Forum Ettiquette?

[bentnotbroken]

I'm sorry. My intention is not to re-hash previous conversations (I am new here, lol). I have a thought process like everyone else, and I am curious about the concepts being presented here.

 

Sorry if I annoyed you.

 

 

Can't annoy me, don't know you. *shrug* Made a comment on a statement I saw...nothing more, nothing less.

[on a learning curve]

Can't annoy me, don't know you. *shrug* Made a comment on a statement I saw...nothing more, nothing less.

 

I questioned what may be right or wrong, and that is what annoyed you.

Again, not meant to inflame, I do appreciate JJ's comment - that is all.

[bentnotbroken]

I questioned what may be right or wrong, and that is what annoyed you.

Again, not meant to inflame, I do appreciate JJ's comment - that is all.

 

 

Once again, not annoyed. You stated what you needed to and I responded. If you have a problem with telling when I am annoyed and when I am not...read some of my old posts.

[on a learning curve]

Once again, not annoyed. You stated what you needed to and I responded. If you have a problem with telling when I am annoyed and when I am not...read some of my old posts.

 

I have no problem with you, BnB. I commented on a post that resonated with me. We all have our thoughts -just getting mine out.

[pureinheart]

I have only read until here, and I think JJ brings an important point. This is a forum for OM/OW to discuss their relationships. It really isn't fair, or right, to come here with the implicit purpose of disrespecting the feelings of women and men in unsanctioned relationships.

 

It's what it's meant for:)...BTW, welcome to LS

[on a learning curve]

It's what it's meant for:)...BTW, welcome to LS

 

Thank you! I thought so.

[desertIslandCactus]

Can't annoy me, don't know you. *shrug* Made a comment on a statement I saw...nothing more, nothing less.

 

 

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[on a learning curve]

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I don't know what this means, but it is either disrespectful to me, or to BnB. I'm guessing to me...

[herenow]

I don't know what this means, but it is either disrespectful to me, or to BnB. I'm guessing to me...

 

You know there is a lot of good stuff that happens on this forum. Lots of good stuff in this thread. Maybe you would get more from LS if you didn't just focus on the negative. Just a thought. Take it or leave it.

[on a learning curve]

You know there is a lot of good stuff that happens on this forum. Lots of good stuff in this thread. Maybe you would get more from LS if you didn't just focus on the negative. Just a thought. Take it or leave it.

 

Good point. I am trying to stay positive. Thank you for the reminder.

[pureinheart]

Thank you! I thought so.

 

Hey you hang in there ...k... there are some nice supportive people on this forum, it won't take long to figure out who to stay away from:) ((((hugs))))

[bentnotbroken]

I have no problem with you, BnB. I commented on a post that resonated with me. We all have our thoughts -just getting mine out.

 

 

That's what the boards are for.

[anne1707]

Should I take that as you not having read even one book on the subject then?

 

That's quite an assumption (and wrong too)

 

I personally hate the fighting that sometimes goes here on LS between the BS and OW/OM. Everybody can bring something to the discussions and advice given here, including those who have never actually been in an affair. To tell posters otherwise and to keep away from certain forums is rude, disrespectful and arrogant.

[donnamaybe]

I don't like the report (alert), it's obviously used too often .. And it doesn't keep things on an evenness because those who have their finger on the 'alert' will lay and wait to report one poster - but overlook another..

You got THAT right. But... SOMETIMES that MO backfires on them.

[greengoddess]

You got THAT right. But... SOMETIMES that MO backfires on them.

 

:laugh: There seems to be a lot of new people lately too.

[jthorne]

I don't know what this means, but it is either disrespectful to me, or to BnB. I'm guessing to me...

It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant.

[jthorne]

:laugh: There seems to be a lot of new people lately too.

We should throw a welcome party!

[greengoddess]

It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant.

 

 

Yes it really makes you wonder why a new poster would think you were being disrespectful to them just because you chuckled at something.

 

and back to the topic. I think all sides of the affair need to be heard from. I often think some of the ow want to bury their head in the sand and pretend the wife does not exist and do not like the reality of a wife or even a real woman who is not a bs chiming in. Reality is the most helpful for all parties.

[jthorne]

Yes it really makes you wonder why a new poster would think you were being disrespectful to them just because you chuckled at something.

 

and back to the topic. I think all sides of the affair need to be heard from. I often think some of the ow want to bury their head in the sand and pretend the wife does not exist and do not like the reality of a wife or even a real woman who is not a bs chiming in. Reality is the most helpful for all parties.

I agree. It wasn't until I came here that it really hit home exactly what kind of pain I could have caused. It was an embarrassing and shameful wakeup call.

 

Obviously, it's not that way for those that might feel entitled to a MM, but they may have a different affairyland version of reality than do others.

 

Nevertheless, your point is well taken.

Edited October 13, 2010 by jthorne

[on a learning curve]

It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant.

 

Sorry for assuming the worst. I was in an overly-sensitive mood, last night. Thank you for your comment.

[jennie-jennie]

It wasn't meant to be disrespectful to anyone. It was a playful joke. No harm meant.

 

Yes it really makes you wonder why a new poster would think you were being disrespectful to them just because you chuckled at something.

 

Why does that make you wonder? I didn't understand it was a joke either. I too thought it was aimed at the new poster.

[jennie-jennie]

and back to the topic. I think all sides of the affair need to be heard from. I often think some of the ow want to bury their head in the sand and pretend the wife does not exist and do not like the reality of a wife or even a real woman who is not a bs chiming in. Reality is the most helpful for all parties.

 

I agree that all parties should be heard from. But I see no reason to hide own's status. Why is it found offensive that others tell your status if you don't offer that information? If others find that information relevant it must be up to them to offer it in my opinion.

 

Regarding those who have never been in an affair, their input is welcome too. It would be nice however if they showed some humility in realizing that if you have never been in a position you are missing vital information and not likely to know as much about it as those who have personal experience.

[jennie-jennie]

I agree. It wasn't until I came here that it really hit home exactly what kind of pain I could have caused. It was an embarrassing and shameful wakeup call.

 

Obviously, it's not that way for those that might feel entitled to a MM, but they may have a different affairyland version of reality than do others.

 

Nevertheless, your point is well taken.

 

Oh, I know of the pain having been a BS myself for many years. I remember not wanting to continue living. So no wakeup call needed for me.

[desertIslandCactus]

We should throw a welcome party!

 

welcome back party ?

[donnamaybe]

Regarding those who have never been in an affair, their input is welcome too. It would be nice however if they showed some humility in realizing that if you have never been in a position you are missing vital information and not likely to know as much about it as those who have personal experience.

By "show some humility" I assume that means if an AP disagrees with what we say we should bow down to their superior knowledge.

 

I'm sorry, but it just doesn't work that way. We are all entitled to our opinions, and they tend to vary. And one doesn't have to be in an A to see some things very clearly. Remember that phrase "can't see the forest for the trees?" I firmly believe it applies in A's quite often. Also, we are all adults here. I understand that children don't realize what "hot" means when we tell them not to touch the stove, and sometimes they just have to learn that for themselves the hard way. But most of us have lived long lives and seen much. Just because we haven't been personally entrenched in an A doesn't mean we haven't learned from the examples of others who have.