nat_nat Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Hello everyone! I have never let a man see me without makeup (or anyone other than family actually), but I haven't had the opportunity to anyway as I've never spent the night with a guy. I know I'm not completely repulsive, but I feel quite paranoid about my bad skin (I'm 19 so unfortunately a few spots are basically inevitable!!) I'm not bothered about not having any other makeup on, as long as my skin is flawless, I still feel great. But I definitely have a LOT more confidence when I am completely 'done up' (Just to be clear, I don't paint makeup on clown-style, it's very natural looking!) QUESTION TIME!!!: So, Girls: Have you ever let your man see you wearing NO makeup whatsoever? How do you feel with/without it on? What does your man think of you with/without it? And Guys: Do many women let you see them without any makeup on? What do you think the first time you see them completely natural? And what do you think of makeup wearing in general? Thanks in advance everyone, this is something I worry about quite a lot!
counterman Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I prefer it if girls' faces weren't caked up with make-up. A bit of make-up is fine, say, to give that bit of a blush, pinkish hue. Girls I usually see with make-up, I haven't seen them without. Girls I usually see natural, sometimes wear make-up. However, I should say, my cousin wears a lot of make up and when she goes without... she looks completely different. In my opinion, she looked better with make-up. I understand that if you're skin is flawless you would have much more confidence. But, is there anyway you can work on it without covering it up with make-up?
Eclypse Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 My girlfriend has rosacea and so she wears a lot of make-up usually. I tell her she looks just fine without it but she feels really bad about her skin so she insists on wearing makeup always. I'm not overly fussed really, I think she looks gorgeous as well even without it but she won't have any of it I don't think your man would mind it. TBH the first time I saw her without makeup I didn't really notice anything it was only when she pointed it out to me that I noticed her skin was actually affected by rosacea So you'll be just fine I think
greenwood Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 HI, I practically do not wear full make up at all, except maybe once or twice in a month when going out to see a play or to a very elegant place. What I use daily is transparent mascara (it is so much better than the regular ones...) and lipstick, but only natural color. However, I do have facials regularly, and use very good ( and very expensive) cosmetics such as face creams, masques etc. I have also noticed that if i do a lot of workouts and eat fruits at least 5 times a day my skin looks a few years younger. I used to wear full make up when I was younger all the time, but I realised that with the right cosmetics your face should look absolutely perfect without makeup - fresh, healthy and clean. Of course a little make up could change the looks a bit, but you need to pick the right ones carefully and use the right amount. Anyway, I think what most guys prefer is nice smell, freshness and silky touch rather than make up... Although I do not know guys your age, I usually hang out with older ones. I would say if you are using make up, try to keep it natural and be careful not to put too much of anything on, because people will get used to it and they will be shocked if they see you without it. Also you are very young, so I think your skin naturally looks beautiful to guys. Eat healthy and excercise alot to keep the looks.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I wear "natural" makeup in professional settings, and sometimes in casual ones. I would never want to let anyone see me only with makeup on. I know some women who do this, and since you get accustomed to seeing them with makeup always, they usually look like the walking dead without it.
Star Gazer Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I wear "natural" makeup in professional settings, and sometimes in casual ones. I would never want to let anyone see me only with makeup on. I know some women who do this, and since you get accustomed to seeing them with makeup always, they usually look like the walking dead without it. Ha! Subconsciously that might be one of the reasons I occasionally go without makeup, so that it's not a shock when I don't. I've never really had a fear of being seen without makeup, but I really only use it to enhance my features, not cover anything up. I usually wear casual makeup daily to work because I look more polished and professional that way. But today I'm only wearing mascara, nothing else. It's the one thing I have to wear everyday otherwise my eyes look weird (blonde, almost clear eyelashes). I strip it off as soon as I get to the gym though. Speaking of... OP, you never ever go out without makeup? Even when working out?
a_woman Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I hardly ever wear make up but I look after my skin and eat a lot of fruit, drink water and exercise. I wear mascara on most days however and eyeliner when I remember. Men appear to like that I'm not into make up, they comment on it. Don't think I'd date anyone who expected me to cake my face in paint.
