Recently decided to see eachother exclusively, no he's stopped contacting me!

[Kacey1990]

I've been dating a guy for around 3 months. About 2 weeks ago we had big chat about what we want and we decided to see each other exclusively. Previously we'd been casually dating, seeing other people as well. Naturally, I was very happy and things were going well. However, in the space of a weekend he's stopped replying to texts and has stopped calling. It may be considered overreacting, but it's out of character. I'm at a loss and don't know what to do! I don't want to hassle him, so I'm waiting til he contacts me. Is this normal behaviour or am I completely overreacting? Thanks

[that girl]

If he hasn't responded in more than 24 hours, you try:

 

"Haven't heard from you, wanted to make sure you're okay."

 

It might be that he's just been busy.

[carhill]

Call him, leaving the above voice mail if he doesn't answer. If he doesn't respond to that, move on to another one of the potentials you've been dating. If something horrible has happened to him, it's out of your hands anyway. If not, and he's not respecting you nor your agreed exclusivity, then OK. Replace him.

[alexlakeman]

Call him, leaving the above voice mail if he doesn't answer. If he doesn't respond to that, move on to another one of the potentials you've been dating. If something horrible has happened to him, it's out of your hands anyway. If not, and he's not respecting you nor your agreed exclusivity, then OK. Replace him.

 

What he said.

[annie_gordon_PI]

For all you know, he's waiting for you to contact him.

[Kacey1990]

Thanks for the advice guys. I decided to contact him after 2 days, he replied and promised we'd see eachother the next night. I said sure and told him to let me know as I would be going to his - so I thought it's his decision on when he wants me over. He didn't contact me, so I contacted him later that night and he said he had been busy. Fair enough - excuses don't bother me very much. And he asked if we could make it tomorrow night. It is now tomorrow night and he has not contacted me. I'm getting slightly worried and I think I have a reason to. Should I just wait until he contacts me, I want him to realise he's upset me! Or I could just tell him that which would make things easier, but once again - I don't want to come off as unattractive for feeling upset! And I'd much rather voice feelings face to face. If he gives me a chance to! Advice?

[atlnay]

Thanks for the advice guys. I decided to contact him after 2 days, he replied and promised we'd see eachother the next night. I said sure and told him to let me know as I would be going to his - so I thought it's his decision on when he wants me over. He didn't contact me, so I contacted him later that night and he said he had been busy. Fair enough - excuses don't bother me very much. And he asked if we could make it tomorrow night. It is now tomorrow night and he has not contacted me. I'm getting slightly worried and I think I have a reason to. Should I just wait until he contacts me, I want him to realise he's upset me! Or I could just tell him that which would make things easier, but once again - I don't want to come off as unattractive for feeling upset! And I'd much rather voice feelings face to face. If he gives me a chance to! Advice?

 

You said his excuses don't bother you so I won't comment on that. While you have been together a while, 3 months, you've ONLY been committed a short time, 2 weeks.

 

 

If he has done this before, it's his pattern and likely to continue unless you speak up.

 

Has he never done this before?

 

If not, look at it as a communication thing and tell him you need xx amount of communication, even when he's busy, to feel fine. As long as it's not an unreasonable request, most men who are in a relationship with you, as you are now, will understand and comply or negotiate a fair schedule.

 

If he hasn't done this before, did it only start after you became exclusive?