ConflictedGuy27 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 this one's open for ladies & gents, so gimme your best shot. Issue: how likely is it that a girl is DONE with you when she let's her phone ring to VM (doesn't return a call) & doesn't answer texts anymore...?? I almost feel stupid posing the question but here's why I am: we went on about 5 dates in 4 weeks time. they all went well. she'd text me she had a great time... before I'd leave her house shed say, I'll see you again on X date, whatever. we casually progressed things to communicating daily, kissing, talk of sex (on her part, very coy like) but certainly headed in that direction. she did mention now's not a good time for a relationship, etc., but we still kinda moved in that direction, kinda acting as though. truth be told, I wasn't convinced I wanted a gf either, so I was happy with just winging things. anyway, she went on a trip (saw family & friends) and things got pretty silent after that. I sensed it and reached out at first, but after she didn't get back for about 2 days I just backed off. she eventually got back, and I was happy, but nothing really substantial was said. anyway, shes back now & I figured we'd pick it up where we left off, but guess she has other plans, lol. bummer, but oh well I guess. at this point ive reached out about 3 times over 9 days and the feedback's marginal. WTF... is my question I guess. never dealt with a woman who could be hot one min & cold the next. I have a lot going on professionally so forgetting about it all & moving on won't be hard; just wish I had a better explanation. maybe she already gave it when she said she wasnt in a good place to date or be in a relationship. any feedback you guys? thanks.
lebbis Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Give or take four weeks is considered the point where two people decide they want to take things to the next level in a committed relationship or move on. She said that it wasn't a good time for a relationship, so after these four weeks she either sensed it intuitively or thought it consciously that you guys were either going to take it a step further or move on. Another possibility is that the two of you got caught up in the your initial chemistry in the beginning but when she went away she had time to think of things more objectively. Perhaps she thought you guys weren't compatible on other levels. I think these are two satisfying explanations to where you don't have to wonder anymore.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 That's a really sucky situation. Anyone who is acting that distant after four dates, when things are supposed to start getting more passionate, is showing a clear lack of interest. As you've stated, you've already tried, and she's not acquiescing. It's a bummer, but I think all you can do now is let her go and move on.
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Give or take four weeks is considered the point where two people decide they want to take things to the next level in a committed relationship or move on. She said that it wasn't a good time for a relationship, so after these four weeks she either sensed it intuitively or thought it consciously that you guys were either going to take it a step further or move on. Another possibility is that the two of you got caught up in the your initial chemistry in the beginning but when she went away she had time to think of things more objectively. Perhaps she thought you guys weren't compatible on other levels. I think these are two satisfying explanations to where you don't have to wonder anymore. I agree. I'm satisfied with these two possibilities. I mulled over any possibilities of how I might have put her off somehow and came up pretty damn empty. oh well. we agreed kept our relationship out of the "public eye" as we know many of the same friends. we'll see if she comes to my big Halloween party. everyone, including her is pretty stoked about it; so we'll see if she has the guts to show. in which case, I'd just behaive as if there was never any issue.
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 That's a really sucky situation. Anyone who is acting that distant after four dates, when things are supposed to start getting more passionate, is showing a clear lack of interest. As you've stated, you've already tried, and she's not acquiescing. It's a bummer, but I think all you can do now is let her go and move on. yup, definitely a bummer. we had the initial chemistry alright. heh, but you're right, gotta let go and move on. got a lot on my plate as it is; she does too I bet.
Author ConflictedGuy27 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 one other tidbit... she wasn't complete over her ex bf who lives in the same town she went to visit. they hung out when she went back, so they likely hooked up & she's still stary eyed from the experience. saw some shots of them on her Facebook. doesn't change a thing, I'm just throwing out another possibility. Moving on now! thanks for the feedback
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