yessy21 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 i wear mascara and lip loss eye liner and a bit of shadow. nothing else. my ex boyfriend said i was in no need of it. i was beautiful without it and gorgeous with it sooo it was a win win situation. i go to work sometimes without makeup and i feel ok about it. u should try it to see if other people would notice.
tigressA Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I usually go without any makeup; I prefer not wearing it. I focus on keeping my skin looking good enough to go without it. Note: that doesn't mean flawless. I have no problem letting guys I date see me looking completely natural. Most guys I've dated, as well as been friends with, have said they don't like girls who wear a lot of makeup--by a lot they mean really bright or dark colors, visible foundation/powder, etc. Some have said they don't like any makeup at all and complain when their girlfriends wear it.
LisaLee Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I use to tell my boyfriend "You will NEVER see me without makeup!!" but then this last summer I got a severe case of the lazies and said f)(k it, and literally went everywhere without makeup. I just started wearing it again when school started back up. He's still with me, so he mustn't think I'm too frightening without my makeup.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I have somewhat of a natural aversion to it. I think it may be part of why women of color register so quickly on the beauti-ometer to me--the natural melanin in the skin makes for generally less visible flaws in the complexion which in lighter complexions have to be masked to achieve that blemishless look. So, less is more if one doesn't need it. I do like kissing a women with lipstick though--it feels slippery good and sooooo wood-producing. Splush.
SilentVoice Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I usually will not leave the house with out my mascara , lip balm(not lip gloss) and cheek highlighter. I personally don't wear concealer or foundation.I just moisturize my face in the morning and night. And make to clean off mascara or eye liner before I go to sleep. I don't care if the guy I am seeing see me with out makeup. I try to keep my make up to a minimum anyway so that when special events do come around I don't look the same.And no one likes a cake face anyway.
carhill Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 And Guys: Do many women let you see them without any makeup on? What do you think the first time you see them completely natural? And what do you think of makeup wearing in general? Every woman I've ever been intimate with has appeared to me sans makeup at one time or another, most generally often. What do I think? That they look like people. A few (non-intimate) ladies whom I've rarely seen without makeup surprised me by how attractive they appeared without it. They might disagree, and some have, but that's my opinion as a man. I think makeup has a great purpose, to accentuate one's natural beauty and to have a bit of fun trying out different appearances. Beyond that, I'll leave it to women to decide its personal importance and purpose. It's their choice.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I usually go without any makeup; I prefer not wearing it. I focus on keeping my skin looking good enough to go without it. Note: that doesn't mean flawless. I have no problem letting guys I date see me looking completely natural. Me, too. Lately, even when I wear makeup, I am skipping the foundation and only wearing a little bit of mascara and lipstick. I think it looks even better this way -- more natural and sensual.
denise_xo Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I don't wear make up. Rare exceptions are special occassions like a wedding or maybe once a year in a work related setting.
Arabella Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I happen to think, at least for daytime makeup... if people can tell you're wearing it at all, you're doing something wrong. Every morning I put on semi-sheer foundation, concealer, and translucent powder... this is to even out the skintone. Then slight blush and mascara. People comment on how good I look without makeup very often. I just laugh and say nothing. From my experience, what guys don't like it is when a woman applies makeup in such a way that makes her look like a clown. This is usually caused by inexperienced application (like not blending foundation correctly), or colors that don't complement one's complexion (like black mascara on a blonde girl). A lot of girls do themselves a disservice by following current makeup trends instead of learning what looks good on them. Arabella
eerie_reverie Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I tend to wear makeup for work and going out, but I'm not paranoid about being seen without it. The other day I didn't wear any to work and I actually got a lot of compliments for being "beautiful" without it. Personally, I think I look better with it, but no one has ever been shocked by the way I look naturally.
anne1707 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I strip it off as soon as I get to the gym though. Speaking of... OP, you never ever go out without makeup? Even when working out? Oh I hate it when I go to the gym and see women with full make up on . But then they usually never do enough exercise to break into a sweat I wear make-up for work and if going out in the evening. Any other time then I go without.
