brokenandsad Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I screwed up royally and now I don't know what to do. Last week my ex who I'm still friends with called me up and suggested we meet up since it's been a while and we haven't seen each other so we decided to go out to dinner on saturday night. I told my girlfriend I was going to see my mom and my battery was low so I'll call her when I get home. I took my ex to dinner and hang out at her place for a while, I had a few drinks and it was kind of late so she asked me to stay the night because she could see I was tired and I did. I woke up late and got home late afternoon, I noticed my girlfriend had been calling me through the night and right when I got home she called again. She was upset about not being able to contact me and I tried to lie and tell her I stayed over at a male friend's house, she didn't buy it so I told her the truth and told her nothing happened - she was furious and told me it was over. She hates my ex because of history I won't get into but now I feel horrible, NOTHING HAPPENED. I just went to see her and catch up just as friends. I love my girlfriend so much and now she is hurting because of me, she mostly ignores my calls but she picks up on occasion and I have appologised so many times, she can't trust me and doesn't really talk to me as much. I love her so much and don't want to loose her, I know what I did was dumb and I wish I can go back and change things but unfortunately it happened and that's that. I really need some advice on how to fix things, she loves me and I hear she is not in the best of spirits. Please help me get my love back.
machiavellian Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 If your gf is smart she will dump you and never look back...there is no way to fix that situation. Best to just learn from the situation to 1) respect your CURRENT gf and 2) not be an untrustworthy liar.
squeaky Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 TBH, I would break up with my boyfriend if he did that to me, too. Even if nothing happened, the whole things sounds super shady. Not only did you sleep over your ex's house, but you deliberately lied to your girlfriend about the situation from the very beginning. How is she supposed to trust you now? I guess all you can really do is continue to apologize and hope that you can regain her trust.
sagetalk Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Your story isn't believable. I don't even think your own mother would believe it. At any rate, I'd say you're toast if she has any sense. If she's young, you probably still have a chance though.
Kinder-Horror Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I don't really think you can fix things, unfortunately. There is a slim chance she will take you back, but it is slim. The fact is, whether you cheated or not, you might has well have because you completely betrayed your girlfriend. Even without doing anything physical with your ex, you still went behind your gf's back to go out with another woman. You have to place yourself in her shoes and really consider how you would feel if she had lied to you and gone to dinner with another man (regardless of sleeping over, etc). I applaud her self respect. I think you might have done irreparable damage. I am sorry
that girl Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Something did happen and you weren't just dumb. You need to stop pretending you are the victim here. You lied to your girlfriend so you could spend the night with your ex. Even if nothing happened physically, you betrayed her.
Sabali Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 I can't muster up any sympathy here, man. Your actions are so dump-worthy. You lied to your ex from the start and you slept over your ex's house. There are few better reasons to dump someone.
CrestfallenNoMore Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 If my boyfriend told me he was going to his mom's house and that his cell-phone battery was low so he'd be conveniently unavailable before he ever got to his ex-girlfriend's house, before he ever "accidentally" drank too much and before he was "ended up" staying at her place? To me, that details well-thought-out, pre-meditated intent. This isn't accidental manslaughter; it was first-degree murder. Learn your lesson, stop being selfish by contacting her and LET HER GO. Grow, learn, and change for the better in your next relationship.
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