jmurphy Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Ill cut to the point.. basicaly me and my ex split up about 4 month ago.. it ended quite abruptly. She basically jumped into another relationship quite soon after and dont get me wrong i was heartbroken. now i went down the "no contract" route to get her out of my system.. shes not contacted me either and from what i can gather shes happy with this other guy.. Ive not seen her since the break up or heard from her... Until last night.. i went to a bar with a few friends (male) and i noticed she was there with her new bf.. i didnt stare at her or talk just carried on with my night with my friends. she walked past me on her own and bumped her shoulder into me i had my back to her.. and kept walking to the toilet i didnt do anything nor did i acknowledge her.. why she doing this?? obviously she tried to get my attention and trying to rub it in my face i think i dunno? just wanted some outside views really... maybe she didnt mean to and im reading into it... many thanks
Ella whispers Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 She wanted attention. Doesn't sound like a crazy ex to me.
rk369 Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 And now that she saw you aren't going to fawn over her, I'm betting you'll be getting some sort of contact from her....soon. She obviously still wants your attention. If I was in her shoes and not interested in you, not only would I NOT do what she did, I would take my new boyfriend and go somewhere else.
Author jmurphy Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 Thanks... I will never understand women! She's moved on why still try torment me!
Trovador Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 It might be that they don't take it as serious as the other party... after a hideous fight or a break, next day my ex always patted me or playfully pushed or hit me... she didn't want to reconcile or something... she did it because she didn't give a damn about the whole thing...
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 UPDATE!! So RK369 you was right.. i have received a txt message about 30 mins ago.... "Thankyou for making me realise how much of a player you are! Just Like your Friends! " This makes no sence what so ever and im far from a player! Ive not responded and i dont think i intend to? any thoughts?
hardlover Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 she just wants to get your attention, see if she can still get you. As long as she doesnt know you will get her, she will be interested, but if if you show slighest interest,she will walk away again. replies where she will walk away, if thats what you want: 1 i miss you, can we meet up some day? 2 ive thought about you, can we meet up some day 3 what is it that you want(very high chance that she doesnt reply) if you want her interests 2 ohhhh i miss you so damn hard, i cant live without you, can you pleeeeeeaaaaase come back she knows you are sarcastic, and you mock her. Perfect.... e
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 hmmm.. im not sure if not replying will annoy her more?
hardlover Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 (edited) hmmm.. im not sure if not replying will annoy her more? well, in that case you show that you are hurt and that may satisfie her ego, and she wont follow after you. my message will tell her that you are cool, you are mocking her, you are sarcastic, it tells so many things. she will definately respond to that, mainly because you are mocking her, and you are doing it in a skillfulled way,without showing insecurity. Then tell her after she respond to your answer: well i would love to date you again baby that will frustrate her hahahaha because considering your first reply, she wont know whether you are serious or not, so she may say, well ok, lets say tomorrow 9 o clock, and she may say this just because she wanna test. YOu should not accept her offer but offer: well, if you want, yo can come to my place 12 o clock. with only lingeries. if she reject: ohhh how bad. Have a nice day. if she comes, you should try to have sex with her immediately, and do it really rough. When you kick her out, and ignore her. hahaha if it would go that smooth, man she is owned. Edited October 12, 2010 by hardlover
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 lol im sure she will see straight through that.. but thanks for your response! i dont think ive herd the last from her!
porter218 Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 UPDATE!! So RK369 you was right.. i have received a txt message about 30 mins ago.... "Thankyou for making me realise how much of a player you are! Just Like your Friends! " This makes no sence what so ever and im far from a player! Ive not responded and i dont think i intend to? any thoughts? lol. She is crying for attention. This is pretty humorous of her. Your response should be " You're welcome.... "
andelemamy Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 don't bother responding... saying nothing says a lot more trust me.
