colliejoanie Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 So, dating a guy for a few weeks now....I think it's going so well! And then tonight!!!! Tonight, he's out of town, my cousin comes to my house for dinner and we have some wine. My new BF and I are skyping, talking about things....I ask when is his birthday???? He tells me it's in two weeks, and that his mom's coming. if she doesn't come, his grandparents want him to go to their place. If that doesn't happen, his two BFF's are taking him out...........I was thinking, "um, OK, it is quite obvious that he does NOT want to be with me on his birthday." And VERY shortly after the convo, we get off the phone. The wine spoke to me.....and I texted him about it.....that i was by no means inviting myself to his b-day, I was just wondering when it was.......GOOD LORD, he said that was not his intention....blah blah blah....... I'm SUCH an idiot!!!! And this is all via text, so it's right there!!!!! Damn the wine. Is there any hope to salvage any bit of self respect?
welikeincrowds Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Give yourself a pass. This is hardly egregious. Your fears represent the worst possible interpretation of your text, which is not the one I took when I read it. And I'm not the one who has feelings for you. I bet he barely noticed. As for "salvaging," that's easy. It never happened.
Sabali Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 That wine is also affecting your ability to write a clear post. Stay away from that stuff. Want to clarify?
Author colliejoanie Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Yes, it was probably unclear, as I was typing FOR MY LIFE!! haha! I completely made an insecure ass out of myself by questioning my brand new bf's comments about how busy he is on his birthday. My honest intention was just to ask when it was, and when he went in to the myriad options available to him FOR his b-day, my INSECURE ass thought he was making sure I knew we would not be together......so I asked him about it via text afterward.....to which he replied "that was not my intention at all. sorry to have come across that way. You worry too much". I feel like a heel. My question is, how in the hell do I attempt to recover from this????
Awesome Username Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Call, don't text, him and say, "Hahaha, sorry about that. I was drunk." Drama averted!
Author colliejoanie Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Call, don't text, him and say, "Hahaha, sorry about that. I was drunk." Drama averted! You're absolutely right. Thank you.
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