pumpkin19 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 So he broke up with me about 5-6weeks ago because we've both graduated from uni now and we're living at home which are about 4 hours apart so he couldn't handle the distance and not knowing when he'd see me as we are both traveling (not together) in Jan and are both working lots to earn as much money. We've spoken on the phone since we split and have been texting on and off. I did the NC thing for like the first 3 or 4 weeks. The other day I text saying that sometimes I still miss him a bit (this was relevant to the convo we were having because something reminded me of him). He replied: "I f***ing miss you. Especially these past two weeks for some reason. Would be great to see you soon" plus a few other things. I didn't know how to react so kind of said yeah will probs see you *here* (theres plans for a reunion and if it goes ahead we'll both probably be there). I can't get my head round this, what does this mean? I text a few days later saying "why did you say you miss me?" And he replied "Im sorry. Just thought I'd be honest." I really don't know how to act on this, any advice would be much appreciated!
The-Zen-Warrior Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 pumpkin19 : First off, I personally think you are putting way to much energy into trying to figure out things! So during a text chat your ex-boyfriend says that "I f**king miss you"! And several days later you remind him of his words and ask why? He responds to you that he was "just being honest"! What is so hard to figure out here? The man apparently misses the h*ll out of you and from the sounds of it, wants to see you again. Personally, I think it was kind of silly for you guys to break up in the first place. So what if you both live 4 hours away from each other. So what if you both graduated college, many graduate college each day, and I don't see them breaking up with their loved ones. Is there anything to your story that is missing, and or that we all need to know about? For this just doesn't make any sense to me, why if things were "oh so good" that you would let a little thing like 4 hours travel break you guy's up? Did something happen before graduation that was bad, negative or very upsetting to either one of you? I don't know, still doesn't make much sense to me. In my opinion here, I think your kind of making a mountain out of a mole hill! Next time you see each other, I would suggest that both of you have a "sit down" and maybe reevaluate your relationship, maybe this time try not to let 4 hours travel time be the basis of your decision. Sounds like your in for a real treat next time you guy's are together. You miss him, he misses you...............what's there think about!
Author pumpkin19 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 When you put it like that it does seem like I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill. My point was more that he said he missed me, and that's it. Actions speak louder than words and surely if he truly wanted to see me he'd make it happen. But maybe we haven't got that far yet. Sorry if I didn't explain the situation fully, just tried to get the brief background in. Well he broke up with me (we'd been together 2 years) and it was completely out of the blue for me. I was usually the one who found the long distance hard and he'd always be chilled out about it and strong when i said I found it hard. I know he'd become close to a girl at work and they were texting and speaking lots. Also he lied to me about being with her and another work colleague to "stop me getting paranoid" one night. But even after all this when i went mental at him for this, he said that he was still head over heels in love with me etc. We spoke on the phone about 2 weeks ago and we spent about 40 minutes just catching up and then i asked him if he was seeing anyone else because a few people had mentioned it to me. He said that he was upset people had been saying this. I told him I'd be happy for him if he was, I just want the truth. He said that he wouldn't say he's seeing someone else, he's just become close to this girl from work and they've been hanging out lots. I took this as they're probably sleeping together. I dont want to be strung along. Yeah I miss him, I really do and of course I still love him but I dont want to get my heartbroken again, I've done the hard of coping with the break up. I just want to know if he really misses me or is stringing me along or just misses our relationship. Should I wait for him to contact me next? I told him that i didnt know how to take what he'd said. There's also the problem of me being traveling for 6 months as of Jan and he's going to other parts of the world for 3 months Jan-March. Thanks for your comments though TZW, really appreciate it.
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