packerfan20 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Alright, this might be a long one, but I really need some help. So me and my girlfriend were dating for 6 months when we took a break for a few days. In those few days she began talking to a guy to distract her in losing me. They got to talking about kissing and that's when we got back together. That night we went to a dance and he was drunk, didn't know we were back together and he kissed her. I got over that and we were good for the next 6 months. Then we broke up, for good this time over some other issues. 2 days after we broke up she hooked up with that same guy, it devastated me and I never wanted to talk to her again. Recently we began talking again and hung out a few times, ended up kissing and getting back together. During the month and a half of us off I kissed another girl and told her. She was pissed and yelled at me and made me feel like crap. I want her back and didn't want to lose her again so I told her we could maybe eventually try working things out. Just this morning she told me that she got really drunk and kissed another guy in front of a bunch of her friends. I'm hurting worse than ever and don't know what to do. She's a great girl that has a lot of self-esteem issues and doesn't have any one to help her with big problems so I kind of understand, plus we were broken up. I'm mainly hurt that she didn't tell me this when I told her about the other girl I kissed. I really don't know what to do.. I'm happier with her, but I'm also more hurt. So basically.. #1- should I really try to work things out? #2- is there a way to go about forgiving and forgetting? I mainly just don't want to think about her with those guys, i just started college so I will rarely see them if at all but i'm anxious about it whenever I'm out around town
SithLord Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Show No mercy, show no weakness, that is the sith way. Let that go bro! u gotta keep ur balls as a man..its happening to many times and shes taking u as a sucker....this girl is not the 1 for u.
Author packerfan20 Posted October 14, 2010 Author Posted October 14, 2010 See like she's not though.. and today I found out that two times were completely forced. So she's kissed one guy, one time since we broke up. And I've done the same thing (only kissing a girl, obviously).
Lemontang Posted October 14, 2010 Posted October 14, 2010 Sorry dude but this is how things become toxic if not already. It's not about revenge or anything like that to make the other jealous, rather you need to step up and be the better person and just go "F**K it do what you want, I'm off to do my own thing and shouldn't feel I have to answer to you or walk on egg shells". It's not your job to care for her anymore. Especially since your now at college with which your going to meet other people anyway. I'd move on. An on again off again relationship like this will lead to more heart ache than happiness. It's like kicking a dead horse over and over again just to make sure it's dead.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Sorry dude but this is how things become toxic if not already. It's not about revenge or anything like that to make the other jealous, rather you need to step up and be the better person and just go "F**K it do what you want, I'm off to do my own thing and shouldn't feel I have to answer to you or walk on egg shells". It's not your job to care for her anymore. Especially since your now at college with which your going to meet other people anyway. I'd move on. An on again off again relationship like this will lead to more heart ache than happiness. It's like kicking a dead horse over and over again just to make sure it's dead. Lemonkick is right. YOur relationship has already been marred by betrayal and jealousy hence to revive it will only built up resentment. Even if neither of you did want you had done to get back at one another, the apparant outcomes seems to pronounce that the relationship will never be the same again. Besides, relationships that extend into college can hardly be everlasting, other things will alwys get in the way ie. distance, studies, work, etc. Accept what is done is done.
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