Where to look for a relationship instead of fun?

[Pianoguy]

So I'm back out there after my finacé left me three months ago, and I've been dating a bit. I'm 25, I think I'm attractive, in pretty good shape, funny, smart, and doing well with my career as a pianist -- no trouble with confidence here! But I'm not sure I'm really much fun, and honestly, I'm not really looking for it. Don't get me wrong, if an opportunity to have a few wild nights came along, I'd take them up, but I'd rather find somebody I can hang out with, cook with, and have a social life with. Honestly, it feels like I'm the only person interested in that right now instead of living a non-stop party life. So, where can I go to find what I'm looking for?

[Surrealist]

Good question. I was only just questioning this myself regarding my own life which is work, gym, cooking, internet, a few drinks and dining on the weekend and little else. Long grown out of all-nite benders that leave you (well me anyway) feeling like **** for days on end. All the talk about women wanting so much fun, and the guy providing a continuous source of fun and partying and so on, I know I cannot create, maintain or otherwise contrive. I guess the answer is to seek out someone with similar interests. Clearly it may narrow your prospects but probably better that then get into a relationship where incompatability along these lines will invariably lead to the demise of the relationships and further disappointment.

[sagetalk]

but I'd rather find somebody I can hang out with, cook with, and have a social life with. Honestly, it feels like I'm the only person interested in that right now instead of living a non-stop party life. So, where can I go to find what I'm looking for?

 

Good luck! I'm trying to find that as well. All I'm running into are "make me feel emotions all the time" and "entertain me" girls. If you find the answer let me know too. This entertain me garbage is getting really old and boring.