deuces Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 My ex broke up with me the first week of August because she "needed space" and "lost herself" in our relationship. I know...classic. During that whole month, I did everything you aren't suppose to do (calling,asking for reasons,pressuring her,reasoning,crying,you name it). Only thing I didn't do was stalk her since she is 7000 miles away. I recently got enough courage to break all ties and stop calling her but of course, she started calling me 3 days ago just to tell me she misses me, she's thinking of me, she wants to hear my voice, and that she "loves me so much". I managed to dodge her first 3 attempts and on the 4th, I got weak and answered. She didn't tell me anything new except what I mentioned above. Why is she doing this to me?Keeping me strung out? I have a gut feeling she is seeing someone else and I soooooooooo badly want to call her and ask her. I know though that if I do call, nothing good will come out of it. She will either lie and deny it (she's very good at that) or if she miraculously admits it, then it will destroy me. Knowing this, I don't know why I still want to call. Please if anyone is reading, please knock it into my head why I shouldn't call her. I am close to doing it! I hate this!
Don Ho Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Ok. Don't fcking call her you pussy! Seriously Bro, you will only regret it and feel worse afterwards. Don't fool yourself into thinking otherwise. Read on here and lots and lots of people will tell you that it was a big mistake for them. Plus she is 7000 miles away. WTF are you thinking getting all hung up on a girl that far away?? I doubt you look like the Elephant Man, so get your pining, little a$$ out and go meet some local talent. And if you post back and tell us "but I love her and can't live without her" I'm going to throw up.
overcome Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Deuces I have to agree with Don Ho. First off you're 7K miles away! Consider yourself lucky. No chance you're going to run into her in your city. Second you're 7K miles away! Seriously man...long distance relationships have such a poor success rate you should let this one go. As for her calling you and f'ing with your head saying the stuff she is kind of tells you what kind of person she is. If she really cared about you and wasn't selfish she wouldn't pull this garbage. The way I see it you have two choices. One you can continue to take her calls and let her F with your head or two, you can just not answer her calls. You should choose the latter. I understand it's hard not to fall for the bait that she's leaving you but when she calls and you answer, you're just stroking her ego. You'll probably end up saying something like "I miss you" or "are you seeing anyone". How is that going to make you feel better? You're only going to reinforce her behavior of continuing to call you in the future until she's got someone new who will give her the attention she needs.
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