keltin Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Hi there! I haven't been on here in some timebut wen I was I last wrote about my wife at the time and how we were separating. The post is here to give you a better background. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t194406/ so any how a year and a bit has passed since and first off I want to say I am much happier now then I was back then and feel that divorce was for the best so like they say things happen for a reason... So now onto my problem which I am wondering if you feel my gut reaction is right or I overreacting because of what had happened per my last situation. Since last year I seen a few girls but 2 months ago I met a girl and I really love her, respect her and to be honest have feeling for her like I've never had before. Things were and maybe going great but possibly goig to fast. I've met her family and she has met mine. She also went through a similar situation I did. Up until about a week and a bit ago we had lots of chemistry, she would always ask me to stay over (which I have and still do) about 4-5 days a week. I kind of felt in the back of my mind I shouldn't be. She talked to meabout how much she feels for me, would love to have kids down the road with me and since about week 3 she's been wanting me to move in with her but I told her I wouldn't consider it until at least January. So any how the past week and a bit I got this bad feeling in my stomach that she might be losing interest or perhaps I'm around her too much. Things I noticed: - she was really cuddly in the beginning and it has been getting less and less. - we met online and started off chatting via msn lots before we met and up until this weekend it got less and less, especially today and it is very noticable. - this weekend I went to her brothers wedding and she is the type not to dance much but she was up on the dance floor most of the night with the girls but I struggled just to get her to dance with me once. - I notice she was flirty with a couple guys at the wedding and she had no drinks so it wasn't achohol fueled and one other I want to mention about her at the start of the relationship: when I first met her in person we got along good and after that chatted lots online and met up on the weekends. About 2 weekes in she called me and said that she is sorry but she can't go forward with us but still wanted to be good friends if possible. I said I would try but couldn't guarantee. The next day she kept the txtng up but I rarely responded and that night she text sayig she had explaining to do. So she drove over at 11pm, we took my car to the beach and had an awesome chat till 4am and during that she told me the reason she did this was cause a prvious guy she was seeing off and on wanted to get back with her and she decided to choose comfort over unknown but wanted me to be her friend and she felt still she was making a mistake. I told her I could try but don't know if it was possible cause I liked her and also said I would be looking at dating others and could not wait on her. Any how she agreed and undestood. So we got back to my place I asked if she wanted to stay the night cause it was late and she had a 35 min drive home. She did and she slept in my bed cuddled into me. The next day at 8am she left and I pretty much expected that was the end. 4hrs later she called and said she wanted to hang out if I was interested and I did. Later that day she hugged and kissed me and said she made a mistake and wouldn't do that again and this is where we are now. I am wondering if u guys from experience know if my senses could be right or does this type of feeling tend to happen during the early stage of relationship growth? To be honest I have never fallend for someone like I have here and never had these type of emotions besides the separation/divorce. Thanks for the input!
Author keltin Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 Although there is no response yet, here is an update. I went over there last night and it was a bit awkward, the feeling wasn't as welcoming. She wasn't in a bad mood or anything just quieter than usual and not as talkative at the same time I wasn't either as I had these feelings going through me. When we went to bed she said sorry that she was in a bad mood and she also said she had a bad day and she wasn't sure what it was but that her mind was going and she said this happens and that she cant let it keep going. I really like this girl, I hope things work with us, do you think I should talk to her about this and how should I go bringing it up?
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