john1988 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I was seeing this girl on and off for a few months now I dunno if she got frustrated but I'm always a bit reluctant to trust someone after being hurt in the past and especially because she is younger than me. She seemed keen and always instigated seeing me and was even desperate for me to meet her parents but I think she grew tired as I would never put a label on our relationship I wanted to take it slow and see how it developed and one weekend we agreed we would have sex then she never showed up. She said her gran was ill 3 days later after not hearing a peep out her but I can't help thinking she was with an ex even tough I have no proof. After again ignoring a few of my texts and not turning up another night I flipped and said enoughs enough don't contact me again then a couple of days later I hear she is back with her ex. I then got in touch and said I was upset and I believed she had been seeing him the whole time which she denied and said it was only because I told her to leave me alone. I said go back to him but you'll get hurt again and I won't be there to pick up the pieces. She then texts a week later saying sorry you were right that's us finished and starts flirting with me again. I was starting to really warm to this girl but I think I may have now have been put into the dreaded friend zone and how can I really take her back after she seemed to choose him over me? What should I do? I she playing me or was it my own fault for not taking my chance earlier?
ShannonMI Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I was seeing this girl on and off for a few months now I dunno if she got frustrated but I'm always a bit reluctant to trust someone after being hurt in the past and especially because she is younger than me. She seemed keen and always instigated seeing me and was even desperate for me to meet her parents but I think she grew tired as I would never put a label on our relationship I wanted to take it slow and see how it developed and one weekend we agreed we would have sex then she never showed up. She said her gran was ill 3 days later after not hearing a peep out her but I can't help thinking she was with an ex even tough I have no proof. After again ignoring a few of my texts and not turning up another night I flipped and said enoughs enough don't contact me again then a couple of days later I hear she is back with her ex. I then got in touch and said I was upset and I believed she had been seeing him the whole time which she denied and said it was only because I told her to leave me alone. I said go back to him but you'll get hurt again and I won't be there to pick up the pieces. She then texts a week later saying sorry you were right that's us finished and starts flirting with me again. I was starting to really warm to this girl but I think I may have now have been put into the dreaded friend zone and how can I really take her back after she seemed to choose him over me? What should I do? I she playing me or was it my own fault for not taking my chance earlier? It sounds like she's playing you. I would steer clear of her. Don't blame yourself for taking things slow with her either. If you've been hurt by someone in the past, it takes a little bit to move on and feel comfortable giving your heart to someone again. I'm going through the same thing with regard to the dating scene. Friends are telling me I need to get out there and date, but I'm hesitant because I had my heart ripped out not too long ago. I'm not so sure I want to give it to anyone else right now. Take your time. Don't talk to this girl again, though. Find someone else or just be single for awhile longer.
Author john1988 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 It sounds like she's playing you. I would steer clear of her. Don't blame yourself for taking things slow with her either. If you've been hurt by someone in the past, it takes a little bit to move on and feel comfortable giving your heart to someone again. I'm going through the same thing with regard to the dating scene. Friends are telling me I need to get out there and date, but I'm hesitant because I had my heart ripped out not too long ago. I'm not so sure I want to give it to anyone else right now. Take your time. Don't talk to this girl again, though. Find someone else or just be single for awhile longer. I thought she was maybe playing me but hurts to think it, she seemed so keen at the start I hate to think I was only a rebound, it's driving me up the wall I want to get in touch with her every 5 minutes I sometimes wonder why I bother trying to find anyone. I would hate to think that I've brought this on myself but I knew if I dived in earlier I'd be in a worse mess than I am now maybe I should've told her my reasons? Who knows?
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I thought she was maybe playing me but hurts to think it, she seemed so keen at the start I hate to think I was only a rebound, it's driving me up the wall I want to get in touch with her every 5 minutes I sometimes wonder why I bother trying to find anyone. I would hate to think that I've brought this on myself but I knew if I dived in earlier I'd be in a worse mess than I am now maybe I should've told her my reasons? Who knows? Yes it's never good to rush into things. Stop beating yourself over this.
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