Lonelystar Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I am utterly confused, and need some perspective on this situation. So, I have been dating this guy for about a couple of months or so (we took a mini-break because I was out of town), and have been on about 6 dates. The last two dates I ended up staying over at his place. We did not have sex, but we fooled around a bit. He was very sweet, and I had a good time. However, our goodbyes are always awkward. When he walked me to my car, he just gave me a hug, and did not go in for the kiss. While at his place, he told me he thought I was gorgeous, etc. And seemed to be really into me. My feelings for him are on the fence because I can't really get a good read on him. When we went out to dinner, he wasn't very affectionate, but later we took a walk and he held my hand. It takes him some time to warm up to me (and this has been every single date we have been on). I want to ask him if he is dating someone else before I become sexually involved with him. However, I am not sure what the best way to do it, or if I even should. I want to know where this is heading, but I don't want to pur pressure on him. I don't necessairly want him to me my boyfriend yet, but want to know if he thinks we may eventually get there. I am not sure if I even should ask. What is the best time to have this type of conversation? I have always just been in long term relationships, so this dating game is fairly new to me. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
Don Ho Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I would keep my mouth totally shut about that kind of stuff and go out a few more times. Maybe he's shy or insecure. Maybe put a drink or two in him and see how he does. If you feel uncomfortable or not "feeling it" with him after a few more dates, maybe it's best if you just move on.
Sabali Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I would keep my mouth totally shut about that kind of stuff and go out a few more times. Maybe he's shy or insecure. Maybe put a drink or two in him and see how he does. If you feel uncomfortable or not "feeling it" with him after a few more dates, maybe it's best if you just move on. Don, I am giving you the medal of honor for your heroism around here.
sugarmomma Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 You've been on 6 dates and haven't asked if he has a girlfriend or a prospective girlfriend? I ask as soon as a guy approaches me. If he says yes, I abort the mission. If no, I proceed with caution. Just ask him in a general friendly way.
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