TomerT Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Is there anything she can do or say to make you to truly forgive and give her a second chance ? If so, what it should be ?
fltc Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 No, nothing. Once trust is gone the relationship is ended.
fun2bewith Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 Is there anything she can do or say to make you to truly forgive and give her a second chance ? If so, what it should be ? I do believe that people can change and that if someone has a "good core" or "base line" they can do good again even if they did wrong before...I just think it takes some kind of "counseling" for the wrong doer...If you can change their focus you can influence their needs and then it can change their behaviour...
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 She could have got a second chance if she had acted appropriately. But she's screwed it up big time now, so no way, not ever.
swfc_77 Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 When my ex left me the first time and got with some1 else a week later, that broke down and she came running back to me. My mother said "everyone deserve's a second chance" worst advice i'v ever taken. dont do it, it will more than likley happen again, end in tears.
Author TomerT Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 When my ex left me the first time and got with some1 else a week later, that broke down and she came running back to me. My mother said "everyone deserve's a second chance" worst advice i'v ever taken. dont do it, it will more than likley happen again, end in tears. Thanks, lesson learnt ! How long after she left - she crawled back to you ? And how long after she came back - your relationships broken again ? Why do you think it happened ?
Tincup Posted November 4, 2010 Posted November 4, 2010 my ex wife cheated on me when we were dating in college...she didn't tell me about it until we were engaged...I forgave her because she got so upset when she told me and seemed really sorry for her actions....fast forward to 13 years of marriage and I find out that she was having an affair that ended the marriage. I believe once a cheat always a cheat...I have seen that personally, and had it happen to many friends.
Author TomerT Posted November 4, 2010 Author Posted November 4, 2010 my ex wife cheated on me when we were dating in college...she didn't tell me about it until we were engaged...I forgave her because she got so upset when she told me and seemed really sorry for her actions....fast forward to 13 years of marriage and I find out that she was having an affair that ended the marriage. I believe once a cheat always a cheat...I have seen that personally, and had it happen to many friends. Were those 13 years so bad ? Do you really regret about all this time ? If you were broke up with her then and marry say someone who didn't cheat on you, it still not a guarantee it will not happen after 13 years, don't you think so ?
reknown29 Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 if your perfectly fine with her cheating on you, then yeh, take her back... sounds like my nympho ex. to be the understanding type, its kinda like a disease. she probably cant help it.
Author TomerT Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 to be the understanding type, its kinda like a disease. she probably cant help it. Perfectly agree ! It's a disorder. I think this article can explain a lot of "unexplained" behaviours we can observe in our loved ones. http://www.bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a109.htm
Nemicron Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 once a cheater always a cheater. Is there anything she can do or say to make you to truly forgive and give her a second chance ? If so, what it should be ?
iamawesome Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 (edited) Once a cheater always a cheater is not true. I cheated on one of my girlfriends 3 different times. After the third time, I never cheated on another girl in my life, nor will I. It's pretty simple, I learned that if I wanted flings I could be single. If I wanted a relationship then it needed to be exclusive so it could be special. I think once a cheater always a cheater thing is more of a rule of thumb. Edited November 5, 2010 by iamawesome More text
skydiveaddict Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Is there anything she can do or say to make you to truly forgive and give her a second chance ? If so, what it should be ? I would not trust her. You can forgive her sure, but take her back? no way
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