jeff2321 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I miss my ex and realize im gonna be alone for along time. I went from having sex every other day to nothing. Life just sucks now. Sigh just put me out of my misery .... Jeff
ShannonMI Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I miss my ex and realize im gonna be alone for along time. I went from having sex every other day to nothing. Life just sucks now. Sigh just put me out of my misery .... Jeff I'm sorry you are feeling sh*tty today, Jeff. We all have our bad days. It will get better. Hang in there!
fabio10 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I think you need to get laid man and not a relationship sounds like your ego and manhood is hurting more than your heart !!!
Author jeff2321 Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 I think you need to get laid man and not a relationship sounds like your ego and manhood is hurting more than your heart !!! Yeah well, I don't have the confidence right now to make that happen. Getting laid (espeically in a one night stand scenario) is a lot of work from the guy's end. I don't even want to try right now... it's just too much damn effort and I'll probably end up getting rejected anyway and feel worse. Women respond to confidence and I just don't have it right now at all. I even have a great job and more money than I know what to do with and I'm still feeling like **** -- Goes to show you that money doesn't equal happiness. I just have to face the music that I will be alone for a long time and just have to deal with it. I'm just gonna buy a house, get a dog, and just have some hobbies. Going to forget dating, women, and sex for a long time because you know what... IT'S NOT WORTH IT. Jeff
Billie The Puppet Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Is it the ex or the sex you miss? I missed my ex but not so much the sex it was routine and always her way. Yet I use to think she was the girl I'd marry. You see sex doesn't make or break a relationship with me. As long as I get some and she is pleased I'm happy. I'll take the excess money off of you since you don't know what to do with it.
Ajax Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Is it the ex or the sex you miss? QUOTE] I miss sex specifically with the ex. We were like Jordan and Pippen.
Author jeff2321 Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 (edited) The job, the money, the material possessions don't mean anything if you don't have someone to enjoy your life with. There are probably homeless bums right now down in Denver that have NOTHING and they are happier than me right now -- how sad is that? I feel like packing my bags and just moving somewhere far far far away and starting all over again. Like walking into work tomorrow and handing in my resignation... Then getting in my car with limited clothes and heading to Hawaii on a one way flight to Hawaii. I'd leave my car with the title in it at the parking lot and call a poor relative of mine and give them a nice christmas gift. I might just do it... because there is nothing left for me in this state. All my friends are gone and making new friends just seems ****ing impossible here. Online dating is a joke and the women on there are just as jacked and a wreck as I am. This entire process is crap and I hate it. I just have to learn to accept the fact that I will always be alone and that no girl I ever meet will ever compare to my ex. I have to accept that I won't likely have sex again for probably 2 years unless I go and bull**** some girl into a one night stand at a bar ( which I do'nt do because that is'nt who I am ).... so yeah. Life ****ING SUCKS. If you read this post, sorry I wasted 2-3 minutes of your life that took you to read it. There isn't much you can do to really help me. I'm damanged goods and women can detect it 15 miles away. Jeff the wreck Edited October 15, 2010 by jeff2321
skydiveaddict Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I know how you feel Jeff, even after all this time I still feel the same way. Perhaps your heart will mend quicker than mine. I hope so
Author jeff2321 Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 I know how you feel Jeff, even after all this time I still feel the same way. Perhaps your heart will mend quicker than mine. I hope so Thanks. I hope my heart mends quicker too, but I just have this feeling that it will take a long time for me to feel better. My ex was 1 in a million. On a side note, you want to go sky diving sometime ? I really want to jump out of a ****ing plane right now and perhaps it might help me look at life a bit differently. Jeff
SadGirl23 Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 yeah.. you all are guys.. ! i miss the touch of a man. when i was taken i had too many men wanting to take me out even though I had a bf, but now being single.. seems liek no one likes me. maybe just my self esteem is so low that i dont even feel sexy, feel attractive, feel like a woman. i just feel like shyt bc this man dumped me. gosh thas something i cant get over. im just at my lowest point right now. i bound to burst in tears any moment anywhere. i cant even listen to music and haven't watched tv in 2 months bc of this breakup. i cant even handle going to malls as i dont want to see couples.
