bleeg Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I wanted to share my experience with everybody. Brief run down. My gf broke up with me July 5, 2010. I haven't seen her since July 3rd. I cut contact with her. I noticed she's seeing another guy so I cut contact. It's been a little over 3 months and everytime a month passed by, she would find a way to contact me. Anyways, this time she contacted me and wants me to meet up with her for a coffee. It's tonight. I will let you all how my situation works because I know a lot of guys are hesitant about the no contact rule. Believe me, I went nuts.
JP2009 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I wish you the best of luck. But just because it's to meet up for coffee doesn't mean it's a second chance. Unless there is more to the story that you're not telling us. But just don't get your hopes up....
Author bleeg Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 Not much else to the story. She wished me the best of luck after the break up and we can't be friends. I dunno if this matters but right after the break up, I contacted her fav author and went to see her and have her fav book signed for her thinking I can win her back but I never ended up giving it to her. Little did I know my best friend took the book and met up with her for a coffee to hear her side of the story and in the process gave it to her to show her I still cared. That was 5-6 weeks ago that she called and she thanked me non stop for a good 15 minutes but I was busy at work so I had to go. I think she was seeing a guy after the break-up but she wouldn't confirm at the time. I really don't care all that much anymore. I've been dating left right and center and i'm too focused on my career and future to think about her. Just weirded out that i'm seeing her after she cut it off, after so long and after she told me we'll never be friends again because "she doesn't stay friends with ex's". If she does think we're going to be friends, i'm going to walk out. Just can't do it.
lunita Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Sounds to me that she wanted to meet you for coffee for her benefit only. She clearly feels guilty and met up with you to try and clear her guilty feelings about it. It's kind of selfish if you think about it. I think you are in the right head space. Continue on and NEXT.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Sounds to me that she wanted to meet you for coffee for her benefit only. She clearly feels guilty and met up with you to try and clear her guilty feelings about it. It's kind of selfish if you think about it. I think you are in the right head space. Continue on and NEXT. I'm confused Lunita although your reply is highly plausible the time stamps of this post implies the coffee meet up has not happened yet but is set up for tonight. Can you see the future?
lunita Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Billie I'm confused myself. I wasn't paying attention to dates and assumed from his response that he had met with her. Since that's not the case, I'm not sure what the last post was about. LOL. A perfect example of why multitasking is not always best!
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Billie I'm confused myself. I wasn't paying attention to dates and assumed from his response that he had met with her. Since that's not the case, I'm not sure what the last post was about. LOL. A perfect example of why multitasking is not always best! I figured as much, but J had to re read the thread myself to find if I missed something the previous reply was his friend who met up with her for coffee around the time the break up was still fresh.
Author bleeg Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 So basically I met up with her tonight. Before we were supposed to be for coffee but an hour before, she made asked if we could meet at a bar instead. I said sure. She was hungry. I didn't eat. It wasn't all that awkward. I shot the **** for 45 mins and said I gotta split, I had plans. Walked her to her car, hugged her goodbye and left. She texted me shortly after some funny picture of a girl nagging a guy and the guy throwing her off a cliff and it says problem solved? She wrote "you might appreciate this" lol Don't know what that means but whatever.
SadGirl23 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Eh, awkward. I mean, I don't expect the meetup to be all romantic, but why does this coffee meet sound like old time buddies meeting up for a few drinks. Like friends from the past. This is why I don't know about second chances. Just the thought of how I am supposed to talk, stand, sit next to the person, the awkwardness of knowing the two of you used to kiss and now you just hug and pat each other on the backs? No bueno My moment of "second chance" which was like a month after my ex bf broke up with me, although we did cuddle, eat at his place (nothing more), the next day, he treated me like if the night never ever happened. From that day on, it just didn't seem like our relationship could ever be the same. Maybe he didn't try hard enough or didn't want the relationship as bad, so he just made up his mind to think "We are just friends". Maybe your situation would be different, but I certainly wouldn't get my hopes up.
Author bleeg Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 My hopes are far from up. I don't even really know why I went. Everybody said I should do it for closure. Meh, she didn't look all that great anyways.
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