Chebbab Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 English is not my native languange, So bear with me here. So me and my girlfriend was together for 1 year and 5 months, Everything was perfect until we've been together for 1 year and 3 months, Those last 2 months was almost miserable for me, She lost interest in me, Started hanging out with other guys/Texting them 24/7, Went out eating with them.. Ofcourse i suspected her for cheating, I confronted her about it, And she went totally crazy,She put a password on her cellphone, And then i didn't confront her again.. School started again(We're in the same class) She started to hang out with the girls in the class, And i.. Kinda hate my class so i just hung out with her and her friends.. The week before our breakup, She started to hang out with her new friends from class at some guys house, She spent nearly every wake hour there, Went there directly after school and then came home and went to sleep almost instantly. I didn't think about it that much, Since i dropped the cheating thingy.. Then i heard a rumor that she's been making out and hugging the guy, Confronted her about it.. She broke up with me by texting, "We need a to take a break, Please don't call me/txt until i text you" Then her bestfriend told me that the rumor was actually true, And the day after our breakup, She slept with the guy.. So i got really really depressed and started to suffer from anxiety, Went to a doctor and got sleeping pills and pills for my depression.. So now there's a month since our breakup, I've asked her numerous times if we can get together again, Her reply was "I don't know yet", Then i found out she's in love with the guy she slept with.. But he was just exploiting her for sex, Then she went through some rough weeks, She didn't eat,Sleep, Didn't go to school.. And she kept texting me all the time during this period, Because im the only one she can trust blabla... And today, I asked her for the last time.. Do you still have feelings for me? The answer was no, And i haven't talked to her since, But she keeps texting me,Calling me,Writing to me on MSN/Facebook, But i removed her from my FB friendslist, Blocked her on MSN, And removed her number. Because i can't be friends with the girl im still madly in love with, But she doesn't understand that... For the past month, I tried everything to get over her, I've been seeing other girls, I've slept with 3 of them, Gave all the stuff she wanted back, Told her to take back the gifts she gave me, Otherwise i'll throw them in the trash, I've burned all the notes she's written me during our relationship,Completely redecorated my room, Removed everything that reminded me of her.. But it doesn't work! The reason she wants to be friends is: Im her bestfriend, And she dont want to lose me as a friend, And im the only one she can talk to about her depression/anxiety because i also suffer from it, so i understand her.. So now my question is.. How do i get over her? And how can i ever be able to trust a girl again? I already had trust issues before i met her, Heck.. It took me 5 months to trust her just a little bit.. And how do i get her to understand that i can't be friends with her? Atleast not yet.. Again, I apologize for my terrible english
In_Repair Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Don't worry about her being able to understand it. If you need to get her out of your life, then do it. She isn't giving you the same courtesy, is she? Was she worried about your feelings when she broke up with you for another guy and then immediately began sleeping with him? Was she worried about you being able to understand any of that? NO... so to hell with her. Her depression is her problem - you didn't cause it and, because of her choices, you have no obligation to help her through it. Take a page out of her book and do what she did: look out for yourself.
Author Chebbab Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Actually, She said that during the week she spent with the guy before our breakup.. She was worried about my feelings.. I was starting to get over her, Until yesterday.. I was on my way to a friends house, And she like.. Came out of nowhere, Asked me for a smoke, Smalltalked a little bit, Just like friends.. Then before she walked away, She gave me a hug and said that she missed me.. , Then i spent the whole day being depressed over her.. AGAIN! And since we're in the same class, She asks me for a smoke like everyday, And trying to start a conversation.. Even tho, I said to her i don't want any contact with her.. At all, But she won't listen
Author Chebbab Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Just got a txt from her, Im appearantly being a immature idiot when i removed her as a friend on facebook..
Ajax Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Well she sounds like the immature one to me. In what way has she treated you like a friend? She's ignored you, broken your heart, and then wants to you to be her friend when it suits her. With friends like that, who needs enemys? You don't owe her anything. You might have to just tell her outright that she hurt you and that you can't be friends with her. If she doesn't understand then she doesn't care about you enough to let you heal, and that's not something a friend would do.
Username37 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Well she sounds like the immature one to me. In what way has she treated you like a friend? She's ignored you, broken your heart, and then wants to you to be her friend when it suits her. With friends like that, who needs enemys? You don't owe her anything. You might have to just tell her outright that she hurt you and that you can't be friends with her. If she doesn't understand then she doesn't care about you enough to let you heal, and that's not something a friend would do. ****ing A Ajax, ****ing A.
Author Chebbab Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Lol, I dont get this girl.. She has changed so much since she started to hang out with those retards in my class.. She keeps lyin' even after we broke up When i ran into her yesterday,I asked her if she like that new guy that she's been hanging with everyday this week, She lied straight to my face and said no.. And then i talked with her best friend(Which is my brothers girlfriend ) And she said that my ex is in love with this new guy.. So what the f*ck has happened to her?, First she's so deeply in love with me that she can't manage to live without me, Then she finds a new guy, Falls in love with him,Breaks up with me.. Find out he's just using her for sex, Starts to ignore him.. Find a new guy once again, And fall in love? And all this in 3 weeks?
Weekender Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Boy she sounds like a real winner. Sadly, and more than likely, she has some serious problems too. But they are her problems NOT yours. Don't hang around to lend support or try to fix her. I would go No Contact. I would recommend not even giving her a smoke. A few weeks from now you will look back and be glad you got out when you did...trust me.
Author Chebbab Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) I've went NC on her, And i ignored her today in school, When she asked for a smoke.. I put out my own cigarette, Said that it got kinda cold outside and went inside.. Then she started to cry and yelled at me.. But whatever, It's probably true that i will back at this and laugh at how pathetic she is.. She's not the girl i was in love with anymore, That would probably help me move on, Now that i realized it.. Edited October 13, 2010 by Chebbab
quankanne Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 boy, you got stuck with an immature little miss ... her behavior is very revealing. Do whatever you have to do to flush her from your life, including being curt to the point of rudeness. And yeah, I imagine she'll throw hissy fits because you're not following her script. But you know what? Screw her. You don't treat people the way she treated you and still expect to have them do what you want them to. a suggestion: Try to schedule different classes from her. Keep your distance. If she comes around, walk away – you don't owe her any explanations. And for pete's sake, tell her to bug off when she comes crying about her feelings. She screwed YOU over, and still expects YOU to comfort her? Pretty immature ... and unfeeling.
Author Chebbab Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 I wonder when she's goin to crawl back to me, We live in a pretty small town.. And everybody kinda know each other And when i told my friend that she's been cheating on me, The day after, The whole town knew.. So when she slowly realizes not one single guy wants to be together with her, Guess who's she's goin to return to? And everybody here knows what a unstable,attention seeking little crybaby she is, And like 50% of the guys here hate her for that.. Heck, She had not been with ONE single guy before she met me.. I can't re-schedule any classes, I dont know how the schoolsystem is in other countries but here it is: You choose one thing to study along with the basic subjects, English,Math that kind of stuff.. Me and my ex both study Hotel&Restaurant, Along with the basic classes.. I've asked the teachers if they can do anything, And the only thing they could do.. Was to avoid putting me and my ex in the same group when we have group projects..
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