thatsonlyme Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Jeff, I know money can't replace a lost love but not having financial issues should make it at least a bit easier. Just imagine if on top of all this s**t you had no money to pay your rent and your bills. I'm just saying it can always get worse. Thankfully I don't have financial issues yet, but currently I've been spending more than I make. I know I'll have to change that but right now I just don't give a f**k. Why don't you just have a nice little vacation? Go to hawaii, vegas, whatever, change is always good. I wanted to go to vegas but I have nobody to go with, all my friends have their lives or just can't afford it. I might just end up going alone and see what happens. it's either gonna make me feel good or completely mess me up. as for the sex, it's not the only reason why I miss her but I'm definitely getting desperate about getting some. It's a very real physical need and for years it was always available. I need it but not necessarily with her. I agree about dating sites, it's a joke and I think I will just remove my profiles. Sadgirl, I have rally hard time watching movies as well, but aggressive music makes me feel better. Love songs make me cry. If I hear "don't speak on the radio" it will make me cry. why the f**k people make love songs? I don't think self esteem is as important for girls as much as for guys. Seeing a sad girl makes her more appealing in my eyes than a girl with self esteem higher than mine. I'm afraid of girls with high self esteem. Try not to look like a complete wreck, but a little sad look can't be that bad. If you were sitting at the bar next to me alone, with that sad look I'd feel a lot more comfortable to approach you on the other hand, I don't think girls would find a sad guy very appealing. maybe close friends would but I don't really have many girl friends. p.s. skydiving sounds like a good idea, I might sign up for that too! Too bad winter is coming and I'll have to wait for few more months I think a little bit of adrenaline would make me feel a lot better. Right now I get my adrenaline boost driving on off ramps like crazy! I do get reckless behind the wheel at times, it makes my heart beat faster, but I need something wilder. damn if I had enough money right now I'd just rent a Ferrari for a day and take it to the track! G-force ftw
Author jeff2321 Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 So I did it... I signed up to jump out of an airplane tandem style on Saturday at 12:30pm MDT. I guess I have to go to a class or something and then I'll be going up in the plan and then I'll just jump out hooked to some other dude. It's going to be crazy... but I'm hoping it might help me see life a bit differently. Jeff
worlybear Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I feel like s*** today, felt like s*** yesterday and will probably feel like s*** tomorrow- so beat that! Coping strategies don't work -NC doesn't work - ergo Humans don't work !We should all go home to another galaxy and consider some extra-terrestial contact. At least it would be a change from whinging and no-one could accuse you of dating an ex-lookalike (unless you're seriously into E.T.Dudes) .Beam me up Scotty! I'm ready!!! See you in Space.
LoveTNT Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 So I did it... I signed up to jump out of an airplane tandem style on Saturday at 12:30pm MDT. I guess I have to go to a class or something and then I'll be going up in the plan and then I'll just jump out hooked to some other dude. It's going to be crazy... but I'm hoping it might help me see life a bit differently. Jeff How exciting, I would love to do that myself one day! Enjoy it, breathe in out and out and jump, feel free.
Author jeff2321 Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 How exciting, I would love to do that myself one day! Enjoy it, breathe in out and out and jump, feel free. Yes it is and as the days draw closer the excitement and fear of doing it kind of get more intense. I'm rolling with it though. I'm doing it because I want to learn that I can challenge my fears head on and make it through them. I'm going to jump out of that plane and be OK just like I'm getting over Laura and be OK. I'm going to get my self confidence back and I'm going to get strong mentally and physically. Some day I will feel that I have a lot to offer a woman again and someday I hope I can get married and have a family -- I know some of these goals are pretty far off ( such as the marriage and kids ) but one step at a time. I need to work on me right now before I get involved with anyone else. If it takes jumping out of a plane every weekend to get used to facing my fears, I'm going to do it. Because I swear I'm not going to let this woman leaving me drag me into the ground. Jeff
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