Red Shift Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 So I am kind of in an awkward situation right now for many reasons. The simple story is that I am very attracted to the "girl friend" of a very good friend of mine. The reason I put that in quotes is because of some stuff that has happened between her and I, and also because of what I have observed in their relationship. I work with this friend, and he left for a work related trip for well over a month. So, I kinda started hanging with his "girl friend" and we get along really well. I don't think I have ever met anyone who is more similar to me than this girl, and needless to say, I can't stop thinking about her. Now, I am not the jerk who tries to steal someones girl friend because I have been on the other side of that situation recently and it did not feel good. But, they don't seem to be in a real committed relationship. If you were to hang out with them in a group of people, you would never know they are "dating". I have never even seen them hug. They have never actually come out and said they were dating, it was just kind of assumed by my group of friends, but they spend tons of time together, and it's been that way for around half a year. The other thing is that she has been showing a lot of indications of interest in me. Last weekend, we went to a party and I ended up driving. We didn't think ahead and ended up with her car, so the only option was for her to spend the night at my house. One thing led to another and she ended up in my bed. Nothing really happened but we cuddled and such, and at no point did she act like either of us was doing anything wrong. After she left I asked her if she was going to tell the other guy, and she said "no, but I don't think he would care anyway." We text all the time and she flirts with me etc, etc. I simply don't know what to do. The bad experience that I had is telling me not to do anything because of how crappy it was for me. On the other hand, I want to say something to her to see if I'm just pissing into the wind. And then there is always the outcome where I say something and everything becomes awkward. It's not like I'll never see the other guy, because I work with him in an office of 7 people. So what do I do? I want to get closer to her, but I don't know if it's worth hurting someone else, I'm just not that selfish... If you read through that, thanks! We're going to california this weekend with some people (minus boyfriend) and I'm thinking about talking to her while we are there. Good idea?
xpaperxcutx Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 From a critical point of view, you're inviting trouble by getting with a girl your friend has dibs on. I thought the motto of " bros before hoes" still stands? The moral thing to do is go up to your friend and say " hey man, I really like______. Are you are okay with me asking her out?"
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