cbonilla1987 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 So my ex broke up with me at the end of this past June. I bought two tickets for an art exhibit on Venitian paintings (her favorite), that will be showing beginning this Sunday the 17th, as a surprise birthday present that she didn't know of since her birthday was this past April. I just received these tickets today, and it reminded me of these plans. I have been NC since the break up, I was thinking of just giving them to her since art is not my thing, but don't want to break NC. What would you do? BTW I still have feelings for her.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 So my ex broke up with me at the end of this past June. I bought two tickets for an art exhibit on Venitian paintings (her favorite), that will be showing beginning this Sunday the 17th, as a surprise birthday present that she didn't know of since her birthday was this past April. I just received these tickets today, and it reminded me of these plans. I have been NC since the break up, I was thinking of just giving them to her since art is not my thing, but don't want to break NC. What would you do? BTW I still have feelings for her. What are the circumstances of your breakup? Did you dump her or did she dump you?
Author cbonilla1987 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 She dumped me. And while common sense says don't do it, I was also thinking of just giving them to her since I feel using the tickets is better than not.
LoveLace Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 So my ex broke up with me at the end of this past June. I bought two tickets for an art exhibit on Venitian paintings (her favorite), that will be showing beginning this Sunday the 17th, as a surprise birthday present that she didn't know of since her birthday was this past April. I just received these tickets today, and it reminded me of these plans. I have been NC since the break up, I was thinking of just giving them to her since art is not my thing, but don't want to break NC. What would you do? BTW I still have feelings for her. Well if you are that determined to make sure the tickets are used and not wasted, is she really the only one you know who would love to have them? If so, breaking NC will have to happen. But if you know someone else who you think would deserve to enjoy them, why not gift them instead of her and keep your NC? Better yet, post them online to see if you can sell them, too; then they are not wasted and your NC still stands...
Metal_Muffin Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I had a simular thing when i broke up with my ex. I had brought tickets for him to see his favourite band and they very rarely tour on our side of the pond. He had no idea about it and i had brought them as a birhtday present. I gave them to him, they were for him. If i had gone i would only of thought about him and i saw no point in putting myself through it. I still dont know if he even went, i gave them to him explaining how they were meant for him and he was to enjoy them but i still wanted NC so if he had any respect for me he wouldnt break it, I wrote him a note with them and got a mutual friend to pass it on. I know i broke the NC but he didnt and really thats what mattered to me at the time. He broke up with me as well and i still had feelings for him at the time but i knew for my own sanity it was best that i carried on moving on from him. Just do whatever feels best with them, there are ways around everything so if you want her to have them and you still want NC it is possible. Write a note, ask a friend to pass them on, simply just forward them on.
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 She dumped me. And while common sense says don't do it, I was also thinking of just giving them to her since I feel using the tickets is better than not. Maybe mail them to her with a short note saying: I bought these tickets before we broke up and I'm sending them to you because I don't want to waste them. I know how much you enjoy art. Or something along those lines. Then sign your name. Short and sweet
Author cbonilla1987 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Thanks for the suggestions, I have done well in trying to get my emotions back together, I'll do whatever makes me happiest I still just don't know what to do when something about HER comes up, so thank you!
Recommended Posts