ResetReality Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Well can't say I surprised bound to happen really although now I can truly say when someone says they want to be single it is a load of ****, It pisses me off more how I asked her if there was someone else and she swore to me that there wasn't! How low can she go... don't get me wrong I have moved on, I'm just so bitter and angry towards her Just need to vent really
TLCbear Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Sorry this has happen to you, but it's a learning lesson, never take what anyone says at face value. It's a shame that some people can't be honest to save their life.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Sorry to hear how long was it between the break up and the new BF? The way I see it mine was never single she already had the guy lined up, possibly seeing him too and planned to break it public later, perhaps when I moved on or in say a few months so it doesn't look bad. All I ever asked for was honesty, the blow would have been the same however lessened as then the stringing along wouldn't have occurred plus the few months past attempting to get her back not knowing would have been easier.
Author ResetReality Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) Learning lesson for sure I've been taught to always tell the truth and have respect for people, I knew she could talk alot a crap but to my face while she was crying WTF? Ah well I realized I was sacrafising myself too much to be with her, and she was far too immature for me, sort of girl that had an upbringing on Disney films and went to her mommy and daddy when things hit the fan, seriously though I hope they're both happy I've not met him myself and I really don't know what she sees in him (we all say that though right) He can have my sloppy seconds She broke my heart but hey, I broke her hymen haha Edited October 14, 2010 by ResetReality
Author ResetReality Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 Meh she is full of **** I can type until my finger bleed but I don't want to waste my time, Can you imagine the lies she's been telling everyone about my to ease her guilt thats the part I hate the most We've been broken up 4 months but this guy was on the scene long before that She must of thought I was a stupid as her
thatsonlyme Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I completely agree with you OP. My ex did the same thing, she was even telling friends how she want's to be single, blah blah. I think she even convinced herself in all this BS. She also had a guy lined up and she stayed with him on the night she broke up with me. If at least she tried to make it look better like billy's ex, I could respect that. nope. she went out with one of our mutual friends right after break up and he was surprised when he saw her with another guy because he thought she was coming with me! few weeks before our break up she was acting like everything was normal, we were talking about buying a condo, planning our trip to LA...
michaelc82 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Yep, exactly what happened to me also.. Was living with my girl, we spoke about marriage, the whole deal.. Then one day she started acting strange, stopped wanting to have sex, and next thing I know she's telling me she wants to move out and go back to "Dating". She strung me along for a couple weeks so I took control of the situation, told her how I felt, and if she didn't feel the same way we were broken up. I asked her through out this break up if there was someone else and she kept on insisting that there wasn't, and that she didn't want to see other people, and needed some alone time. well 2 weeks later my friend saw her walking down the street for breakfast with a new guy holding hands.. And a week before that another friend saw them out for dinner. I confronted her about this and she didn't really say much other than she was dating this new guy, now they're fully together and she even had the nerve to take this coke addict, 40 year old divorcee on a trip her and I had planned for over a year. **** her, I'm pissed she would lie to me like this.. I was going to find out anyways. Sorry for the vent, hahaha. I'm really just disgusted with how she treated me, and also am dealing with the fact that I'm going to have a difficult time trusting another woman again. Why do us good guys always get screwed over??
xinchao123 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I ask myself this question on a daily basis but i think it is just for our best,that God just helped us sweep the wrong one out of our life. now i always believe that i will eventually have my right girl, that she is just right there, at the end of the road, waiting for me. So I just move forward, look forward day by day till i finally meet her
Ajax Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 My ex also told me she couldn't be in a relationship right now, and though I don't know that she is, I'm expecting to find out she has a new dude any day now. And I know exactly the type of guy it will be. He will be at least 10 years older than she is. He will have a band. He will have that cocky self absorbed aura about him that says "I have a band and can get in the pants of any chick I want." He will not be introduced to the family. Five-six months down the line she'll realize there's no future with this dude. Five-six months down the line I will get a text saying, "howdy stranger, how've you been?"
RDawg Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Crickey. It's inevitable though, isn't it. It's always a race to see who gets involved with someone else first. Sh*t, I hope I win that race cause otherwise I'll be spewing!! Does give a nice sense of finality though, I suppose..
