tincanman99 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I was out shopping on Sunday. While I was browsing I noticed this cute woman. Did the guy thing and looked and than went on my way. While looking at the ski gloves the next thing you know she was standing next to me. I joked with her and said these brand gloves are very warm. It turned out to be somebody I kind of knew but was not really friends with at another gym I used to belong. Anyway the next thing you she is telling me how fabulous I looked since I lost the weight. She can see the change in my face and its dramatic. We talked about where we where working and living as I have changed both since the other gym. At one point I said to her I thought she had gotten married (which I did) and she just laughed and said nope. Anyway at the end I just said we should stay in touch. I was just joking and the next thing you know she was giving her number to text her which I did. Than she reminded me of her name (she has a very different name as she is Hispanic). It just shows that women really do notice whether men are fit or not. When I was at the other gym she would barely give me the time of day. I am not bitter about that at all as I understand it. She is exotic, fit and beautiful and quite honestly intimidates me. I have been hemming and hawing on this the last few days whether to contact her or not. Not because of her but because of me. I almost never meet women like this and am a bit nervous. I dont want to misread her intentions as maybe she was being just friendly. Any input is appreciated.
atlnay Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Call her. I do NOT give my number any man I have no interest in. That was a very good sign!
Star Gazer Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Call her. I do NOT give my number any man I have no interest in. That was a very good sign! Seconded! CALL her!!
JungleLover Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Call her! Forgive yourself if you are a little nervous. You will only get the experience with such women if you call them and ask them out.
Madgick Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I'm a woman and it's clear as a bell to me that she's interested. She: 1. Came over to you. Wait...make that CHOSE to come over to you. 2. Started a second conversation with you within minutes of the first. 3. Complimented you. 4. Gave you her number. She wants to get to know you better, she's definitely interested, and it's not fair to hold her good looks against her. Call her.
Marcia Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 ;)Call her !!!!!! of course. She only wants it and she is probably thinking why you havent done it yet.
Author tincanman99 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) ;)Call her !!!!!! of course. She only wants it and she is probably thinking why you havent done it yet. Because frankly I am terrified of her . I am not playing games with her. Thats not me but am just nervous about it. Its not like I havent dated before but I havent been on a date since before I lost the weight. Almost 1.5 years already. Edited October 14, 2010 by tincanman99
Author tincanman99 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 I dont believe in that making her wait for my call crap. The question is how bad is it if I contact her tomorrow? Is it too late. I know women tend to get irritated when they give a guy a number and he doesnt call.
Left in a Lurch Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Just call her. You're a bad-ass man and she can't think of anything but your bad-assedness. When you call her she'll probably drop the phone and crap her pants in excitement. Stop trying to find reasons to fail and get it done before someone else does. Grab your balls to remind you they are still there, pick up the phone and call her. When you call her just remember you have a special invitation from her that hundreds of other guys only wish they could get. If you're still nervous, go workout as hard as you can and call her from the parking lot when your confidence is at an all time high. If that doesn't work, punch yourself in the nuts for blowing a great opportunity.
Left in a Lurch Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I dont believe in that making her wait for my call crap. The question is how bad is it if I contact her tomorrow? Is it too late. I know women tend to get irritated when they give a guy a number and he doesnt call. Never too late. You should have called her by now. Do it tomorrow. No excuses.
Boolou Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 CALL HER CALL HER CALL HER!!!! I would NEVER give a guy my number that I struck the convo up with and JUST complimented if I didn't want him to call!!!!!!
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) Because frankly I am terrified of her . I am not playing games with her. Thats not me but am just nervous about it. Its not like I havent dated before but I havent been on a date since before I lost the weight. Almost 1.5 years already. Ok, stop right there. You are setting yourself up for a fall before you've even got started. This is something I've learned the hard way, but it's now a golden rule I try to live by: do not, I repeat, DO NOT put this woman on a pedestal. By all means, admit to yourself that you find her very attractive, but don't be intimidated by that fact. That's what we as men want: a woman who stirs our loins (as well as our mind, of course). You've found someone who fits that bill, so you should not waste any time. Call her today! But play it cool. Attractive women usually have a good idea of how attractive they are, because they invariably have men hitting on them all the time. You have to create the impression that, whilst you fancy her, your own self-image is strong enough not to be intimidated. In your mind, you should be thinking "I am an attractive man and I am quite capable of attracting other women who are as beautiful as she is". This is how you generate confidence in her presence, which is what women are after. The mindset you have at the moment is "Oh my god, I can't believe this beautiful woman is taking an interest in me. I'm not sure I deserve her". Edited October 14, 2010 by Tim The Enchanter
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