Stung Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 When I was your age, OP, I was pretty rigid about always wearing makeup out in public or around my boyfriends, because I felt like I needed to enhance my features to be attractive, I had low self-esteem and was insecure about my basic facial structure. I'm a lot more comfortable in my own skin, now, at 35--and it's funny, I look back at pictures of the girl I was at 19 and I'm like, damn, I was super hot! Why was I so worried about how I looked all the time?! I can laugh about it now but I really stressed about it then, and it was such a waste of time. I am married, and my husband sees me without makeup more often than not. I am usually bare-faced around the house, and pretty casual about makeup in my current daily life: lip balm, possibly tinted lip balm, oil-control powder, maybe lash tint, moisturizer with a high SPF built in. Most of the time we are going on hikes or to the beach or chasing our kids around, I can't even picture doing full warpaint for activities like that these days, it seems silly. If we're going out for dinner or to a party or something, then I usually wear more makeup, go for that smoky eye. Generally I concentrate on keeping myself clean and healthy, I drink lots of water, I take good care of my skin. I still break out sometimes at 35, which sucks, but in my case it's mostly hormonal and being on the birth control pill takes care of it. I still like the theater of makeup, from time to time. I have some really colorful sparkly mineral eyeshadows and dark lipsticks and maybe once or twice a year I choose some event to go to so I can wear my fancy threads and get all dramatic with my face .
Stung Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 From my experience, what guys don't like it is when a woman applies makeup in such a way that makes her look like a clown. This is usually caused by inexperienced application (like not blending foundation correctly), or colors that don't complement one's complexion (like black mascara on a blonde girl). A lot of girls do themselves a disservice by following current makeup trends instead of learning what looks good on them. VERY true.
brainygirl Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I tend to not wear makeup. I will use a moisturizer. I will put a little eye shadow, mascara. I hate the way full make up feels on my face, like I'm wearing this mask, I can't blow my nose or touch my own face without worrying about smearing it. It also makes me itch, which makes me want to touch my face, which I can't without rubbing off the make up and hence a horrible cycle. Aside from a few people here critiquing my photos, which show me with absolutely no makeup, no one has been a bit negative about me not using makeup.
threebyfate Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 QUESTION TIME!!!: So, Girls: Have you ever let your man see you wearing NO makeup whatsoever? How do you feel with/without it on? What does your man think of you with/without it?Yes, my husband does see me without makeup all the time! I let him see me without makeup within the first two weeks of dating so he knew what to expect. He didn't even notice until I mentioned it. Then, he did one of those intense peering looks, said "oh, yeah" and continued on with our conversation. So seriously. Don't worry so much. Go au naturelle with the guy you're dating so the sooner he sees you like that, the better. Any guy who would reject someone based on a lack of makeup, is a guy you want to ditch.
audrey_1 Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I happen to think, at least for daytime makeup... if people can tell you're wearing it at all, you're doing something wrong. Every morning I put on semi-sheer foundation, concealer, and translucent powder... this is to even out the skintone. Then slight blush and mascara. People comment on how good I look without makeup very often. I just laugh and say nothing. From my experience, what guys don't like it is when a woman applies makeup in such a way that makes her look like a clown. This is usually caused by inexperienced application (like not blending foundation correctly), or colors that don't complement one's complexion (like black mascara on a blonde girl). A lot of girls do themselves a disservice by following current makeup trends instead of learning what looks good on them. Arabella ^^^^^^^^^^^ Exactly what Arabella said.
Titania22 Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 My story is reversed. I seldom wore any makeup when I was younger. And have started wearing it this year, when I go out socialising, or just want to feel extra pretty. It makes a big difference to my overall attractiveness. I have noticed that I am likely to get hit on, if I am wearing makeup, but will be completely left alone if I don't. This actually gives me great control over my experiences when I go out. Which is absolutely lovely (and empowering), as when I was 18 I was getting hit on no matter what I looked like (which was disempowering, because I didn't know how to get left alone). I know that must sound conceited, but at the time, I didn't think I looked that good, and had low self esteem to boot.
Maggotface Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 You'll go without make-up around a boyfriend eventually just out of sheer laziness. I don't mind not wearing it sometimes, depends on if I have a morning class or not. I'll throw on some mascara and eye liner and not much else. I'm young also and still get blemishes but I really hate the cakey feel of foundation. Also, I think a little make-up on your eyes can go a long way, I look sick or tired without a little eye liner on.
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