Men Always Call if...

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...they are interested.

 

That's conventional wisdom. Is it true. My brother is really interested in an old girlfriend (whom I liked a lot). He just found out she's single again after about 8 years of marriage and has been single for about 2 years now and is not dating (he bumped into a mutual acquaintance whom he hasn't seen forever in Walmart and found out--he won't see the acquaintance again, it was just chatting at check out).

 

Bro and the GF broke up because they went to different colleges and it petered out. It's been about 13 years since he's seen her. He wants to seen her again, talks about her a lot, but says he won't. Why won't he? Is he not really interested or is he 'shy'? He doesn't generally seem like a shy person in other areas of his life, but it's true that he works in a small engineering firm where there are only men, even the secretary. He's tried to date over the last 10 years but it's never turned out, a couple dates then nothing.

 

He's really interested in calling Stacy, but says he won't. He doesn't say why. It's his business, so after talking about it once, I won't again. But I'd love to have her in our lives again. Oh well, I'll let it go.

 

However, I wonder now, if he really isn't interested. Or is he just uncertain and feeling awkward?

 

So do men always call if they are interested?

[Mad Max]

Not necessarily. There can be many reasons the man won't call.

[Viking]

I'd say that after 8 years of marriage, she is fair game, even if he is your brother. She is an OLD ex girlfriend. Let it be, sounds like your bro could use a break.

[a_woman]

'men call if they are interested' usually applies for the beginning of dating/relationship. Once emotions are involved it's a different matter. Many (male or female) question the wisdom of calling old exes.