Ajax Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Crickey. It's inevitable though, isn't it. It's always a race to see who gets involved with someone else first. Sh*t, I hope I win that race cause otherwise I'll be spewing!! Does give a nice sense of finality though, I suppose.. Personally I'd rather take my time and then find someone who really blows her out of the water. He who laughs last eh?
health Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Well can't say I surprised bound to happen really although now I can truly say when someone says they want to be single it is a load of ****, It pisses me off more how I asked her if there was someone else and she swore to me that there wasn't! How low can she go... don't get me wrong I have moved on, I'm just so bitter and angry towards her Just need to vent really Yup! Same thing happened to me - I caught her in an emoional affair 2 years into our relationship - heard the guy tell her on the phone - "What about us?" I left her there - she begged for me me back, so reluctanty I did - probably because the guy felt guilty and she couldn't get with him. 5 years four months - she's always with this one guy - I leave her out of anger - cause she was with him on a sunday night - I started a new job, she didn't go school nothing - call her the next day - ask her if she wants to work it out? Says no - I figure its a joke - bump into her friend 3 days later - show says she's with a new guy and happy - she denied it for 3 weeks - then it came out - and it was That guy she was with. These girls are not happy - they're miserable - I would never want to marry a girl who can't be alone and had this in her history Bottom line - they never gave us the love we deserved! Her new man is an alcoholic with no job with rage issues - oh well, peace to her. Just focus on improving in all ways, and lets never pick girls like this again!
jeff2321 Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Women can get sex ontap 24/7 like turning on a water faucet. If the idea of using sex to get over a relationship crosses a woman's mind, you better believe they will use that avenue to cope. I'd say 99-100% of my ex girlfriends immediately started screwing other men right after breaking up with me so they could 'get over me'. So the bad new is... Just plan on them screwing someone else. It's just the way it is. If it hasn't happened yet, it will ... it's only a matter of time. Jeff
rattled Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I guess I'll jump on the bandwagon as well. Ex strung me (acted like a couple, sex, etc.) until her current new bf came into her life and i was quickly dropped. Worst part is she continues to tell her current bf that she hasn't even dealt with me for months when in actuality she was still sleeping with me and talking to this guy at the same time. Go figure. Heart goes out to all the fellas on this thread. We need it.
Author ResetReality Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 I guess it is a little comforting to know that I'm not the only one who has this crap I don't know how long they've been together and I'm not sure if it's a rebound but she seems like she has downgraded, Dont get me wrong I'm not a big headed I would understand if I got shafted for someone who was alot better looking better job better car better everything but I didnt, I got dumped for a boy not a man Still I did say she was immature I could of offered her so much more but I guess she didnt want it, maybe in the long run she will wake up but by then Hopefully I will have moved on with someone who appreciates me and the things we do for one another Until then keep looking forward I wish everyone else the same
stillafool Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Well can't say I surprised bound to happen really although now I can truly say when someone says they want to be single it is a load of ****, It pisses me off more how I asked her if there was someone else and she swore to me that there wasn't! How low can she go... don't get me wrong I have moved on, I'm just so bitter and angry towards her Just need to vent really You're right. I've never known anyone who said they wanted to be free who didn't have someone else they were waiting to date. Try to let go of the bitterness and anger if you can. She isn't worth it.
silic0ntoad Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Most people are weak. They define themselves by the relationship. They simply cannot cope with being alone. It devalues them. In my opinion, people like this need therapy. The way they build up lives with people then smash them asunder, and start over, is completely selfish and unfair. I'll never understand it. You have to realise that this is who you dated. You dated a coward. She didn't want to confront her problems, since it made the grass harder to mow on your side of the fence. It's easier, in her mind, to mow it on the new guys side, since it doesn't take any effort, and the problems aren't there. I don't buy it. Cowards, all of them. If people were just as cowardly as they are now 70 years ago, the Nazis would still be killing off Jews in Europe.
Author ResetReality Posted October 15, 2010 Author Posted October 15, 2010 You're right there mate, she jumped from her old bf to me then straight to this new guy Hence why im so annoyed I respected her when she said she wanted to be single and left it at that Like you said it seems she always wants someone in her life to give her attention, I feel down that I got taken like a fool, while she's out there shagging this other bloke and doing thing we used to do While in here writing this with lump in my throat what a chump I am I hate I got played like a fool I was blind to it all What a bitch
Sonolumino Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Most people are weak. They define themselves by the relationship. They simply cannot cope with being alone. It devalues them This is 100% true and was the case with my ex. She would tell her friends "I don't know how to be single". With these people there is nothing "real" about the relationship, just a need fulfilled.
health Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Women can get sex ontap 24/7 like turning on a water faucet. If the idea of using sex to get over a relationship crosses a woman's mind, you better believe they will use that avenue to cope. I'd say 99-100% of my ex girlfriends immediately started screwing other men right after breaking up with me so they could 'get over me'. So the bad new is... Just plan on them screwing someone else. It's just the way it is. If it hasn't happened yet, it will ... it's only a matter of time. Jeff See, I put myself in a bad mind set cause of what you said. In a way it's a generalization - Not All girls do that - cause the thing is - us guys can do it too - but there are so many low quality girls out there - if they use sex to get over a good relationship - they devalue themselves so much - crap guys out there too! It bothers me cause I used to think my girl and I were a great team - and I was her first - I don't have a laundry list of girls I've been with and the one I settle with I don't want her to have one as well. I see what you mean though - we have to accept that they have been with others and will be going forward. Hope everyone heals well in this post!
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