EyeAlone Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I was dumped recently by a guy that I had only been dating for one month. Unfortunately I became more attached to him than he was to me. Things were going really well and we clicked, but then BOOM he said he freaked out and couldn't see us together longterm. This blows because I really thought he was better than the rest. Apparently not! But this just adds to my already sky-high pile of misery. Many things have been going wrong for me and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. All I want is to be happy and have things go my way in the world of love. I've had miserable luck with relationships and I don't quite understand why I can't find anyone who loves me as much as I love them. I also regret sleeping with him. I bet all he was sticking around for was the sex. Anyway, all of this is affecting my schoolwork. I just don't know what to do anymore. I was having bad problems with depression before I met this guy and now things are just getting worse now that we've broken up. I've been seeing a psychiatrist and psychologist but they're not helping. I don't know what to do. I'm not suicidal but I wouldn't mind if something bad happened to me.
Don Ho Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Here's the deal EyeAlone: you have to make yourself happy and make a good life by yourself. When you're in the position that you're in, you're looking "outside" for a guy to fulfill you and that feeling of infatuation to take you away from the fact that you are unhappy. Then you get too involved, become too clingy and don't have a "life" of your own. That results in them losing interest and dumping you. Get it? You're going to have to work at getting happy, keep busy and finding some meaning in your life OUTSIDE of a guy and a relationship. You might as well do this now and learn how to be happy because even if you get into a relationship with a guy or get married, you could be single again anytime, at 30, 45, 70 or when ever. You need to focus on enjoying studying, get involved with some hobbies, go to church, go socialize with your friends and find a life. Maybe some volunteer work would help you to feel more valuable and better about yourself. I think once you get on this track, you will likely be less depressed and you'll find a guy dropping into your life when you're not looking. Good luck!
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