mhkkk Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 (edited) Well I will tell you my story... In August 25, 2010 my girlfriend broke up with me. We were together for almost a year. It all started with this...she was sleeping over at her 'girlfriends' house and next day we got together. And then she said, she wanted to have a break with me. Then I said, that I don't agree with it, because there was no reason. So i talked to her and she said ''Yeah you're right we just can't break up.'' Then we went to her place..where she was still doubting. And then she slept with me and she during that she started to cry and said that her body and soul belongs to me. Then her mom got home and she went to the other room. When she came back in 10 minutes she said that we still need to break up, but in 1-2 months we will be back together. A week after that I met her at my place and we had a conversation she saying, that she doesn't want a relationship right now. But still she ended up with me in the bedroom kissing and touching me. Then she started to cry again... A week after that we met again, because I wanted to get some of my things from her house and then I said that ''I'm going to quit on us, because i know that we won't be back together'' Then she kind of freaked out and said that 'No don't quit on us, because I just need some time' Then she started to kiss me again and a lot. And then she asked me if i had smoked, because i had never smoked a cigarette before. And she said, that I must not smoke, because she doesnt want a smoking boyfriend. A week after we ended up partying at the same night club. And a girl started hitting on me and she saw that, but i never did anything with her. So her girlfriends kind of made a drama in the club out of nothing. The next morning she drove to my house and talked to me. She said that ''Even if you did anything with this girl I still would have known that you love me'' and I said, why do we need this break, why can't we be together. And suddenly she said that ''forget about me'' In the end of september she called me and talked to me for 3 hours. She had found out that i had started to go out with a lot of my old friends who are girls..and she got jealous. BUT I NEVER EVER TOUCHED THESE GIRLS And then she said ''she doesn't love me anymore''. I WAS LIKE WTF?? Why should a person call me and then tell me something that? Our call ended couple of times during this 3 hours, because her battery died, but she called me back everytime it happened. The thing is that i go to the same school with this girl. And when we meet in the hallways we just walk by without saying anything and it has been like this SINCE the break up. And if i'm being honest she always said that ''she never wants to break up with me and i'm the best boyfriend she has ever had'' I never cheated on her and i was honest with her. We travelled a lot and did a lot of stuff she said she had never ever done before and that this relationship is the best she has ever had. People actually loved to see us together, didn't matter where we went together. Except her girlfriends, because she was spending more time with me than with them. And she's the type of girl who always told me that 'love is something that never fades and when she says she loves me, she will always' Love for her is a very special thing as i know. October 4, 2010 she wrote something like that on her blog: Title: One big dont know Don't want one, the other, want the third one, don't even want that. I guess i don't want anything then. or maybe... i just dont know or remember how is to want someone who i cant be without Well this story is a big mess, you can ask me for more if you want to. Even though she has said so many thing to me I don't believe her, because that's just not her. She's acting like someone else. Sometimes i wonder if her girlfriends are saying her what to do, because i've heard from a lot of people that her girlfriends have destroyed a lot of her relationships by saying her what to do. And eventhough she has made everything so hard for me I still love her SO MUCH, and all of this actually makes her more attractive for me.. So what should i do?? Any help is help Edited October 12, 2010 by mhkkk
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Nothing posted online or through any type if electronic communication is worth any value. Don't act on them they don't mean a thing. If one wants you they will tell you in person.
Author mhkkk Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 (edited) Well first of all..she doesn't know that i'm aware of this blog. Second..she the type of girl, who likes to write about her emotions and feelings. She's actually a hell of a good writer and usually means what she writes. ANY other advice for further actions or should i just wait? Edited October 12, 2010 by mhkkk
Gironbachs Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Well, to begin with - don't ever go anywhere where you know she will be (especially a nightclub). Big No No. Steer clear of her at all costs, make her feel the void and give her what she wants. If she shows up somewhere you're at - casually leave. If you bump into at random - keep your cool, but STAY AWAY. Nothing good can come from having contact with her right now. All the excuses, statements with nuggets of hope in them are designed by her to assuage her guilt and let you down easy. The "I need time" and "I don't want to be in a relationship" mean she wants you out of her life, period. If she did , she wouldn't say any of those things. So actually get out of it and show her how it feels.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Well first of all..she doesn't know that i'm aware of this blog. Second..she the type of girl, who likes to write about her emotions and feelings. She's actually a hell of a good writer and usually means what she writes. ANY other advice for further actions or should i just wait? That is still irrelevant. If they want you they will let you know and it will be clear and precise not something on a blog.
