lubbalubba09 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 So my roommate and I were really really close when we first met. We've been through alot together and I felt that she was a friend I never wanted to lose. Towards the end of last year, things started to get really rocky for us. She has an attitude and I would never say anything about it, but soon I started to retaliate. We promised eachother that next year when we come back to school and room together, everything will be fine and we'll learn to take eachothers crap more. Everything started off good. Recently we were talking about the last argument we had. Afterwards I started to say that sometimes its hard to talk to you because you always judge, and that there somethings I dont feel I should say to you or around you. She said the same things and that she feels like she never is able to speak her mind around me, and said sometimes she felt awkward. This talk didnt make anything better, it just made things more awkward. Now heres the thing I have another friend. Love this girl to death, she's kind of in the middle. She left for three days to be home cuz of familiy issues and it was just me and my roommate, we got along soooo well. Like everything was perfect. The day she came back, was the same day we had our talk and now we're barely talking. Is she being phoney? Is she using me? Is the friendship worth saving? Should we have a talk and like have a mediator so we can settle it once and for all? Honestly we did have more great times then the bad. It's just that the few bad times we've had is affecting our friendship and is stopping us from having more good times. Advice? Is it worth saving?
Odyssey Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 People should be honest...say how they feel or what they expect, and deal with any differences. It's how you handle them that really matters! Most will compromise or one party will let it fly and tolerate it, and others will breakup. Look at the overall picture... Put simply...if you're having much more bad than good...then i don't think it's worth it. This can be applied to other parts of your life too, not only friendship/relationship.
desertIslandCactus Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Friends are like trophies .. For display only .. If one puts too much importance in them .. disappointment..
vampirkat Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I tried to save friendships, but if they don't want to work on it, cut em loose. i'm sick of the phonies i seem to attract. i'm trying so hard to be friendly to others and make friends, but i can't find anyone that's truthful, honest, and respectful. i'm truthful, honest, and respectful, so why can't i find others like me? it's worthless, all a sham. it's getting to the point where i cry myself to sleep in frustration. maybe i need to move away or something.
desertIslandCactus Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I tried to save friendships, but if they don't want to work on it, cut em loose. i'm sick of the phonies i seem to attract. i'm trying so hard to be friendly to others and make friends, but i can't find anyone that's truthful, honest, and respectful. i'm truthful, honest, and respectful, so why can't i find others like me? it's worthless, all a sham. it's getting to the point where i cry myself to sleep in frustration. maybe i need to move away or something. Get into creative endeavors. Try not to take people seriously, or expect too much from them .. Do your own thing.
Author lubbalubba09 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 I know that cutting her off could definatly be an option but also literally me and this girl talk about almost everything and we've spent late nights just talking and crying together. I just dont understand why we got along so perfectly those three days and the minute our other friend came back I became invisible. It was never like that before. It was always the three of us. Like no one felt left out, everyone spoke their minds, or atleast i thought in her case. People use to ask fot one of us when one wasnt around. Now people are use to just seeing them two together. Lately I've been trying to do my own thing. I just basically get to my classes, study in the library, anything to just busy myself while the two if them do w.e. just because the thing that use to be our thing became their thing. I guess I just want my best friend back and I want everything to be the way it use to be and it's honestly hard...
desertIslandCactus Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 I know that cutting her off could definatly be an option but also literally me and this girl talk about almost everything and we've spent late nights just talking and crying together. I just dont understand why we got along so perfectly those three days and the minute our other friend came back I became invisible. It was never like that before. It was always the three of us. Like no one felt left out, everyone spoke their minds, or atleast i thought in her case. People use to ask fot one of us when one wasnt around. Now people are use to just seeing them two together. Lately I've been trying to do my own thing. I just basically get to my classes, study in the library, anything to just busy myself while the two if them do w.e. just because the thing that use to be our thing became their thing. I guess I just want my best friend back and I want everything to be the way it use to be and it's honestly hard... You will turn out to be the strongest and most well grounded .. There's no reward for those who reject others.
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