soma1980 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 How do you go NC and try to get over someone when your lives are so inter-twined?? I've been posting in the separation forum but i'll just give you a brief overview of whats been happening.....I found out four weeks ago that my STBXW had been having an affair for 6 months of our 2 year marriage, previous to that we'd been together for 11 years - she'd cheated before 2 years into the relationship. I'd known something was wrong for a while so did some digging into her email account and uncovered this other bloke from work...she moved out of our house and into her mum's the day I confronted her, since then we've talked a bit but things aren't retrievable and I don't think she wanted to retrieve things anyway which totally blew away any self esteem and confidence I had left...all I want to do now is go NC and move on which isn't going to be easy in itself as i'm really bad at meeting new people and making friends in order to move on...never been a strong point for me, our friends were all mutual and initially her friends which means I need to find new ones to make a clean break...like I said I find this really difficult , on top of all this we have loads of debt together and own a house which has subsidence problems and damp so will be very difficult to sell and needs alot of work before we could even think about putting it on the market...to sort out doing the works we have to speak which means end of any NC!! I'm so f*****g hacked off with trying to keep everything together emotionally whilst having all of these other things on my damn mind..... Just to add insult to injury she sneaked in today to take the rest of her clothes...it's like being knocked back all over again, i'm so unhappy at the moment and really struggling to cope...please give me your thoughts
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