Finally got a response on Online Dating (Don't want to screw this up)

[U1987]

So 1 of the 9 girls I messaged a few days ago finally got back to me. In her profile, she mentioned how she loves tattoos, but I couldn't see one in any of her pics. I texted her a message with the title "So where are the tattoos? and in read "You say you love tattoos but I don't see a single one in your pics. That's kinda funny to me lol"

 

She wrote back. "Yeah, I only got a tiny one on my ankle, but I love it though. I want more!"

 

This is the only response I've gotten. I'm thinking of writing this in response.

 

"I bet you cried like a baby when you got that (Don't be embarrassed, so would I lol) And mention about some of tattoos-ideas I've drawn and want to get.

 

Any ideas or suggestions?

[alexlakeman]

Would love to put a voice to the pics, here's my # xxx-xxx-xxxx. Let me have ur # and I'll give you a call later this evening. Oe you can email me @ [email protected]

 

Cut to the chase. I don't see the purpose of emailing back & fourth for 1-2 wks. Gd luck

[USMCHokie]

She wrote back. "Yeah, I only got a tiny one on my ankle, but I love it though. I want more!"

 

I don't like her response, and I'm willing to bet half my farm that it's the only one you're going to get from her. Girls with half a brain that are actually interested will ask something about you in their response. You're likely not going to get much more than casual conversation about random nothings from her. Once you ask for a phone number, she'll disappear...

 

 

This is the only response I've gotten. I'm thinking of writing this in response.

 

"I bet you cried like a baby when you got that (Don't be embarrassed, so would I lol) And mention about some of tattoos-ideas I've drawn and want to get.

 

Any ideas or suggestions?

 

Please don't respond with that.

[flying]

 

"I bet you cried like a baby when you got that (Don't be embarrassed, so would I lol)

 

This is an example of what NOT to say.

 

I think you should stick to the second part - what you've got or had ideas for. Keep it upbeat and positive.

 

But seriously. Why is your first instinct to say something negative followed by a "lol"? I don't think most people are going to respond well to that. You could save that for when you meet someone face to face and can take the sting out of it, if you must say it at all. Don't do it over email.

[USMCHokie]

But seriously. Why is your first instinct to say something negative followed by a "lol"? I don't think most people are going to respond well to that. You could save that for when you meet someone face to face and can take the sting out of it, if you must say it at all. Don't do it over email.

 

Just don't say "lol" in any of your early correspondence with a girl.

[Cee]

Just don't say "lol" in any of your early correspondence with a girl.

 

Seconded. Not a fan of lol in flirty correspondence. Not a dealbreaker, but it isn't appealing to me.

[EyeAlone]

But seriously. Why is your first instinct to say something negative followed by a "lol"? I don't think most people are going to respond well to that. You could save that for when you meet someone face to face and can take the sting out of it, if you must say it at all. Don't do it over email.

I agree 100%. If I received a message like that, I would block him instantly. I'm unsure if you're trying to be sarcastic in a flirtatious manner, but that doesn't convey well to the other party. Why? It's difficult to convey sarcastic humor to someone you don't know and doesn't know you over a message/email.

[alexlakeman]

Seconded. Not a fan of lol in flirty correspondence. Not a dealbreaker, but it isn't appealing to me.

 

I've heard this b4 here,but I do it all the time. Otherwise it's hard in an email to realize if ur joking or serious. For example one that I just started emailing.

-i sent her one email; 3-4 sentences

-her responce one sentence with NO questions

-i responded "woman of small words" or something like that and continued with d email.

- her email this am was actually 4-6 sentences! LoL

 

I guess use it with caution. People read differently into initial emails, including me.

[theBrokenMuse]

I also agree. The cried like a baby thing would irritate me because it kind of comes across as almost antagonistic and the LOLs should also be avoided like the others have said. When they are overused or used at the wrong time it really can make a person look like a moron, imo.

[U1987]

How about this as a response.

 

You must be one tough chick. I think I'd cry like a little girl if I had to a get a tattoo haha

 

and mention the tattoo ideas I have?

[Star Gazer]

Agreed.

 

No negative remarks, no LOLs.

 

I actually am surprised you even got a response from this tattoo girl. Your message to her was kinda antagonistic, almost like you're mocking her.

 

From the messages you relay here, it sounds like you say things such as: "Oh you like to be social huh? Then why don't you have any people in your pictures? I bet you have no friends lol."

 

 

Just really doesn't come across well.

[Star Gazer]

How about this as a response.

 

You must be one tough chick. I think I'd cry like a little girl if I had to a get a tattoo haha

 

and mention the tattoo ideas I have?

 

Make her feel butch while emasculating yourself, and then talk about yourself without being invited to do so? No.

 

How about something that shows you're interested in getting to know her??? Ask her why she got that particular tattoo, does it have any special meaning? What other tattoos does she want to get? Then you can share about yourself. Perhaps ask her if she has a tattoo artist she can recommend for the tats you want.

