9Lives Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 well I guess I'm just winning all day today. on today I got paid....was told by doctor I have a perfect bill of health...got a free meal from Dennys cause service was bad...and told my ex good bye. as some of you know. my ex been asking me how I'm doing for about 3 months now since we went NC. I was dumped and feeling it no doubt but maintaining NC and working to move on. so today I had a weak moment and let him know I was still hurt and trying to get over it. So after that text he goes silent. so tonight I made up my mind and decided to REALLY shut this whole thing down. so I texted him "i thought about what I said earlier and it occurred to me that u really don't give a fk. You text me several times asking me how I'm doing, I let u know then u go silent. I'm finish with this childish bs. now I don't give a ****. good bye John Doe. now I feel GREAT! I don't care if I never hear from him. I feel like I took my power back. I feel like I shut the door and can really move on and stop looking back. I needed to do it. I'm tired of this whole ordeal. my ex don't care so I don't even know why he was asking how I'm doing. then when I tell him, he goes ghost? I'm done playing. I don't care if I never hear from him anymore. its for the best!!!
redmelon Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 glad you were able to put it to rest. who knows why they reach out, what the push-pull behaviors are really about (it can only be a self-serving motivation). so you are better off and have nothing but the future in front of you. congrats!
Author 9Lives Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 I like what u said. Push-Pull is his middle name. now he can push and pull on his wee-wee. Game Over! I didn't feel like the game anymore. its a good thing. I feel like a broke thru a invisible wall. wow!
WTRanger Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Now you just have to stay strong though the inevitable bumps in your process. Just remember you told him to "slag off!" when in a fleeting moment of weakness you think about re-contacting him. Stay strong and good on ya for telling that tool to suck lemons!
Author 9Lives Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 thanks for the encouragement. actually I do better when I'm not hearing from him. I'm sure there will be some up and downs but what is inevitable is that this ******* was going to keep doing his push-pull game. game over!
Trovador Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Good for you! I also got tired of the push/pull game, mixed signals and said the same to my ex... I feel fine and free... don't think you'll get weak, think you are gonna stay strong... think definitive...
thatsonlyme Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 It seems like we have something interesting going on here, I'm planning to tell my ex the same in very near future. She just came back from DC so I'm not going to do it right away or she'll think I'm just jealous. I am going to tell her face to face, in a very polite manner that I don't want to hear from her again, explain her why and what I think about her. Too bad I won't be able to see her reaction because she would never show her emotions, but I'd give a fortune just too see her face once I leave. Way to go fellow LS-ers, tell those exes to f**k off!
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