Amor23 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 If you want to read the entire thing story is here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t247844/ 3 days before she broke up with me, I found out that my ex cheated on me with a guy that she said was just her "friend." I never ever expected this, and even after she broke up with me she still called me every night and almost every morning. Yesterday was a turning point for the best we hung out and everything was exactly the same as before. It was perfect and I felt like we were truly going to get back together. Lots of cuddling and kissing and even sexual interaction, but no intercourse because she was on her period. Well then today turned for the worse... while she was at her friends, she lays it on me that she is joining the military (in a year) and that she can only be friends. I said no, I couldn't do that and told her I didnt want to be friends. But I know there was more reason then this. Well just now, her best friend confronts me and tells me everything. That she had cheated on me with the guy she said she was just friends with, and that she was texting him all the time and pretty much stalking him. And that she also told her that I was blowing her up and that I was the one talking to her but in-fact, I was not contacting her and she was the one calling me at night. Her friend also told me that one morning she called him and was like "yeah i was supposed to call my ex this morning but im not going to" Her friend couldnt hide it from me anymore.. and she barely even knows me she said she couldnt listen to her anymore and she said it was right for her to tell me because it was completely wrong for her to be doing this to me. She said that she was sorry for not telling me before, and told me my ex has been leading me on since the 27th of septemeber... (When she broke up with me....) And still is talking to the other guy who she cheated on me with, but he no longer wants anything to do with her... Im so broken, so hurt... I knew she probably liked this kid.... But I never NEVER thought she would cheat on me. This is such a low blow I just want to throw up and cry... Should I confront her..? Her best friend even wants me to! Please help I just want her to tell me the truth so I can get the hell on with my life....
Audieme Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Boy oh boy, if there was ever a case for starting immediate NC, this would be it. Cut her off. Talk to someone (NOT HER FRIENDS) to help you get through this, talk here on LS even, but steer clear of her or she'll turn you into an emotional wreck, more so than she already has (correct?). She is poison.
Lemontang Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Yep, go NC and go all out doing it too. Block her number, block her on FB. What ever it takes, because it's only going to hurt you more. I was lucky enough to dodge a bullet with an old ex of mine who cheated. She cheated on me once but we worked through it. I later find out that she'd cheated on me a number of times and still was with different guys...and this was just after I brought a ring too...needless to say I brought a pretty sweet motorcycle with that ring but that's another story.
Author Amor23 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) I cant go NC just yet, I need to hear it from her mouth that she cheated one me. I called her friend this morning to talk to my ex because she wouldn't answer her phone. (they get ready together) and I straight up told her I knew everything and she just continued to lie, saying that it never happened and that I was crazy to think she would ever do anything like that. She even said I cant believe you would think after 8 months you would think of me like that. She got very angry told me to suck a dick and hung up. Two minutes later her friend texted me and said. "Im soo sorry, but she just wont tell you." I asked her why and she just said that "she didn't know but, she wouldn't tell me." And told me she just wanted to make it seem us breaking up was all my fault. My ex even told her friend that "she knows what she did was wrong but just wont tell me. How do I go about getting it out of her? After I do I will never talk to her again. I know I should start NC right now but this is just something I have to do... Edited October 14, 2010 by Amor23
lizzibeth Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 yeah, I don't think that confronting her will do any good. Like posters before me, NC is probably your best course of action right now. Good luck P.S. I just read your update...why do you NEED to hear it from her?
lkjh Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Go NC, right now you are chasing a girl that wants nothing to do with you. It makes you seem desperate
Author Amor23 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 Go NC, right now you are chasing a girl that wants nothing to do with you. It makes you seem desperate I need to hear it from her mouth because it will help me move on immensely. And the thing is, I never chased her after the break up, she pursued me, which led me to believe she still wanted to be with me.
ShannonMI Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I cant go NC just yet, I need to hear it from her mouth that she cheated one me. I called her friend this morning to talk to my ex because she wouldn't answer her phone. (they get ready together) and I straight up told her I knew everything and she just continued to lie, saying that it never happened and that I was crazy to think she would ever do anything like that. She even said I cant believe you would think after 8 months you would think of me like that. She got very angry told me to suck a dick and hung up. Two minutes later her friend texted me and said. "Im soo sorry, but she just wont tell you." I asked her why and she just said that "she didn't know but, she wouldn't tell me." And told me she just wanted to make it seem us breaking up was all my fault. My ex even told her friend that "she knows what she did was wrong but just wont tell me. How do I go about getting it out of her? After I do I will never talk to her again. I know I should start NC right now but this is just something I have to do... This girl will never come clean with you, so stop trying to get her to. What a b*tch she is! Leading you on and all the while cheating with and stalking this other guy. How sh*tty! You deserve better then this! Start NC now and don't have anything to do with her ever again. She's a toxic b*tch!
TLCbear Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Should I confront her..? Her best friend even wants me to! Please help I just want her to tell me the truth so I can get the hell on with my life.... She will not tell you the truth, I suggest you to move on. That's one thing I learned, no matter how much you want to KNOW the truth, you will not know because the accuser or cheater will deny, deny, deny. Let it go and move on.
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