Buccaneer55 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Ok most of you know my story about being broken up with my ex girlfriend after a 5.5 year relationship. Well I've met someone who has caught my attention. We've gotten along pretty good, and I know we have a lot of the same values. I'm really wanting to ask her out casually or something and to just get to know her better, but at the same time, I haven't really tried pursuing someone in 5.5 years so I feel like I'm out of the loop on dating. I know in the end I need to just ask her, but I guess I'm looking for any tips?
grungesponge Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Nice! I'm glad to see you are recovering. Yeah, just pick something and ask her out. Even if she says no, you'll still feel better just for asking. I would just ask her out for a few drinks and take it slow, in fact don't pursue her at all at first. No pressure Good luck!
Nkognito Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Well being in Florida, you have quite the selection of places to go. Why not keep it old fashion. Treat her to lunch, chit chat, find out if she has a busy weekend. If she askes about yours, tell you you were thinking about checking out the zoo, roll solo, get some excercise, check out any new exhibit. Ask her if she wants to come along and make fun of the monekys with the giant red butts, eat stale popcorn and play top ten animals you would own if you could. The thing is, to be yourself because you are here in this forum. We are all to familar with the problems we face in today's relationships that cause us to come back here broken hearted. Don't rush, play it cool, you have been on your own for 5 years! He saying no is not turning down a date, she just might not be into that but you're not asking her flat out on a date but presenting a day to do something random. This might open the door for a real date because you two seem to be hitting it off on the friend level. I would keep it light for now but if you feel confident enough to ask her out then let her know you find her interesting/intriguing and you would like to carry on a conversation with her in a more casual environment. Just be yourself, everyone will tell you this.
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