Author Mellisa Posted October 21, 2010 Author Posted October 21, 2010 Hey, guys, just wanted to give you an update on how it went. I just couldnt do it-countiue seeing him like nothing happend and hoping it could change something.At first i had thought that i wanted to see him and to make the most of the times left and then i could walk away with no regrets. I waited a week and he didnt ask me out. I texted him today asking if he wanted to meet tonight.He texted back asking what time i finish work and that he's going out at 7:30..When i said maybe next time then he didnt follow up with a date so that was pretty much it for me.I dont want to hang around in the next two weeks waiting for him to ask me out and wondering why he doesnt...Maybe that night he did expect us to have sex and when it didnt happen so he knew he had to find a way to get rid of me. I like him but i think now i'm able to tell that he doesnt like me the same way back.It happens and there always come a time you have to realize that.When you realize that you like the other person more than he likes you, it can make you feel vulnerable.He wasnt the first guy who didnt have the guts to call of off so i did it for him.Wasnt really hard cause it's only been a few weeks and three dates.By being the one who ends it, it gives me a sense of taking control and having the powder left in me to think clearly and do the right thing. Here's what i texted"Hey,XX, i've given it some thought,it's probably for the better we dont meet anymore;Someone has to call it off and that way it can give us some closure;It was nice meeting you and i hope you make the most of your stay here".An hour later he replied"Hi XX, i understand and respect what you said.It was nice to meet you.You are a funny,attractive and interesting girl. I wish you luck in the future.Keep in touch on email and dont put me on that cheat.com site!" I dont hate him or mad at him. I'm just a little disappoint. That message i got from him on my way back from the third date, it actually hurt me a little and now i cant believe i brought up terms like"getting attached" and "having my heart broken"as a reply to that.Maybe i did let it break a little piece of my heart cause that's just the way i am..it's a shame to admit it but i'll be fine.
John018 Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 So is it that guys usually dont develop feelings in a short time say after three dates? If you do, what would you do? It depends. I find that either I get really attracted to someone quickly or I don't. To be fair the former has only happened a couple of times in my life. Most of the time I feel little for girls that I've only dated a couple of times.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 I'm glad to hear you're doing well. One thing I do have to comment on is the need to acknowlegde " closure" with him. It just makes you sound vulerable like you need him to give you some kind of final ending for you to move on. You don't have that kind of relationship with him to warrant something like that. A simple " I don't think it's going to work" would've worked.
Idalis Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I'm glad you were able to make a decision that makes you feel good!!
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