bentnotbroken Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 I agree with all the advice given here which has now conflicted me,yes I need to be stronger with more self esteem,yes what he did was cruel yes he is in turmoil yes he doesn't know what to do for the best. Last night he was crying and saying he hates himself and he an ugly bad person,that he can't forgive himself for hurting me so much because I have never been anyhing but good. He is still talking about leaving his job has no other plan,his wife is encouraging him to,to me that looks like her trying to get him back in her control so she can keep her eye on him,that he'll have to go back because of money,she is offering to downsize the hiuse too,he says she's being supportive but I don't think so,not that I should say that to him. Maybe he does need to change job but I don't think now is the time to make that decision. He has an idea now that I hate him and can never trust him. Oh,he really is his own worst enemy. And when would you think it is the right time to make any decision that isn't one you want him to make? When was the right time to make the decision to cheat? You seem to believe you have some say so in what he and his wife do. You only have say in what you do. Try concentrating on that, it might give you the peace you need.
TurboGirl Posted October 15, 2010 Posted October 15, 2010 Why are you caring about his boo hooing, his tears, how upset he is, blah blah blah, What abou YOU, YOUR feelings? Clearly, not taken into consideration here. This is a no win situation for you, this guy is waffling in the wind and will continue to hurt you if you let him. Take back your power, end it. Your self esteem will thank you.
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