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Capital P Established Member

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My ex broke up with me 2 months ago without a freekin word. She ignored me for a few weeks then when we were supposed to meet she said she couldnt do it and didnt respond to either my text or my phone call. So i left it, moved on, as is what i do.

One month later as i was leaving the country i get an SMS from her. I was with her for 4 years and had lied about my age. It was just a stupid thing that snowballed and i pussied out of telling her. I was two years older than she thought i was.

So i get a bunch of texts saying she will hate me forever, she never wants to speak to me. She has a new bf who is giving her massive orgasms etc. Kind of stuff insecure people say when they get hurt.

So fine. Moved on once more. Spent the next month all over the world meeting people and getting on with my life.

And i was sitting in bed when i got back from my last trip thinking i dont miss my ex at all, i got over that real quick.

 

Well a guy i went away with last time is on her FB friends. I have her blocked. His profile pic is of me n him on holiday. I also tagged him in a pic of me with a hot girl i met but i dont think she can see that as shes blocked.

So 4 days ago i get a text saying "how is ..... going, ...... x"

Didnt reply to it, next day get another text

"And i saw you in .... profile pic, what was going on with that shirt, good grief"

 

Now, if i hadnt lied about stuff i would tell her to **** off probably. Maybe i can still do that i dont know, i feel i should be civil. Since the text came through, ALL the emotions have come back and i feel like im back to square one and am wondering if its worth sorting stuff out , if she is reaching out to me.

 

Or, she is a ****ing bitch and doesnt want me to be happy. Im either going to not text back or just say something brief and see what happens, anyone have any ideas?

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You have improved a lot, even if you don't realize it... why throwing away all that effort?

 

While I wouldn't doubt twice if she was a "regular" girl, the fact that I would think of her as an effing witch, would deter me of doing so...

 

They don't always reach out to feel you, but to effing your life, too bad is so hard to discern that out!

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My ex broke up with me 2 months ago without a freekin word. She ignored me for a few weeks then when we were supposed to meet she said she couldnt do it and didnt respond to either my text or my phone call. So i left it, moved on, as is what i do.

One month later as i was leaving the country i get an SMS from her. I was with her for 4 years and had lied about my age. It was just a stupid thing that snowballed and i pussied out of telling her. I was two years older than she thought i was.

So i get a bunch of texts saying she will hate me forever, she never wants to speak to me. She has a new bf who is giving her massive orgasms etc. Kind of stuff insecure people say when they get hurt.

So fine. Moved on once more. Spent the next month all over the world meeting people and getting on with my life.

And i was sitting in bed when i got back from my last trip thinking i dont miss my ex at all, i got over that real quick.

 

Well a guy i went away with last time is on her FB friends. I have her blocked. His profile pic is of me n him on holiday. I also tagged him in a pic of me with a hot girl i met but i dont think she can see that as shes blocked.

So 4 days ago i get a text saying "how is ..... going, ...... x"

Didnt reply to it, next day get another text

"And i saw you in .... profile pic, what was going on with that shirt, good grief"

 

Now, if i hadnt lied about stuff i would tell her to **** off probably. Maybe i can still do that i dont know, i feel i should be civil. Since the text came through, ALL the emotions have come back and i feel like im back to square one and am wondering if its worth sorting stuff out , if she is reaching out to me.

 

Or, she is a ****ing bitch and doesnt want me to be happy. Im either going to not text back or just say something brief and see what happens, anyone have any ideas?

 

Do not reply? She is doing a check-in to see if you have any feelings for her. If she wanted you she would tell you so. Forget about it/her and for crying out loud take your photos off of these social network sites; you know you can block out everyone but firends if you really wanted to.

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Just be nonchalant about the whole thing. It will show her that you're being mature. If you tell her to **** off you will just be acting childish. I doubt shes trying to play mind games with you. Work your way into it slowly if you really want to reconcile. Rushing things will only bring you more pain in the end.

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They check on you. They want to make sure you're still not hurt because they feel guilty for hurting you.

 

They also like the ego boost if you say "I WANT YOU BACK!" and **** like that.

 

Best to ignore. :D

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They check on you. They want to make sure you're still not hurt because they feel guilty for hurting you.

 

They also like the ego boost if you say "I WANT YOU BACK!" and **** like that.

 

Best to ignore. :D

 

 

I think you're right Username37, they do check on you but according to her text, I don't think it's guilt she feels. She's still very angry from the break up. She wants YOU, Capital P, to feel hurt as she still is, apparently. Looks to me she is having a harder time moving on and dealing with it. She also seems to know you'll take the abuse (via texts, etc.), she feels you deserve it. In the past, I have a feeling she agreed to meet with you and then was a "no show" just to hurt you. I don't think this behavior is unusual in break ups, I've certainly done it. She still has feelings for you but she is hurting, she wants you to be too; if she senses you're not, she'll try to make it happen. I think after seeing your pics especially, she wants to see you feel something.

 

BTW Username 37, avatar pic :)

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I think you're right Username37, they do check on you but according to her text, I don't think it's guilt she feels. She's still very angry from the break up. She wants YOU, Capital P, to feel hurt as she still is, apparently. Looks to me she is having a harder time moving on and dealing with it. She also seems to know you'll take the abuse (via texts, etc.), she feels you deserve it. In the past, I have a feeling she agreed to meet with you and then was a "no show" just to hurt you. I don't think this behavior is unusual in break ups, I've certainly done it. She still has feelings for you but she is hurting, she wants you to be too; if she senses you're not, she'll try to make it happen. I think after seeing your pics especially, she wants to see you feel something.

 

BTW Username 37, avatar pic :)

 

I think you are quite on the money with your perception.

Our history is we dated for a yr, i broke it off. She stalked me for a year, literally started college next door to me, hounded me until i start seeing her again. Then as soon as i made it official, 18 months after , she became upset and broke it off.

I then went NC, 3 months passed , we met up and got back together.

We were together for about 3 months when i had arranged to travel for work. She then stopped answering calls, ignored me and broke it off without explination. I accepted. So that was HER being a bitch. Then she found out about the age thing and called me every name under the sun.

 

So its wierd that a month ago she was that angry , now she has seen a few photos n gets in contact. I think you are right, its curiosity and because i havent hurt or done anything pussyish, and have been putting myself first, she cant handle it.

 

Half of me wants to ignore it, i was happy last week without all this. A quarter of me thinks that if she is being cool after me lying to her i should be cool back. And a third part of me is thinking this may start the pattern of us reconciling again.

Its been a week. I am goin to send a non emotional text that responds but gives her no emotional validation or indication that i miss her etc.

Or, maybe she saw the pic and is horny, im pretty sure thats what happened last time, which i dont mind tbh,

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screw her.. shes confusing, wishy washy and needs to grow up and stop playing games. It's like, if you apologize to her, she'll be rude and try to get revenge, if you don't, she'll still be rude because she wants you to feel hurt. Anyhow, let me see this pic with the shirt on when she said "good grief" LOL! jk :cool:

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