Cuchara2 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Does anyone else think it sounds like he's being played like CRAZY? I'm sorry but if that was my gf, I'd have at least asked her.. The whole thing just sounds too suspicious to me.
Author mhkkk Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 Well as far as i know..she's the kind of person who listens way too much of her girlfriends! Well funny thing is that a week before the break up my gf told me that ''Well we should go together to Germany or to Austria to University or College and start living together'' She had all these big dreams... And i know that she is still jealous while she sees me talking to other girls in school. because i've heard that she and her friends have been asking that do i have anything with one of these girls. And when she suddenly said 'i dont love you anymore' why the hell should she care if i have something with any other girl? And well one more thing. She had a boyfriend who cheated on her for like 2 times. But she always went back to him... My opinion is that she really doesnt know what she wants right now or she's just confused. Or what do you think?
Billie The Puppet Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Women stay with you in the true confused stage, they leave you when they are certain they no longer want to be with you but they put on a confused act to relieve guilt, be softer on the breaking up with you part. This is if generally you are a good guy. All your thoughts I once had, it's tough looking in the mirror questioning yourself why it's happened etc, this is not something we can fix. They have to want us. If they ended it they did it for a reason.
nittanylion Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Well as far as i know..she's the kind of person who listens way too much of her girlfriends! Well funny thing is that a week before the break up my gf told me that ''Well we should go together to Germany or to Austria to University or College and start living together'' She had all these big dreams... And i know that she is still jealous while she sees me talking to other girls in school. because i've heard that she and her friends have been asking that do i have anything with one of these girls. And when she suddenly said 'i dont love you anymore' why the hell should she care if i have something with any other girl? And well one more thing. She had a boyfriend who cheated on her for like 2 times. But she always went back to him... My opinion is that she really doesnt know what she wants right now or she's just confused. Or what do you think? I think she is dating someone. She wants to let you down slowly and relief her guilts. Dont get too wrap up in your craziness for her cause she is not worth your time. Avoid her at all costs. If I were you, I would move on. Heal first, than find a new gf. JMO!
Author mhkkk Posted October 13, 2010 Author Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) You know what's funny? I deleted her on facebook friends list on the day we broke up, but i'm told and i've seen that she still has some of the pictures with me on her account. She still has a lot of my things at her place and she still has the keys to my apartment. And it has been almost 2 months. You know i think that she hasn't given up somehow..and i know 99.9% that she's not dating anyone else. Because she told me and others did also. And she got kind of 'mad' 'upset' when she heard that im going out with other girls...but i'm not dating these girls. Edited October 13, 2010 by mhkkk
Billie The Puppet Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 (edited) You know what's funny? I deleted her on facebook friends list on the day we broke up, but i'm told and i've seen that she still has some of the pictures with me on her account. She still has a lot of my things at her place and she still has the keys to my apartment. And it has been almost 2 months. You know i think that she hasn't given up somehow..and i know 99.9% that she's not dating anyone else. Because she told me and others did also. Hate to be the bearer of bad news but, my ex still has photos of us as a couple on her face book, she told me to keep the key ( I returned it anyways. I was also told she wasn't dating someone else by her and I believed it. Prepare for the worst, let go of the hope for the best. Now the kicker last night I found out she has been in a relationship almost instantly since we split. Like I said anything online means nothing. I never wanted to believe that before because of Semi NC online was the only medium I had so I can manufacture hope. Please refrain from checking in on social networks. I never did this and it kept my hope alive but all under false pretenses. You may be setting you up for a bigger fall. Edited October 13, 2010 by Billie The Puppet
fabio10 Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 Man this girl is obivously really young and she isnt ready to commit Im sorry but you need to keep away from her !
Author mhkkk Posted November 5, 2010 Author Posted November 5, 2010 Man this girl is obivously really young and she isnt ready to commit Im sorry but you need to keep away from her ! Gotcha fabio. I see that this situation is hopeless, so f*ck it.
TheMENemy Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 she still has the keys to my apartment How do you get in when you need to use it?
xpaperxcutx Posted November 5, 2010 Posted November 5, 2010 Sorry but this girl sounds like a lunatic. You're better off.
Author mhkkk Posted November 6, 2010 Author Posted November 6, 2010 Well if i ever need my keys or my other things i'll just call her and ask for my things. I'm really disappointed in this girl, because she gave me a lot of promises and she told me not to give up on us even after the break up. And what is really disappointing is that she told to my friend that she wants to reconnect with me sometime in the future, because we are so important and valuable or whatever to each other. And she discusses this relationship with my friends, like wtf??
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