Krisha Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Almost everyone has gone through a heartbreak. But I believe there are ways to avoid them. I understand it's difficult to since we get so caught up in the moment. But what things can you do and in what ways can you avoid a heartbreak? My number one way is to be emotionally independent. I do not believe you should seek happiness in a man. By being emotionally independent and not relying on a guy to tell you how to feel, you are more confident which promotes high self-esteem and self-worth. If a guy does something undeserving, you can walk away with your head held high and your heart intacted. Do you agree? What are other ways?
Knittress Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 You can't avoid a broken heart - it happens to everyone. And even by some freak coincidence you were THAT lucky in love... well, I'm not sure that's a good thing because you'd know know far less about the human experience than the rest of us. You made some good suggestions about being your own person - great! I've seen folks go the other way though and let this attitude cripple their ability to be intimate with someone else. You can't really open up to someone unless you're willing to tear down some of those walls.
alclarkey Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 The only way to avoid a broken heart is to not have one. Just don't have any feelings for anyone, and you won't get hurt. In this case, the cure is worse than the disease.
callingyouuu Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Krisha, I agree with you in the initial stages, when you don't really know the other person yet. Even so, you're going to have to risk heartbreak if you want a true relationship with someone. Would you really want to dedicate the rest of your life with a guy who you don't trust with your emotions?
Author Krisha Posted October 11, 2010 Author Posted October 11, 2010 I do agree that it is worse to never open up your heart at all than to open it and take the risk of getting hurt. I guess what I meant was, there are ways to lessen the chances of getting your heart broken. What are some of those ways?
True Love Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 To expect to get hurt, then when it happens you won't feel as bad; but obviously you can't live your life expecting.
callingyouuu Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I think what you're looking for is less being necessarily emotionally independent and more just spending time doing the things you love. Your other passions sort of become a safety net. It might be your career, spending time with your family, volunteering in the community, just other stuff that makes you genuinely happy and that you wouldn't give up for anything. Especially not for a guy. No matter what happens in any relationship, you'll always have these little things in life to come back to, and just having that makes you feel a lot more secure about taking the plunge.
annie_gordon_PI Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Being emotionally independent is something that you can do to lessen the impact of a broken heart, but i don't think anything will prevent one. Once you're in love and the relationship goes sour, its gonna hurt no matter how much you prepare for it.
denise_xo Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Almost everyone has gone through a heartbreak. But I believe there are ways to avoid them. I understand it's difficult to since we get so caught up in the moment. But what things can you do and in what ways can you avoid a heartbreak? My number one way is to be emotionally independent. I do not believe you should seek happiness in a man. By being emotionally independent and not relying on a guy to tell you how to feel, you are more confident which promotes high self-esteem and self-worth. If a guy does something undeserving, you can walk away with your head held high and your heart intacted. Do you agree? What are other ways? I agree with you to a certain point, but the beauty of love is really to open your heart and soul and give yourself away to someone else. That is by definition a risky endeavor. The question then is not so much how to avoid the risk, but whether you want to take it and under what circumstances. Everything in life comes at a price, and sometimes it's worth paying. If the risk of heart break wasn't there, we also wouldn't appreciate love as much as we do.
waynebrady Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Women don't need to worry about getting a broken heart. That happen's extremley rarely for women. It's almost always the man who initiates the relationship, so How can a woman get a broken heart if it was the man who initiated the relationship?
Anela Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Women don't need to worry about getting a broken heart. That happen's extremley rarely for women. It's almost always the man who initiates the relationship, so How can a woman get a broken heart if it was the man who initiated the relationship? Are you serious? Why do you feel that way? I've had my heart broken in the past year.
waynebrady Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 Are you serious? Why do you feel that way? I've had my heart broken in the past year. If the man initiates the relationship and puts in all the effort that means he likes the woman more than the woman likes the man. She wouldn't be as hurt if he ended it as he would if she ended it, makes sense? In pretty much all relationships it's the man who initiates it and puts in all the effort, and it's almost always the woman who ends it. So how can a woman get a broken heart if it was the guy who initiated the relationship and it was she who ended it?
Pyro Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 If the man initiates the relationship and puts in all the effort that means he likes the woman more than the woman likes the man. She wouldn't be as hurt if he ended it as he would if she ended it, makes sense? In pretty much all relationships it's the man who initiates it and puts in all the effort, and it's almost always the woman who ends it. So how can a woman get a broken heart if it was the guy who initiated the relationship and it was she who ended it? Not sure where you get the notion that men do all the work. Women get a broken heart too because they as well invest their emotions into the relationship.
Pyro Posted October 11, 2010 Posted October 11, 2010 I do agree that it is worse to never open up your heart at all than to open it and take the risk of getting hurt. I guess what I meant was, there are ways to lessen the chances of getting your heart broken. What are some of those ways? The only way really would be to have an ongoing relationship where you spend the rest of your life with that one person. Other than that any break up will involve some degree of a broken heart. There is just no way around it.
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