livbylove22 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Hey everyone, im new here. I love my bf with all of my heart and i know he loves me too. Things are amazing when were together and i have always trusted him. But lately things have been bothering me. We are in an ldr, we try to see each other once a month but its kind of hard because we are 8 hours apart. We have great communication, we talk a lot whether its deep thoughts or just about anything. I've come across some very strange things he's told me about. He is 21 years old and works at a good paying job. Sometimes be claims to have enough money to do whatever he wants. And he is often a workaholic. At one time he worked two jobs for extra cash which i didn't quite understand if he had a lot of money you know?? Everytime i visit he is low on cash. I never say anything because its not a big deal to me. I am low sometimes too and he will always pay for me. Here's the issue. He claims to have owned a2010 camero which i never saw in person. He told me he owned it first, then he said it was the company's and they let him use it. But when i came to visit he didn't have a car at all. I asked him what happened to the camero and he told me he sold it because a friend offered him good money for it. This did not sit right with me. Why would anyone sell their car knowing they don't have a car afterwards you know? And plus how can you all a company car if you don't own it you know? As of now he is having friends drive him around to work or they let him borrow the car if he needs to run an errend. I let the car thing go because i didn't really know what to think. Then he told me he bought a house. I found this very skeptic. Considering he was always low on money. So i said oh great next time i come i get to see it and he's like yea. Well i ended up coming to visit and he suggestedwe both stay at a hotel because he wasn't ready to bring me to his house yet. That was when i knew something was up. I knew he must have been lying about having the house. So i said fine but can we at least drive by so i can see it?? First he said no but i was mad so he said ok we will drive by. Well we drove by the house it looked kinda empty. Like no one lived there from far away. I dlidnt ask any questions i just kept my mouth shut. When i got home i looked up online the house records and it said that this house has not been on the market since 2008. That's when i knew he lied. I also snuck away and drove there and it literally looked like no one was home or something. It was just too weird. I confronted him about this and he said he didn't know why the records online said that. He said i probably typed in the wrong address. Im like no i remember it and exactly how to get there too. I told him the address and he said i looked up the wrong property. But o know it was that house. It looks very different from all of the houses on the block and its in a dead end. There were no other houses around there. He claims i have the wrong house! I know i am not wrong here. Well i have not dropped this since i found out. I told him that i love him but he needs to tell me the truth. That i don't care what he owns or how much money he has but to tell me the truth. He insists that this house is his! Well months have passed and i brought it up again. He claims to have sold the house! I said how did you sell it and not even mention it to me?? He said he forgot, and that he's living with a friend. I know he is living with his friend because i know the guy. I know he is lying about this but i have no idea why! Maybe he feels that he is not good enough for me unless he has all of these things?? He also had claimed to own a beach house but then sold it beforei could see it. I know he adores me that is not questionable. But i can't for the life of me understand why he can't come clean about this. I told him it is over if he doesn't come clean. He kept telling him not to leave him that he loves me so much but he is not lying. That im accusing him of things thaarnt true. Sometimes i want to believe him but when i look at the facts it is just impossible. Please dot tell me to leave him because i will not. I love him and we have come a long way to give it all up. I love him so much. What do you think is wrong with him?? Is he delusional??
Author livbylove22 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 I also want to add that he has admitted to having money problems. He said things are a mess right now for him and that he has a lot of bills to pay. I know this is true and i told him i do not care if he has no money we have each other and we will work at it together. He then got angry and said that i don't understand that its not easy to tell your gf that you are struggling financially or that he doesn't have a car. I told him its okay but he said its not that everything in his life is a mess right now and that im the only thing that keeps him going. We are planning on moving in together by next year when im done with school but i don't want to unless he comes clean about this. But he insists he is not lying. He says he's never lied to me that he loves me so much and would never lie to tge one he loves.
