open. I brought a pen and paper with me in order to take notes. I wore makeup and a low-cut shirt with high heels. You know what? EVERY SINGLE GUY THERE WAS TAKEN!!!!!1111 Swear to God. I was looking at a praying mantis display and this one cutie said, "If you look up, you can see them hanging upside down!" It was awesome and I was just about to test my cougar cub claws when his girlfriend is suddenly like, "LOOK TURTLESSSSSS!" and he sighed and walked toward her. Darn. I also had some guys look but they were either with their friends, kids, or girlfriends. There was one guy that was cute, but he found the octopus display and POUNDED the glass until poor octy shivered alone, scared in the corner. Jerk! I think I would have more luck on a weekday to get a stray from the pack, to be honest. I was also only there for an hour. The Science museum was AMAZING! I had a lot more fun by myself looking at the displays than I thought I would. I have a strange passion for insects. Did you know that a cockroach can live for nine days without its head? Also, stick bugs rule! I liked the South African Leaf Fish too. It's nuts because it just spends its life being completely still, suspended in water. You can kind of see some of it here: . I wonder how it does that. I'm thinking about becoming a member. It's kind of expensive, but you can go whenever you want and bring a guest for free. I wasn't able to snag any men but I did make friends with an octopus, which more than makes up for it. OH I also saw a rock that was collected from the moon. It was surreal to know that the stone was outer-worldly. I swear I stared at it for like ten minutes thinking to myself, "This rock wasn't meant for humans! WOW!" Boys can wait; I heart Science! You're my hero!!!! I'm sorry that you didn't meet any bangable geeks, but I'm glad that your scientific self was tickled. I, too, wonder when is the most ideal time to go in order to increase my chances of meeting someone. I usually go on Saturday afternoons, but that seems like it's a couple's day. That's when my ex and I would go. Perhaps the weekdays in the afternoon, but I bet there will just be a bunch of retirees or stay-at-home moms with their kids. Not our target populations! Perhaps a weekday evening! That might weed most of the people that go to bars looking a one night stand. I definitely think you should give it another shot!
Knittress Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I saw a shy nerdboy on the bus. He was too busy hiding behind his book to notice that I was oggling him. If I see him again I might just inform him of his cuteness, as I think shy nerdboys ought to be aware that they have fans. Perhaps if you're of a similar age you might hover around college campuses and sit in on the occasional free lecture/event? If nothing else, there are plenty of fullgrown nerdMEN wandering around... goddamn those liberal arts proffs.... ::sigh::
Titania22 Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I saw a shy nerdboy on the bus. He was too busy hiding behind his book to notice that I was oggling him. If I see him again I might just inform him of his cuteness, as I think shy nerdboys ought to be aware that they have fans. Totally, you should tell him, if you see him again. Mmmm shy nerdboy
Author Awesome Username Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 You're my hero!!!! I'm sorry that you didn't meet any bangable geeks, but I'm glad that your scientific self was tickled. I, too, wonder when is the most ideal time to go in order to increase my chances of meeting someone. I usually go on Saturday afternoons, but that seems like it's a couple's day. That's when my ex and I would go. Perhaps the weekdays in the afternoon, but I bet there will just be a bunch of retirees or stay-at-home moms with their kids. Not our target populations! Perhaps a weekday evening! That might weed most of the people that go to bars looking a one night stand. I definitely think you should give it another shot! Yeah, weekends are for couples! It was crazy how much there weren't any single people. A weekday night sounds like the best bet. Also, if you're a member you can attend some lectures for free! I went to a telescope store that was a total sausagefest and they explained to me that sometimes they have "star parties" on the roof. This is basically an event where nerds bring their telescopes and look at stars when the night is clear. I was given a pamphlet, and told "If you have any female friends, bring them!" which was a good indication that I'd have the pick of the litter assuming they were not married or taken. I think that dating someone who's a little bit of a science geek would be fun because whether they were rich or poor, they would have something that would keep them busy and we would be able to have fun on a budget. Don't get me wrong I love the idea of dating a rich man, but money comes and goes. Some of the best things in life are free, and I'll bet that no group understands that like the Science group. Then again, I find ant farms to be thrilling. If this doesn't work out for me, I might tramp it up at the Home depot. I'm gonna keep my eyes open, but I'm not really into rushing into the arms of a man. I barely have experience dating outside of school or people I knew from a previous job, so I kind of want to get a feel on what TYPE of person entertains me the most. The search continues!