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 I've not responded but I feel this will annoy her nobody likes to be ignored! Why she want my attention she has a new relationship
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 I've not responded but I feel this will annoy her nobody likes to be ignored! Why she want my attention she has a new relationship
ShannonMI Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 Ill cut to the point.. basicaly me and my ex split up about 4 month ago.. it ended quite abruptly. She basically jumped into another relationship quite soon after and dont get me wrong i was heartbroken. now i went down the "no contract" route to get her out of my system.. shes not contacted me either and from what i can gather shes happy with this other guy.. Ive not seen her since the break up or heard from her... Until last night.. i went to a bar with a few friends (male) and i noticed she was there with her new bf.. i didnt stare at her or talk just carried on with my night with my friends. she walked past me on her own and bumped her shoulder into me i had my back to her.. and kept walking to the toilet i didnt do anything nor did i acknowledge her.. why she doing this?? obviously she tried to get my attention and trying to rub it in my face i think i dunno? just wanted some outside views really... maybe she didnt mean to and im reading into it... many thanks She wants your attention. She wants you to be jealous of her and her new relationship. Good for you that you did not give her the satisfaction! You went about your business and ignored her. She was annoyed by that. Also, that text she sent you was ridiculous. She's so transparent! Calling you a player because you ignored her. How pathetic! Shes thrown for a loop because you acted like you didn't give a sh*t about her new man. Good for you! I get nervous when I go out now because I'm afraid I'm going to run into my ex and his new woman. If it happens I will most likely take a page from your book and ignore them. Or I'll just leave.
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 thanks! i too was dreading seeing her.. maybe it was the beers but it didnt bother me as much as i thought it would. dont get me wrong it made my heart skip a beat and i had butterflys but i just sucked it up.. im not a nasty person and would never do anything to hurt even an ex like you said shes very transparent.. when i got the txt i knew she was trying to get a rise out of me... not replying however will i think will anger her and i will receive more messages.. also i find myself thinking this isnt good for her new bf with her texting an ex certainly wouldnt like it, obviously he doesnt know and i wouldnt ever tell him as it will make me look bad. Sounds silly but i kinda feel bad for the guy a little!
ShannonMI Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 No, her new boyfriend probably wouldn't like it. My ex sent me a text a few weeks ago asking if I was ok. Of course I didn't respond and I have no intention of EVER responding or contacting him again. He's dating someone else and I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate him contacting me. We dated for 8 years so we have a lot of history together. If I was her I would freak if my new boyfriend was trying to contact his ex of 8 years. She's a skank, I've heard, so maybe it wouldnt bother her much. Whatever! Anyways, don't respond to your ex's text messages. She'll be squirming when you don't reply.
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 im sure it will.. id not like being ignored.. even if she is trying to strike a conversation with me she has gone about it all the wrong way! the text made no sence at all.... shes the one with a new bf! im just a single guy out with my male friends and im a player?? WTF??
ShannonMI Posted October 12, 2010 Posted October 12, 2010 im sure it will.. id not like being ignored.. even if she is trying to strike a conversation with me she has gone about it all the wrong way! the text made no sence at all.... shes the one with a new bf! im just a single guy out with my male friends and im a player?? WTF?? Yea don't even respond to her nonsense. She is trying to get you to react. Not responding is the best way to go. She'll sit and wonder why you aren't giving her the time of day.
Author jmurphy Posted October 12, 2010 Author Posted October 12, 2010 yeah its too late to reply now.. i wont be replying.. certainly not this time.. we shall see what tommorow brings!
ShannonMI Posted October 13, 2010 Posted October 13, 2010 yeah its too late to reply now.. i wont be replying.. certainly not this time.. we shall see what tommorow brings! Don't reply to ANYTHING she sends you. Unless of course it says something along the lines of: "leave me alone" or "f*ck off" I was tempted to send the F off reply, but I didn't. I honestly think the best reply is no reply. It's like you aren't giving them anything. That's what they deserve. Nothing
Author jmurphy Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 well its been nearly a week since all of this from the ex.. thankfully ive not herd anything since the text which i ignored, so maybe shes packed it in! i was talking to a friend last night whos gf is mutual friends with her on facebook.. obviously i dont want to know what shes up to ect.. he told his gf what she had said in the text as he was out with me that night also. she said that shes put things like this is the happiest ive ever been bla bla on facebook and stuff like if its love it will happen one day ect.. ive asked all mutual friends to remove her.. my sister is friends but i dont check up on her or anything i think shes playing to them via facebook im not sure who knows! i hate facebook!! haha
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