Cuchara2 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 So my ex just talked to me on msn.. She said it was weird we didn't talk any more and then asked me what's up, we talked about school etc. for about 5 minutes, didn't ask about anything else (life in general etc.) so then she told me she was doing some work as we spoke, so I was trying to get out of talking to her with NC and all, so I said something along the lines of "anyway I see you're busy so I'll leave you alone to work" which she completely ignored and kept talking about what she was talking before, but then I had to ACTUALLY leave and take my sister somewhere. So I was just like wtf.. What was that about? Gonna be on a camping trip this weekend with school, she's gonna be there so it could be interesting
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 So you broke NC by replying? Seems like it went no where. Like most ex's contacting.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 There has been an abundance of ex's contacting lately. Mine is sticking to NC just as much as I am maybe she will catch the bug? I doubt it she is strong headed but truth is I only want it if she wants me. So It's a good thing.
BeagleGal Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Rattled: I think it is. Just last week, I heard from my ex after 3 months of him being NC with me (I was NC for 2 and a half months). I couldnt believe it. I think that has set me back a bit because since then I've been a bit stressed, feeling kinda anxious almost.. I dont know... just wierd. Partly my fault for replying to his text (he called also and left a voice message but I didnt call him back). My question to myself is: when do I learn my damn lesson? After all he's done to me, why the hell am I still quick to respond to him... I think I know the answer, I'm just annoyed at myself for being an idiot when it comes to him.
rattled Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 There has been an abundance of ex's contacting lately. Mine is sticking to NC just as much as I am maybe she will catch the bug? I doubt it she is strong headed but truth is I only want it if she wants me. So It's a good thing. I'm right there with you Billie. No way my ex will contact me while still in her honeymoon phase with her new bf. It's definitely a good thing.
Coolsbreeze Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 My ex has been dating her new boyfriend and they started dating like a few days after she ended things with me. And she met him while she was still involved with me. Every time I think about this and how angry it makes me feel it gives me more conviction to continue my NC with her. Maybe in a few months when I've cooled down a bit then I might talk to her again.
mhkkk Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 My question to myself is: when do I learn my damn lesson? After all he's done to me, why the hell am I still quick to respond to him... I think I know the answer, I'm just annoyed at myself for being an idiot when it comes to him. You wanna know the answer, why are you so quick to respond him? Because you still care about him, doesn't matter what he has done to you. As one Tibetan monk told me: People change, people realize their mistakes and fouls and learn from them. For once and for all...people start getting out of your own way and open your eyes again.
Author Cuchara2 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 I don´t know why I replied.. I guess it caught me off guard =/ Was it a bad thing? I don't want to be rude to her.. If she talks to me then I don't mind giving a reply but not taking it further, that way she gets the message that I don't want to talk to her but I'm not going to be rude.
rattled Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I don´t know why I replied.. I guess it caught me off guard =/ Was it a bad thing? I don't want to be rude to her.. If she talks to me then I don't mind giving a reply but not taking it further, that way she gets the message that I don't want to talk to her but I'm not going to be rude. This seems to be a common rationalization which sounds like more of an excuse. You don't know why you replied yet you answer you're own question with two excuses "it caught me off guard" and "you don't want to be rude". It isn't a bad thing but did it help you? Did it make the situation any better? Would it kill you to be "rude" at the expense of saving yourself from an emotional roller coaster? But what do I know. I'm just the guy who broke NC and lost all of my dignity because of it.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Back when I was like that I answered simply because I thought every contact was to reconcile, especially since I verbally told my ex not to contact me, she still did. It wasn't until I tried chasing her after misread E-signs that I sent off a no contact email that put her in her place by that I mean I explained all the mixed signals she was sending me, so I chased and then when it failed in what seemed like an argument I asked in text for NC. We both have been ever since.
Author Cuchara2 Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 This seems to be a common rationalization which sounds like more of an excuse. You don't know why you replied yet you answer you're own question with two excuses "it caught me off guard" and "you don't want to be rude". It isn't a bad thing but did it help you? Did it make the situation any better? Would it kill you to be "rude" at the expense of saving yourself from an emotional roller coaster? But what do I know. I'm just the guy who broke NC and lost all of my dignity because of it. It didn't really affect me to be honest. I didn't think much of it - I've met some other cool people and I'm starting to forget about her
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