sweet dookie Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Here's the situation me and my ex broke up back in april after 3 years 2gether because we clashed a lot (both leos bday 5 days apart)...we still talked and went out but not a lot...she even text me on my bday and i saw her...a couple days later somebody told me she had a bf. We went out and didn't say anything the entire night about it. I talked with her about it and she started crying saying that she didn't know if I still loved her so she moved on. I told her that's not the case and that I always wanted to b with her. She said she needed time 2 think. That didn't sound good..she chose him over me. she said that she was happy with this new guy and wanted 2 see where that goes. She said she still loves me and the new guy knows this but she said he doesn't care. She still wears the chain that I gave her and never takes it off. I'm confused I really love her but I can't fathom being a backup plan. Btw, she works with this guy and said they didn't go out he was fresh outta a relationship and was he and they decided to hook up. She said its not fair to break up with him because i decided i wanna b with her. Her family likes me and not the new guy. Even advised her to be with me. I did stay friends with her so I left it on good terms, but i dunno. Anytime I ask her to do something she always accepts. Weird right? We even had dinner downtown sunday evening 2gether. I know all her deepest darkest secrets, stuff that not even her fam knows about. She told me that he wants her not 2 talk with me ever, and doesn't know she doesn't 2 this day. She said if he finds out he'll have 2 get over it cuz she loves me and we have a bond that can't b broken. Im thinking NC but its very hard im on day 3 day far as she called me on monday and I answered but What do I do?
yessy21 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 she just doesnt want to loose the comfort of having u around if it doesnt work out with that guy. move on. she can be ur friend its her loss if she doesnt want to be with u now. when u have a girlfriend watch her flip out. its not fair for u.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Ex's families seem to be neutral especially if you were a good person around them. I know as I'm in the same position. However they may tell you they approve you more etc because it will take them time to detach more so than the ex. They also want to cheer you up. I'm not against bring friends with the ex's family or the ex if you are capable of it but don't trend deep waters by discussing the ex. My ex's family all told me they miss me. I miss them too. They told me the new guy seems young and immature and has already got on their nerves etc. I don't think this stuff should be discussed either. Basically anything goes but the old relationship or the new. My ex too has a new bf almost instantly but NC from her which is best for me anyways. Honestly you should back off and let her be with said person. I know that is hard but it doesn't show neediness.
kaycstamper Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 It's her actions you need to be focused on because that's what says it all. She is cheating on her current BF with you, knowing he doesn't want her to talk to you and him thinking she isn't. Is that the kind of person you want for yourself? If she is really in love with you, you'd be the one she'd be with and she wouldn't have an excuse. She isn't in love with anyone, she's cake-eating and not doing right by either of you. Forget her and move on, she's someone else's problem right now. What you fell in love with is an illusion and doesn't exist...keep looking for the right thing, you'll be happier for it when you find it.
TLCbear Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Just as one stated, she's cheating on her new guy with you. I would say back away and let her be with this new guy...you don't want to be the "other guy."
Author sweet dookie Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 So I told my ex i couldn't pretend that I liked the being in the friend zone so can't be her friend right now because it was painful. She said she still loves me and respects that because it was painful for her as well but right now she knows this is something she has to do. That part was confusing and she has said that b4 to me about the relationship that shes in. The way she puts it seems as if shes forced to be there. But I didn't respond and getting better knowing it I let it go.
Author sweet dookie Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 she just texted me happy sweetest day...im not going to responding. Why would she do that??
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