MrsRob1nson Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Ive been with my bf for 4 months (we're exclusive) and we've had a good relationship, but he had to go away to VA for his job for 5 weeks (he doesnt know anyone there, he's alone, and hates it). He left in begin of sept. The first week he was away, he was txting and calling me. The second, he started acting weird and stopped and finally let me know that he was really homesick, depressed, bad mood, blah blah and that he didnt want to talk to anyone and told me he couldnt be there for me (obviously). So, I left him alone, and a week later I heard from him, and he asked me to visit. So I went for 9 days and he was like "Im so happy ur here, I missed you" blah blah, begged me to stay longer, and after I left, he drove back to NJ to spend the weekend w me. Which was great, got along great, had great time, great sex, etc. Once again he had to leave and go back for 2 more weeks, and hes like "when I get back well see this movie, I want you to move in, ill get you a gym membership", etc, and hugged n kissed me and said "Ill see you in two weeks". Well, the first week he was away, he was txting me again and everything was fine. I asked him to call me this thurs after work and he's like "sure". Well, I havent heard from him since. Ive called him and txted him and everything. nothing. The thing is, is he's done this to me before,(whenever he goes away, he really "gets away") but always kinda told me sooner or later that he was in a bad mood or whatever, but not this time. He's only gonna be there for a few more days. So my question is, WHY do you think hes doing this...what should I do? and when he comes back do you think ill hear from him (at LEAST for sex)?
atlnay Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 So my question is, WHY do you think hes doing this...what should I do? and when he comes back do you think ill hear from him (at LEAST for sex)? Anyone can speculate as to why, but it may not be the real reason, so I won't attempt that. He has done it before, and by showing that trait + repeating the pattern (a second time) you should expect it to happen again. Unless or until you have a conversation with him about how it makes you feel and what you need from him and he is on the same page. It's very likely you'll AT LEAST hear from him for sex...lol... What you really need to do next time he's back, when you two are in a good place/mood for sharing, is just talk to him vs. trying to guess his behavior. If he is evasive or difficult, in spite of you creating a non threatening space for him to share, then you have another concern on your hands. Good luck to ya!
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