[VeveCakes]

No wonder you didn't get any responses....what in hell did you say to the other 8 girls?

[USMCHokie]

No wonder you didn't get any responses....what in hell did you say to the other 8 girls?

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t249255/

[reservoirdog1]

If you really want to say something to her on the tattoo-getting process, keep it something like "did you cry like a baby, or did you grit your teeth and bear it? :)" It's cute, it inquires a bit more deeply without calling her a baby OR a tough chick (which could definitely be misinterpreted), and it invites her to play along.

 

Just my $0.02...

[redmelon]

If someone sent me that I would not respond ever again. I would also be pissed because it sounds like something you'd say to someone you actually know and comes off as a bit creepy. I'd almost feel a stalker vibe.

 

Either that or I'd think you have big time trouble expressing yourself accurately, which is a dealbreaker, too. Sounds like you should do the opposite of your instinct in these situations, and that's hard.

[dispatch3d]

How about this as a response.

 

You must be one tough chick. I think I'd cry like a little girl if I had to a get a tattoo haha

 

and mention the tattoo ideas I have?

 

Well your mindset isn't great but you still get messages so it's not all bad.

 

I'd say half this thing is great, half of it is awful. The "you must be one tough chick" is pretty damn good. It's a compliment, but a well-meaned, almost by-accident compliment.

 

The second part you are essentially taking a giant **** on your own chest.

 

Your going down a tattoo road that you haven't experience yet (haha). You could talk about how you've been thinking about getting one a lot lately, but just don't have anything of enough meaning to put on yourself yet. Here I'll write some kinda example.

 

 

You must be one tough chick to put up with the pins and pain (was there blood?!). I've thought about getting a tattoo forever and just haven't decided on a design. It's like some kinda weird procrastination. I just haven't figured out anything motivating or meaningful enough to get one. What possessed you to get yours? A drunken experience and next thing you know there's a moth tattoo'd on your foot? Just kidding!

[theBrokenMuse]

By the way OP, a lot of times when a girl says she likes tats, it means she wants a guy who sports tats so if you have any and they aren't highly visible in your pics you might want to mention it. If you don't have any you might already be working with a handicap.

[U1987]

Well your mindset isn't great but you still get messages so it's not all bad.

 

I'd say half this thing is great, half of it is awful. The "you must be one tough chick" is pretty damn good. It's a compliment, but a well-meaned, almost by-accident compliment.

 

The second part you are essentially taking a giant **** on your own chest.

 

Your going down a tattoo road that you haven't experience yet (haha). You could talk about how you've been thinking about getting one a lot lately, but just don't have anything of enough meaning to put on yourself yet. Here I'll write some kinda example.

 

 

You must be one tough chick to put up with the pins and pain (was there blood?!). I've thought about getting a tattoo forever and just haven't decided on a design. It's like some kinda weird procrastination. I just haven't figured out anything motivating or meaningful enough to get one. What possessed you to get yours? A drunken experience and next thing you know there's a moth tattoo'd on your foot? Just kidding!

 

THANK YOU!

 

That's exactly what I wanted!

 

I wanted a specific, exact example of what to type back to some of the girls I messaged.

 

Why was that so hard for some of the people on here to give?

[CrestfallenNoMore]

THANK YOU!

 

That's exactly what I wanted!

 

I wanted a specific, exact example of what to type back to some of the girls I messaged.

 

Why was that so hard for some of the people on here to give?

 

 

Yeahhh...

 

Let us know how THAT response works out for you.

[USMCHokie]

THANK YOU!

 

That's exactly what I wanted!

 

I wanted a specific, exact example of what to type back to some of the girls I messaged.

 

Why was that so hard for some of the people on here to give?

 

Ever read or see Cyrano de Bergerac...?

 

And no offense to dispatch3d, but that example was a bit...meh...

[Allisha]

THANK YOU!

 

That's exactly what I wanted!

 

I wanted a specific, exact example of what to type back to some of the girls I messaged.

 

Why was that so hard for some of the people on here to give?

 

 

Isn't it amazing that you only accept the answer you were waiting for?

 

..am I just completely missing the point of this forum, or what?

 

 

oh, and to answer your question, because you're supposed to be you when you're dating, not sitting copying&pasting things others have written for you. I think the other advice in this thread was better; telling you what NOT to say, in order for you to construct your own reply, just avoiding a few things.. but still being YOURSELF.

[U1987]

Isn't it amazing that you only accept the answer you were waiting for?

 

..am I just completely missing the point of this forum, or what?

 

 

oh, and to answer your question, because you're supposed to be you when you're dating, not sitting copying&pasting things others have written for you. I think the other advice in this thread was better; telling you what NOT to say, in order for you to construct your own reply, just avoiding a few things.. but still being YOURSELF.

 

Okay, so how would you have responded?

[Crazy Magnet]

This may be in another thread, but how old are you and how old are the girls you are trying to date?

[U1987]

This may be in another thread, but how old are you and how old are the girls you are trying to date?

 

I'm 23. I want to date girls age 18 to 25