Trovador Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Hi, friends... As I stated on other threads, I keep contact with my ex, who is my coworker. I discovered that having a sort of friendship helped me to move on; in a sense I was using her to get over and it really has worked out, now I am really fine, as I never was since she broke up with me some months ago... It hasn't been a game or trick or plan. I really don't want her back or being friends with her. She is the one who makes contact and she does all the talking. I am not available all the time and, without being rude, I show her I am not interested in her as I was before, yet she keeps calling me and has got personal with me, even flirting a bit, and showing some jealousy at learning that I have been talking to other girls... Today she didn't come to work because she is sick. She called me at noon to tell me and she really is having a bad attack of the flu. I didn't call back, she called twice again, we talked a little and while I was heading home in a bus she called a last time. I chose not to answer but a part of me is feeling bad, because I am not like that, in some other circunstances I'd have gone out of my way to do something for her, even just asking how she felt. But I think all those times I was always for her and she chose to ignore me or plainly reject me . After the break up I suffered the passing out of my mother and I wanted to talk to her but she acted cold, for example. Now that I had the chance to do the same, besides noticing how strong I feel currently, I don't feel that good. I think I am not cut out to be or feel revengeful or apt to stooping to the same levels as her. While I think that I chose the lesser of two evils, I am not that proud of myself. I'm not really looking for some validation towards my behavior, thank you, I am just venting. I think I did the right thing, even if I feel bad. Thank you, my friends.
Audieme Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Not to say she's faking being sick but this was a test, she WAS testing you. Your actions toward her in her "time of need" gave HER answers/insight about how you feel toward her. Do your actions match your feelings? No doubt she has done these kinds of scenarios before (i.e., asking for you for help with something, attempting to evoking sympathy or other types of reactions from you, etc.)? Expect more to come. I'm not saying everything has an underlying meaning, but to me, there was one here. Don't beat yourself up, you seem like a good guy. This is just my opinion (I'm a girl)
Author Trovador Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 Hey, thank you Audieme for your insights. I'm thinking in the same lines and it's sad to realize that when you really don't want anything to do with someone, this someone probably is now into you... As I said in other thread, it's like a Murphy's Law Joke: if you want your ex back, you have to demonstrate fehaciently that you don't want them... But this is really about not being able to be myself...
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