Author Awesome Username Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 I saw a shy nerdboy on the bus. He was too busy hiding behind his book to notice that I was oggling him. If I see him again I might just inform him of his cuteness, as I think shy nerdboys ought to be aware that they have fans. Perhaps if you're of a similar age you might hover around college campuses and sit in on the occasional free lecture/event? If nothing else, there are plenty of fullgrown nerdMEN wandering around... goddamn those liberal arts proffs.... ::sigh:: Oh you would have probably soooooooo made his day!!
Titania22 Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I went to a telescope store that was a total sausagefest and they explained to me that sometimes they have "star parties" on the roof. This is basically an event where nerds bring their telescopes and look at stars when the night is clear. I was given a pamphlet, and told "If you have any female friends, bring them!" which was a good indication that I'd have the pick of the litter assuming they were not married or taken. Who knew? Awesome find! If this doesn't work out for me, I might tramp it up at the Home depot. Too funny!
Author Awesome Username Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 Subtract the effects of the museum on your evening, and tell us how it felt to just put on your best appearance and (show some social vulnerability in a sense). Maybe that was the greatest allure to your experiment. It wouldn't have mattered whether the museum was Starbucks, as long as you were wearing your ball gown so to speak. I didn't really feel that vulnerable, to tell you the truth. Part of the reason was that I actually had a lot of stuff to look at at the museum. When a guy is sort of pushy and domineering trying to get a number, sometimes I do feel vulnerable. It's funny because sometimes I do put my "ballgown" on so to speak, and guys will look at me and whistle or make passes at me or stare and that sort of stuff. A lot of the guys that DO come up to me are married and looking for a fling. Sorry, but no amount of money you would spend on me for a weekend would justify me cheating on you. I had this one incident where I got all cute and went to a cafe. I had an older gentleman approach me and we talked for a while...he said that he was some ambassador for a country (I'm not too sure about the details) and was honest enough to tell me he was married. Then he asked if I wanted to $pend the weekend with him and I yelled at him. I was eating a piece of pie before he came up to me, and I said, "You are NOT going to cheat your wife and family with me!" He felt bad and paid for my pie. Long story short is that when I get all dressed up and cute, a lot of guys stare and make passing comments but a lot of them also will not approach me. Some of the ones that do are creepers - either 40 years older than me or blatantly inviting me to their house or to do something sexual. The funny thing is that if you are wearing a dress and heels, and a guy walks by you and whistles or whispers "sexy" in your direction...are you going to turn around and be like, "Oh HI! I'm AU!!" or keep walking? A lot of guys that I know in my industry are amazing and wonderful, but I do not necessarily want to be dating around in my circle that I could potentially be working with. All this being said, I'm in my early 20s so there's no rush. I would like to find someone that makes me feel really happy.
Knittress Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Might you consider that your efforts to 'tramp it up' are scaring off the nice men? I know you're being a tad facetious and I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with being hot - but I think sometimes when a lot of the more gentler-minded guys see a woman that's obviously made an effort to look good they get intimidated. Something about a woman who can pass for hip that makes them worry that they're not 'cool enough' when they've previously been too absorbed in their quirky interests to care. And it's really really too bad that it's so much harder to figure out when a decent guy is attracted to you. ('Cause I'm 100% positive that they are in your case) I think the brash tacky guys are ruining it for everyone by making the shy males feel ashamed and sleazy for showing sexual interest, and the nerdloving women attracted to them moan over how they only attract creeps and developing the mistaken idea that all masculine sexuality is degrading. Badness all around. So - keep on keeping on! I'm sure you'll get lucky at some point! (tee hee)
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