Yvette_Sveden Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 He is 21 years old and works at a good paying job. Sometimes be claims to have enough money to do whatever he wants. And he is often a workaholic. At one time he worked two jobs for extra cash which i didn't quite understand if he had a lot of money you know?? Everytime i visit he is low on cash. Red flag. Here's the issue. He claims to have owned a2010 camero which i never saw in person. He told me he owned it first, then he said it was the company's and they let him use it. But when i came to visit he didn't have a car at all. I asked him what happened to the camero and he told me he sold it because a friend offered him good money for it. Red flag. After I read that part, I knew it was going to get worse from there, but I couldn't help myself. I had to read on. This did not sit right with me. Why would anyone sell their car knowing they don't have a car afterwards you know? And plus how can you all a company car if you don't own it you know? Because it's a lie. I let the car thing go because i didn't really know what to think. Oh my God! What are you doing to yourself? Then he told me he bought a house. I found this very skeptic. After reading what you said up until this point, I found this skeptical, too. Considering he was always low on money. So i said oh great next time i come i get to see it and he's like yea. Well i ended up coming to visit and he suggestedwe both stay at a hotel because he wasn't ready to bring me to his house yet. That was when i knew something was up. I knew he must have been lying about having the house. So i said fine but can we at least drive by so i can see it?? First he said no but i was mad so he said ok we will drive by. Well we drove by the house it looked kinda empty. Like no one lived there from far away. I dlidnt ask any questions i just kept my mouth shut. When i got home i looked up online the house records and it said that this house has not been on the market since 2008. That's when i knew he lied. I also snuck away and drove there and it literally looked like no one was home or something. It was just too weird. I'm starting to get nauseous reading this. I confronted him about this and he said he didn't know why the records online said that. He said i probably typed in the wrong address. Im like no i remember it and exactly how to get there too. I told him the address and he said i looked up the wrong property. But o know it was that house. It looks very different from all of the houses on the block and its in a dead end. There were no other houses around there. He claims i have the wrong house! I know i am not wrong here. Why you stayed with him after this point is beyond me. Next thing you know, he'll tell you that his uncle is dying in a hospital and that he must see him. Only to find out that the uncle he's talking about is alive and well at the time he was supposedly at the hospital. That i don't care what he owns or how much money he has but to tell me the truth. He insists that this house is his! He's afraid that if he DID come clean about it, that you would leave him, even if you said that you wouldn't. Well months have passed and i brought it up again. He claims to have sold the house! I said how did you sell it and not even mention it to me?? He said he forgot, He FORGOT? How convenient. I know he is lying about this but i have no idea why! Maybe he feels that he is not good enough for me unless he has all of these things?? He also had claimed to own a beach house but then sold it beforei could see it. I know he adores me that is not questionable. But i can't for the life of me understand why he can't come clean about this. I can't for the life of me understand why you're still with him after all of this. He would not have had you go though all those lies had you lived much closer to him. Did you know that? That fact that you're far for him, gives him the route to come up with these big lies because you're not immediately there to see it upon request. What would it take for you to leave him? What lie would he have to tell you before you say that enough is enough? Please dot tell me to leave him because i will not. I love him and we have come a long way to give it all up. I love him so much. What do you think is wrong with him?? Is he delusional?? You know deep inside, there is a part of you that you don't know exists. That part is telling you to leave him. You are the one who's delusional for not putting two and two together and leaving him. I think you're staying with him because the phony life that you've been lying to yourself into hoping that he has is SO MUCH better than what the reality is. And the reality is that he has NONE of it. None of that is not so lavish as opposed to the 17-room mansion that he will tell you that he "lives in." You need the push to leave him and that's why you're here. If you don't want us to tell you to leave him, then what do you want us to tell you? He's sick for lying to you. You're more sick for buying into this nonsense.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Is he delusional?? No, but you've narrowed down the obvious answer:
ComeUndone Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 i dont know if i should believe him anymore.. No, you shouldn't . Why do you want to stay with a man you can't trust?
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