PetePete25 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Hello folks, I figured that getting some advice and opinions from some fellow daters would be beneficial as I feel somewhat lost.. I am a professional working male who met this chic on match.com. Last night was date three in which we went to an art show earlier on the day and went goKarting towards the evening. The date went really well for the most part, there always seemed to be conversation and we had a good time. She is really shy and very conservative in her mannerisms, which really attracted me to her to be honest. Last night I tried holding her hands and she said shed rather not, I sort of let it go and decided I wouldn't have it ruin our evening. Later that night as I was taking her home, I casually brought up the topic of us dating and weather we should continue ? I told her that I really liked being around her but it takes two ? Her response was that she loves hanging out as well but not sure if she's ready for a relationship and she understood if that would make me not want to c her anymore. I hugged her out of the car and she left.. I was thinking of emailing her being honest and telling her that I have plenty of friends and I'm looking for something more. If she wasn't ready or interested then I'd pretty much not see the point to continue going out ? Does that make sense or maybe I should act differently ? Thanks Pete
Str8noChaser Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I was thinking of emailing her being honest and telling her that I have plenty of friends and I'm looking for something more. If she wasn't ready or interested then I'd pretty much not see the point to continue going out ? Does that make sense or maybe I should act differently ? Thanks Pete That's the perfect direction. You've been on 3 dates, You are attracted to her. You want more. She hemmed a bit in her reply (could be playing coy/could be disinterested). By you asking her to make a choice on her feelings and where she sees things going with you, give you the information you need as to whether or not you stick around or you move on. I've told women that seemed on the fence what my intentions were and the ones that only saw me as a friend, when that's clearly what I wasn't after, I thanked for their time, but moved on.
Author PetePete25 Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 What gets me is the fact that the whole time she has hinted about doing things together. We talked about Disneyland as we drove by a billboard of it and she asked if i wanted to go sometime, we saw some dudes fishing and she said she would like to go and i said that would be awesome... Its so damn confusing.. Pete
neophreak Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Look at her actions. Her talking about doing things together may just be a friendly gesture. My money is on her having other options at this point... And the bit about not being ready and understandable if you don't want to see her, that's your cue to exit.
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