theone11 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Has anyone had results breaking NC? If they dumped you...and if so how long? Is it the 30 days they recommend, I feel anything longer than that just makes them forget about you. Or does a person just have to stick it out and hope for the best?
LoveTNT Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I broke NC yesterday after a month and a few days. I was the dumper, but he was confused about getting back with me, and he was upset with ,e and felt like he couldn't trust opening up to me, fair. I was so hurt. I tried for a month, then went NC for a month+. He reached out 2 weeks ago asking in an email if i still loved him, but I stayed NC because I felt it was safe and I didn't want to get all emotional. So his b-day is this Saturday, I sent him an email yesterday wishing him a great b-day and to be safe and to remember that his true purpose here on earth is golden... He hasn't replied, I'm thinking he's not, so I have to stay strong. I've been very hurt and sad the past 2 months, but I have to do what's right.
fabio10 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 NC is for you to heal first and foremost, all that crap on E-books about ohhhh leave it a month and contact is just cowboys trying to make money from people's suffering, it took me ages to realise NC is the only way, my ex dumped me and she is trying to contact me alot but what is the point I dont want to be her friend my feelings go beyond that and I cant get back with her cause we would not work at this moment in time, the longer you can stay in NC you will find yourself healing it takes time no one can put a scale on it, but dont talk to your ex if you want them back they must chase and chase and chase, and even then it more than likely it is not enough, dont be thinking 'how long should I go NC' just keep doing it if someone loves you truely, then absence to love is like wind to fire!
Author theone11 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Very good answers from the both of you, thanks. Fabio very good insight, how long did it take for her to chase you? And Love TNT you were the dumper what made you want to go back?
fabio10 Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 I dont know if she is chasing me cause I have not responed to her contacts she has tried ringing me alot so I dont know what she wants, me and her were best friends for 4years before we got together which makes the situation worse, I have made ALOT of mistakes just ask Don Ho and I'm sure I will make more in the future as it seems just when your at full strength you slip, the turning point for me was about 6-7weeks ago she came to visit my family as my dad is sick, it was thoughtful of her and brave too in a sense but I got foot in mouth and said some stupid emotional things to her such as 'I wish you werent my first love' and then I went cold turkey since and she has been trying to contact me the last 2weeks, is it easy for me to close her out = hell NO she was the most valuable person in the world to me even before we got together and now she is my first love but for ME I must heal and meeting her that day proved to me once and for all that I was not ready I will make sure she dose not see me in person for a long long long time, I love her and wish her the best but I love myself too. Enlighten me on your situation how long are you NC ?
Author theone11 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 Just check out my other thread on her man.
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